people fade away when you are in trouble?....

Hi twinklee! That is so true. Have been in the lowest point in my life and all those so called friends of mine disappeared. But I am blessed that somehow I have a few more who have always been there for me in all the seasons of my life. Take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith210

yeah its really true, friends are just there if you have money, if you are there in times of their trouble, BUT... if you are in trouble, you cannot hear from them, nor wants to help you.. what ive said is based on my experienced. that's why right now, i am very careful and choosy of having friends,.. because it hurts knowing that you have friends, and you expect that they comfort you or help you,... whew! well maybe they were thinking that, they have their own problem also, and why bothering helping other people.. and i understand it also..

I agree that there are people will fade away when you are in need of help. I have lots of friends but few are considered real and true friends. People may sometimes like you and pretend that you can count on them but when problem comes they will just disappear.

Its very few who will come to your help in times of difficulties. So, just dont expect people to help and when they do, you feel good. Another point id like to make is that whenever you meet friends, dont start whinning about your problems. When one constantly is complaining or whinning, friends disappear and I dont blame them. They know of your problem if told once. If they want to help, they will. By constantly drawing their attention to your problems will only create negative vibes . The law of nature states people are attracted to happy people only. so be happy, even if it kills you. good luck.

I agree with you 100%.This is the case for most of the people and i have heard so many people talking about such kind of situations and even myself have been affected by some colleagues of ma class.They just share me ma happy times and experience al ot of good things and helps from me.The moment if they find that am drowning down over,They escape from me very cleverly.Really,it's difficult to find good people all over in this world.I hardly found three whom i rely the most.Others are just for namesake,they are ma friends where,truly,they are ma companions

it is sad but it is true.most friends are there when it is fair weather but once you get into storm most run for cover leaving you alone...hahaha!it takes a lifetime to really know who your true friends are come hell or high water...that's why we should value those who have stood by us through the years..but for sure they are just a handful...many have left just because you are down..the real ones will even try to put you up again..

what you didn,t know you have a lot of friends when you are doing good but get in trouble and need them they are no where to be found.i learn this many years ago how people are.i find that many who profess to be your friend is not your friend you can quickly find this out when you need them.sorry you had to experience it as well.

the last few months have been extremely trying for my husband and i. we were trying to buy a home. every step of the way there was some obstacle. we used friends and family to bounce our frustration off of them. we both lost our jobs due to building closure. we used our friends to try and find new jobs and network constantly to help each other. friends should want to be there. they should want to help take on some of the burden. they should bother you will crazy phone calls and emails about anything they think you might find interesting. if they fade... they were never really your friend. just hold on to the ones that stayed there. hold them tightly they are special, trust me.

I'm always so nice to people, always try to help my friends in every way possible, but when I need help it's like none of them care. I don't understand why people do this. Like i lended some money to a good friend of mine when she needed it, and now she got a job and she's doing good but she won't pay me back, and keeps hiding from me! She ended our friendship just so she wouldn't have to pay me back, I'm very mad!