Feel the Pain Inside.........

I feel your pain. The pain comes from the betrayal and his intention of not telling you the truth. No matter how we love a person, we could only take enough. talk to him and be straightforward. If you aren't satisfied with what he would say then it would be best to let him go. We can't keep a person whose heart belongs to somebody else. this will also do yourself a favor. Love yourself and give yourself the pride,love and dignity it deserves.

Hi there Mods, As you've already articulated so well love hurts! Love is an experience common to us all and it is indeed very painful. In your posting you describe feeling the pain deeply inside to the core of your being, and finding it hard to breathe, and just feeling utterly heartbroken. However, even though it hurts tremendously and we are betrayed by someone we care for, I am a firm believer that it is better to love and risk being hurt, than to never take the risk to love another. I too have had to say goodbye, to people as they come and go throughout my life for whatever reason. Some of those we love leave us when they die others come into our lives for only a short time. Someone once said to me, the sadness that you feel of the loss of another, is a true symbol of the amount of love you are able to feel and express. I believe that it is better to care for someone deeply and hurt terribly when they are no longer in my life, then to protect myself from that loss and hurt by never allowing myself to be a close and vulnerable with anyone again. Love hurts, but when it does I know, that I am living my life to the fullest and taking the risk to love, even if I may get hurt in the end. I think love is definitely worth the risk. That's just my 2¢ worth happy Mylotting!

I know the pain, it is as if it come from inside deep from the heart....... I just want to give you some hugs...

yes i too get pain some time but could not expose it now.

Hi to you my friend mods, I know how devastated you feel at the moment. Maybe for now you have to open what you really feel and whats inside your mind to him. To lesser the pain my friend. That is unfair and ouch! I feel you love him so much, but you also have to think of yourself. I wont expect too much if I were in your situation. Now you know where you stand. It's a nightmare, if he loves you he will explain and try to win you back. It's just up to you if you will let go. I know letting go especially6 when you love that person it's not easy. Or maybe try to go out and think, what is best for you. Getting hurt now, or getting hurt later. Love sometimes is no conditions, sometimes you just embrace the feeling of getting hurt. Think once, twice, or a thousand times. What is important is to go on with life. Cry it out if you want too, it's not you who has a problem it's him. You take care my friend! God be with you! God will make a way mods!

This is sad, and I feel sorry for you. Although you looked in his private e-mail (which is disrespectful and even illegal... kinda), he was dishonest and that is really bad in a relationship. I suppose you are monogamous, so he would have to choose between you and her. My humble advice (even if I'm not experienced) would be to get him spent much more time with you. Maybe take on a vacation for a week or two. Try to do your best so he will be reminded of the good times and for the reason he chose you in the first place. This way he might forget about that girl and the passion between you two might be relighted. Most of the time this is the reason why some people want to meet other persons and make the mistake of not telling their partners, because they don't want to hurt them. But look dishonesty has done to you, so that's not a good idea. I say you should be optimistic, I'm pretty sure it will turn out ok ;)

Hello, mods. Life would be so better if you could stay close to the loved ones. However, you can live on your own. You will survive without him, and let him know that. Don't leave him space to have pity on you. That is the worst thing you would want him to feel. It would probably make him lie to you about his feelings, because he doesn't want to cause you harm. It will just makes things harder. Now, if he is with another lady, or if he has really lied to you, just break the relationship instead of waiting for him to do it. You know, your heart hurts for somebody, and there might be another person crying in the night because you don't love him. Love is out there. It will get you, eventually. As long as you can let go of those who don't love you. A great friend said that you must let go of those who don't want you, in order to be able to get what life has for you. Perspectives. Respectfully, Munhozmib.

i pity you for having to experience something like that and that was face to face betrayal. what a really sad event. hope that you are doing fine now. however if you compare something like that to losing someone and the fact that you won't be able to see that person through a lifetime, what would you choose? a break up, or losing (what i mean of losing is..."passed away") someone? i do think that a broken hurt can still get over to the person in the soonest possible time, it maybe a traumatic relationship but it can be cured by someone that will someday knock into your door. while a person who had experienced losing someone will take more than just someone to be cured at all. losing someone also includes the pain, suffering, being hurt and most especially the grieving process and thats what made the matter worst. everything happens for a reason, and for whatever reason it maybe, i am pretty sure that someday soon, there will be someone that will bring back the smile in your face, the person who will never make you cry, the person that will be the world for you.good luck!aja!