Meet my new friend, Alfie.

Alfie the bear - A bear I have just adopted.
@liquorice (3887)
January 22, 2009 9:44am CST
Somebody bought this lovely bear for my daughter's birthday, but she sadly rejected him!In fact she's never shown any interest in teddy bears, dolls or soft toys. She would much rather play with inanimate objects. Earlier today she was sitting under the table with 12 cupcake cases. She was talking to them, pretending that they were the children in her class. She was mainly telling them off and bossing them around; I suspect that this is probably a good reflection of reality . She also enjoys talking to toilet roll holders and newspapers. I'm not usually into teddies either, having outgrown them a little while ago, lol! But this one just looks so raggedy and sweet (and well, abandoned!), that I couldn't resist him. So I have adopted him! He is nice to cuddle and so soft. And I was holding him the other day while I was watching TV, and my daughter told me in her 'angry' voice "You're not his mummy, you're MY mummy!" This made me a feel a little guilty, a bit like I'd just had another child without telling her .. So, do you think I should ditch the bear? Are you into soft toys, dolls or teddies? Do you think it's a bit strange when grown adults cuddle bears or, like some people I've heard of, have a closet full of soft toys - that belong to them, rather than their children!?
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
22 Jan 09
My B and SIL have no children, are in their forties and have a collection of over a hundred soft toys. Each day one or other of them goes into town, gets into trouble and generally has an adventure. On day when they were visiting us I found a 4' brown bear in the lounge! They had seen him outside a shop and bought him because he wanted to travel! He's in Singapore at the moment. He may move up to Kuala Lumpur later this year to stay with another relation. This is beyond weird in my opinion. However, I see no problem with an adult cuddling a stuffed animal. The Boss does it to me quite frequently!
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@liquorice (3887)
22 Jan 09
Wow! Do you mean that one of the soft toys goes into town, gets into trouble and has an adventure, or your B&SIL? I like the idea of the travelling 4' bear. It's nice that they send him on adventures, I suppose.. He does sound incredibly well-travelled. Lol @ the Boss cuddling her stuffed animal!
@p1kef1sh (45681)
22 Jan 09
The toy has the adventures. Quite often they have an adult with them. One bear is extremely foul mouthed, my SIL who was an actress and then moved into TV does his voice for him and then has to apologise if he has upset anyone. Not us of course. We just tell him to go away! As I said, it's beyond weird. A whole load of them went by container to Singapore. I'm surprised the ship didn't sink!
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@liquorice (3887)
23 Jan 09
Lol! I love the idea of a foul-mouthed bear. I bet he also has a drinking problem. Don't know why, I just have a feeling about him, lol! I also like how you just tell the bear to go away (or I bet your language might get a bit stronger than that, he he!
• United States
23 Jan 09
I have to say... this one made me laugh. About 3 three years my husband spent an hour at the local toy store picking out what he though was the perfect doll for my niece. He was excited to hand it to her Christmas Day. She opened it and immediately handed it to her mother saying that she "hated it". He was devistated. Now we just laugh at the whole thing.
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@liquorice (3887)
23 Jan 09
Ah, that is sad! I think I would have felt the same way if that had happened to me a while ago. But since having my child, I've learnt how fickle and fussy they can be, and they really don't have any concept of the effort that goes into choosing present for them (or the cost...). So when buying something for a child it's always best to keep the receipt, and to know that it might be a risk. And even if they love a certain one day, they might not want to play with it the next day - or vice versa!
@liquorice (3887)
23 Jan 09
Oops, made a few typos there.. I meant to say, "even if they love a certain toy one day.." (sorry!)
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
23 Jan 09
You please enjoy the lovely bear, it is a good source of comfort and solace and will give you company, as and when you need it.
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
22 Jan 09
Alfie, is beautiful, please do not ditch him/her. I love stuffed bears, I have over one hundred of them. My husband is very tolerate with me and my bears. When we go to build a bear, the people there think we are purchasing a bear for our children, but they are always for me. Actually, one year I bought a Pooh for my Goddaughter, needless to say, she never got it, Pooh is now part of my collection on my shelf.
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@liquorice (3887)
25 Jan 09
I'm glad you think he's beautiful, I do too! Wow, you have quite a collection there, and I love the ones in your profile picture. I just saw build-a-bear recently when we went to Hamley's in London. It seems like a sweet idea. Yes, it seems that it would be a difficult task for your to buy a bear for somebody else, lol! It would be a bit like me trying to buy chocolate for somebody else.
• United States
23 Jan 09
I have had a pee wee herman doll since I was a little girl you know the ones that you pull the string and it talked well I always left him sitting on the back of my couch and my daughter was Jelouse of it that one day when I wasnt home and the BF was she got a hold of it and ripped the arm off of him it broke my heart since then he is missing his pants and all and the string dont work no more she just beats him up now lol and I do not think it is strange at all it a part of who we are our past and our inner child I to have a small collection of toys from way back and I still buy betty boop stuff for my self she rocks! No need to give alfie up hes yours now!