Your realize when it's over.
By Lore2009
@Lore2009 (7378)
United States
January 23, 2009 12:45pm CST
Have you had a time when the relationship ended and you realize all that was 'wrong' about the person when you look back at the relationship? I was cleaning my room out and found some essays my ex had written. Just by reading his essay showed how uneducated he was and he didn't have any grammar skills at all. There was also a paper he got from school that talked about how to have a good attitude. He was learning about all these important things and his bad attitude was ended the relationship. Why was the guy even going for school for? Anyways, I felt like I was playing the role of Marji from the movie Persepolis after she broke up with her 1st bf. Have you had a similar experience?
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@explorations (1712)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Yes, I've been through this and follow that old addage -- hind sight is 20/20. I've been in at least two relationships that, while in the moment it felt good, but afterwards I was left with, "what was I thinking?" type thoughts. It's amazing how clear everything is once it's over.
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@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
24 Jan 09
how do you walk away? is my question, my partner of nearley 8 yrs, is becoming a real pain, i can see your point very well. he's just now being a pain in the butt, i told him he could go a few weeks back cause of his attuide, but got now where. i'm not leaving the house we live in cause it's all in my name, and we rent. i know i can most likely get help from my boss, cause i wouldn't put it past him to try something. then there's a child to think of, but i think he's better off away from his father. but you don't want to hear the silly things he says.
any way sorry to vent so much but talking helps, and people don't always want to hear you sounding more like a winger than anything.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
24 Jan 09
Don't be sorry to vent, you are always welcome to do so in my posts. I'm sorry you have to be going through that though. You are in a much different situation then I since we didn't have kids but ours relationship was as long as yours. It is sad and hard after it ends because of the long past, but in my situation, I do feel really relieved in a weird way. I hope you find a good answer for you. Good luck.
@blackeyedpeas (445)
• India
24 Jan 09
Hi Lore,
I completely understand what you mean. When i was in realtionship with my ex, my friends use to say so many thins to me about him, that he is going around with else also, he is dumb, you dnt deserve you, and whe i actually came to know about all these things, i broke up. then i actually came to know he was a notorious philander! lol..Even i use to give excuses to my friends misdeeds, but it really use to hurt me. Now sometimes i wonder how did i spend 2 years of my life with him. He was so dishonnest and clever. Love makes us believe in wired things..lol
Cheers! Happy Mylotting!
@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Uncanny!!! I have been cleaning the house today. I have found so many things like you have found. Hindsight is so informative.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
23 Jan 09
It's called hindsight and we all have it. I think when your hormons are running high you are blind to so many warning signs and then when you've had time to cool down you look back and thank God it over but wonder how you could have overlooked to much. Women also have a tendancy to think they can fix another person and they look on it as a challenge.
@miasorada (22)
• United States
24 Jan 09
Hmmm. Yes the hindsight is an eyeopening thing, kind of makes you wonder, ok, what am I doing now which later on I will wonder what I was smoking? No, more than anything else in retrospect I realize that there was circumstantial influences that generated certain ambiguities, which at the time I had no awareness of and was consequently unable to draw sound judgment and then made bad choices.
