Confused! Advice needed! Parents Vs. Me...

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My mom married my step-dad when I was a year and a half, so he raised me. She and my biological father got into a spat during her pregnancy, and she cut him off completely, even from me. She tried to "erase" him by marrying this other guy. However, she failed to realize that while she is caucasian like her husband, my father is mexican. And unfortunately for her, I am a spitting image of my father. Naturally, I knew something wasn't right and figured things out on my own as a kid. Once I met my father, Mark, behind my parents' back, I was actually relieved b/c while my step dad and I would be cool for a little while, overall, he was really mean to me when my mom wasn't around. It was only in front of her that he acted like he gave a poop. My mom being a lot younger than him and naive, never noticed and wouldn't listen to me when I'd tell her. Anyway, as the years went by, they (my parents) did nothing but fight with each other. My step dad was horrible to my mom and my mom was an alcoholic and took his verbal abuse. He tried for years to get his company up and running to no avail. At one point, after 20 years, it started to take off but was soon shot down. That's really the only job he's had since they've been together! My mom has always been the one to work! She joked about calling herself a "functioning alcoholic" b/c she's a stellar employee! Anyway, so this guy lets my mom work herself to death throughout the years. Once I got the chance I moved out to get away from him and his bullcrap. I felt bad for leaving my mom b/c she was so unhappy but too brainwashed to leave. When I got pregnant with my son I moved back with them to help out. As I had done for years, I continued to encourage her to leave this butthole and she finally did. She got back together with my real father! Sadly, it only worked out for about 2 years and then she went back to my step father. Since then it's been the same old crap! He stays home and does nothing, well, he pretends to be getting his business up and running, and she works. At one point in time, they were so poor all my mom could afford was a crappy motel room, so I had them move in with me. That was 4 years ago. I have been trying so hard to break away (I am 26 and a single mom of a 6.5 yr old) and my step dad absolutely uses my son as a weapon to stay and plays my kid against me. I have finally decided I need to move to my granddad's house in Savannah, GA. I currently live in Orlando, FL. I feel like if I don't get away from this crazy lifestyle now, I never will. I told my mom my decision the other day and she acted like she was OK with it but I know she's not. And I haven't told him b/c I know he's going to put thoughts into my son's head and try to confuse him into not wanting to go and make him turn on me. (My lease is up in March and originally I was going to move some friends into my house and my step dad made Roman feel soooo bad about them moving out that I had to cancel it b/c Roman couldn't handle that thought and would say things like he wanted to live with Papa and NOT me!!) The more I think about this the more I feel like I AM doing the right thing by getting away. I'm just scared. And I know he's going to totally freak out and I'm scared about that too. My step dad always has this way of throwing in my face everything they have ever done for me and makes me feel like a terrible, ungrateful daughter for wanting to live on my own with my son. They need to live on their own! I'm sorry that it's hard to live alone, but he should be working! My mom works! Why can't he? But I swear, he's such a manipulator that he can twist things around to make me feel horrible and make me think that I am wrong for thinking like this!Am I doing the right thing in your eyes?