My brilliant relationship observation for the day

wow, yes.. in that case.. but i'm not sure that she's being negative.. taht really is a whole lot of bad things happening to her all at once.. my complaints and negativities are much much less severe then that. .

There are always exceptions. My cousin just lost her father to cancer right after she split with her husband and then a car fell on her son and he is recovering from a spinal injury. Far as I'm concerned, if she wants to be negative she has every right!

Mine too!

I'm loony... Actually part of my problem is that I moved up here to Sacramento 3 years ago and haven't really made any friends here. But I've made a lot of good friends online. Still I need to get offa my butt and make more effort to meet people who are local.

soon as I get offa this boring conference call...

Alright Dawn, Well, you said it get off your bottom and get moving! No more taking the easy road out for you.

Thank you, but, for me, I won't be looking for a new relationship anytime too soon! lol, after 3 divorces and now this, what I thought was 'the one'. If it happens fine, but I won't be looking for anyone anytime in the near future.

I'm going to bet that you are an exception to my little rule. But yes if only one person is working on it, it just isn't going to work. Hope you find something that works better for you!

i'm finding you can feel better about a problem if you can talk about it. that's why user names is really good, we don't know who each other are in a sense. then we can come here for help. it's a long story on what's gone over the few yrs and things are only getting worse at times. if i was writing a blog i wouldn't mention family problems, just the funny stuff that happens in the day to day life. like i can tell you what my partner is up to, i've given up on my work mate and figihting over the issue. i get up earlier for work and nearly finished by the time my partner get out of bed to go milk his parents cows. i usually go over and help finish off their milking. i used to fight this a bit with my work mate but now just join him, in seeing who's right on if my partner is still at home and i've got to help milk their cows as well. (the dairy i work at is about 1km from where my house is) that is getting really annoying, my partner sleeps in 99% of the time, don't ask why, cause he's just being lazy. we don't know for sure, his parents are sick of putting up with his crap.cause come school time i'm not wanting to have to milk a full milking, and be in a rush to get my son ready for school. like yesterday morning, i finished work and got home, hes still in bed. my son was outside playing. so i walk in and wake him up and i get i'm sick and have been spewing. thing is there's never any evidence of any sick around the place, so i just walk out the door and leave with my son. i get over to the farm and have to go to his parents house to get his dad so he can feed the cows, and i milk. his mum says to me isn't .. up there? i said being sarastic she's got more of a chance of having a heart attack then ... being up the dairy. so she comes up to help me, my father inlaw then goes over to my place to wake my partner up. then everything errupts from there. my partner was a pain in the butt all morning, and being nothing but rude to all of us. thing is it taking it's toll on my son, he's starting to back chat and yelling at me. i'm not having a good time at the moment with him. especially if we're at the farm or home and he doesn't want to do something. but he's good if we go over to my mums place. can any one help on what i should do, my partners parents are also sick of the behaviour they cop of him, it just so frustrating how do you walk.

How do you walk away from an 8 year relationship with a child involved? I guess you first do whatever possible to work it out. But if you can't work it out and you're unhappy, surely the child is going to sense that. Sometimes the children are better off when the parents split. Just depends...

But what I'm getting at is that people who don't talk about the spouse at all, but talk about everybody else under the sun may have problems that they aren't comfortable talking about.

Well just because somebody doesn't talk about the spouse, doesn't mean their marriage is in trouble. But probably if the person is blogging about anything and everything in their life but the spouse gets no mention, there is something wrong there.

I gotcha. Sounds about right.

I agree that it's not good to be too public about private details. Better to work things out in private. I'm just saying that when you blog about things publicly and the spouse gets no mention whatsoever, good or bad, it could be an indication that there's a problem!

Yep I have seen some on here that talk about the spouse when the relationship is really bad. But in that case, I think myLot was her place to come and vent and seek advice. I also think the spouse didn't really give a hoot...

I guess denial is another possibility. Those are the ones where you think everything is wonderful and then suddenly they're splitting up and nobody who wasn't close to it ever had a clue!

I do write personal blogs but they are about funny things the children do and funny memories and things that I want to share with the family and friends who are online. But I wouldn't be blogging about any really personal details good or bad. I just think that if somebody is in your life, and you blog about your life, and the person never, ever gets so much as a mention, it could be an indication that there is something wrong with that relationship.

I agree, but I wasn't really talking about communication with the spouse. I'm just saying that if you are blogging about your life and you never, ever mention the spouse, there is a possibility that it's because there is a problem there.

Happens a lot! And glad your relationship is ok! :-)

could just be they're very private about things, but it could be an indication...

I think perhaps the ones who want to keep things private, keep most everything private. I'm thinking of people who talk about their lives, their children, etc. but the spouse is never or almost never mentioned.

It's probably way too general. Some people are just really private. But I do think that a person who writes a lot of personal blogs about themselves, their children and other family members, but complete omits mentioning the spouse, might be having some problems.