Good Listener
By blogs86
@blogs86 (370)
Philippines
January 24, 2009 12:11am CST
How do you become a very good listener? what does it mean by being a good listener and how do i become one, does it mean listening to peoples problems. what does it mean by being a understanding person?
6 responses
@Tiherina (83)
• United States
24 Jan 09
Being a good listener is more than just hearing what the other person has to say. It's being able to relate to them, and putting yourself in their shoes, and helping them with whatever they're going through. People don't want JUST advice either, they also want someone to, well, listen. A shoulder to cry on, a hug, or just someone to talk to about anything and everything. In short, hear what they have to say, repeat a summary of what they said, and just talk to them about the situation. You'll be a good friend for that.
@wraithhime (75)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
A good listener needs no criteria; just being able to listen without interrupting and giving biased comments is a very big deal.
If a friend confides, you should listen without hesitation, and listen with your heart and not your head.
Silence is an important key to effective listening.
@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
26 Jan 09
i guess good listeners mean people who take an interest in others' needs, and want to help them genuinely overcome their current problems. it means to be there for people when they need you and listening intently to what they have to say, and listening to every word said. an understanding person is objective and doesnt judge others, but is open minded and tries to understand the individual person and their problems in order to come up with the right solution that will help the person.
@fwidman (11514)
• United States
24 Jan 09
Being a good listener means that you are someone that listens, not someone that interrupts the other person all the time, unless you want to make sure you are understanding what they are saying. They may be asking for advice, or they may simply want someone listen to them have a rant so that they feel better. No harm in listening to someone completely, it doesn't cost you anything but a little time
An understanding person is usually someone that can sympathize with another person as they go through some sort of emotional struggle in Life. Being a good listener will help make you an understanding person
@vikeyshuy (284)
• China
1 Feb 09
i think a good listener can always care about the speaker's feeling.the speaker can be friends or colleagues,when they are in low spirits or meet some problems and they told you,i think a good listener at this moment should be patient to listen to their complaints or anger.let the speaker know that you are a people can be trusted.
when speakers are enthusiastic,a good listener should adjust his feeling and try to share the joy of the speaker and encourage them to gain further success.
that's what i mean by a good listener
@titan41 (63)
• Canada
25 Jan 09
You know blog,I dont think you BECOME a good listener.I know for myself I think i was born with it.You need to be awfly patient,cuz the person talking does'nt expect to be interupted ,so you just listen and take in what he/she is really saying.Is he/she asking for help.Is he/she just feeling a lottle down.Is she/he feeling depressed,,,A listener will do just that,"listen' without interuption and feel what the other person is saying.Might just be saying nothing what so ever.Just wants to be listened too.So,i guess it;s like I say,a good listener does'nt ask qhestions .Just listenes to what the other person is feeling ,looking,wanting.nd a GOOD lestener can catch this right from the very get go of a conversation.,,,,,,,That's my version of a good listener anyways,,,,