Extra Maritial Affairs!!!!! Why Is It Wrong?????

the maybe you mentioned is the problem......there is only a small percentage of chance that the extra affair will just disappear...poof!!! it will still remain and the other individual involved will have wants to express their relationship publicly.it wont be late before he realizes that he stands on two boats that are drifting away in opposite directions. just think of yourself as the person in the receiving end of all this how will it feel to know that your wife or husband is not happy with you and he is having an affair just because how selfish he is..forgetting all that you have been through.

Unfortunately, the solution to an unhappy relationship is not to seek out another relationship. That doesn't solve the problem. I don't think it's right to be with a partner for some reasons and not for others. You hear of many couples that stay together "for the children" or "for financial reasons" but this isn't the way to live a happy life. Granted, there are some people who say that they are in an open marriage or open relationship where the partners are in agreement that they can each be with others occasionally, outside of the marriage. I admit fully that I don't understand how this can ever work... but I also know it's not my place to judge. I do know, with absolute certainty, that I could not be in such a relationship nor could I ever grant my partner permission to wander off with someone else. It's not what I believe.

If you're saying is it wrong to have an extra marital affair, I should say it is no matter what re the reasons why they engager into that affair. It is wrong in the sense that you're hurting your partner, hurting through infedility. There are alot of reasons why other party or even both party seek love and attention outside marriage, some found out that they enjoy more the company of others than his/her partner itself. Engaging into this kind of relationship is very harmful, especially when you already have children, the at stake there is the future of the children involve, in our country though they are now accepting it little by little, children who belong into a broken home are not very much accepted in society, and there are some organizations who descrimate child with broken home. Arguments and misunderstandings in marraige are normal, it is a part of growing up, what the couples need to do is to fix it with constant communication and understandings, they should remember that they take an oath, to be tegether in all situation. If you both think that you can't fix any arguments anymore, try to be fair to your partner if you really want to give up what you have. Try to explain everything why and how to have a good end of relationship.

i think it's totally wrong. i dont see it doing either of them any good. if you are in a marriage, and you dont feel happy being in it anymore, you see a divorce. that's why there's a provission for that. you cant be married and still see some one else, and look for some filty excuses, i dont think it can be pardoned.

if you can't satisfied with one then no other can satified you only number will increase thanks for sharing

Yes, there is something wrong. Doing this kind of defeats the whole purpose for people to get married at all. If someone else is making you feel good, and you've pondered it long enough; don't go cheating, just get a divorce or something. The married life only gets "richer" because everything is based on a lie. The person is now satisfied emotionally and sexually (you are implying), which will inadvertantly make them seem happier; but happiness is not always equal to "rightness."

Hi tanmoykarmakar, When two people marry they make a commitment to each other and that commitment should mean something to both of them if they really care for each other. An affair on the part of either of the two will affect the other. Sometimes a couple will agree that both of them will have affairs, but this can cause problems in society. I know a young couple who had been dating, and the girl got pregnant, shortly after they discovered that they were half brother and sister because of an affair that the man's father had with the girl's mother. I am not judging anyone here but simply pointing out that when a couple marry, they are each responsible for the welfare of the other and that society seems to work better when people are honest with each other. This is simply my opinion and others will differ which I believe to be fine as there are always pros and cons for every situation and no one has a monopoly on right or wrong. Blessings.

Extramarital affairs, no matter what lies underneath it or for whatever reasons they have, is still wrong. Marriage is a sacred vow and anything that is going against it is considered as bad...

Surely cheating on your partner can't do the relationship any good at all,I know some people do swing as they call it.But that would not do for me and my husband,surely marriage guidance might be a better option for the couple concerned.Don't you think the other person might notice this person is suddenly happy ,It seems to me someone is being tempeted and is looking for a reason to have an affair,for goodness sake talk to your partner and sort something out,be wrong who really cares if it make the relationship happy again.

According to my Mom when she was still living, Extra marital affairs surfaced in ones family as a test or a challenge. Should it happened a wife must not do moves to push his husband to the other woman rather do positive things in order to keep her husband. It doesn't mean for her to tolerate but to win the battle instead. he he, I didn't ask my mom what if the wife was the one who has extra marital affair, would the husband still keep the marriage. I think thats a differrent story.

Hello tanmoykarmaker, and thank you for your discussion. I did read all of the responses, they are all unique, and offer different perspectives, and points. Today's women are so different, and good men are so hard to find, that when a woman is lonely, she's easily attracted to married men because of the security they seem to offer. That's where one's conviction, belief, and commitment to the marriage plays an important role. All too often, the emphasis of the marriage is placed on the party after the ceremony instead of the significance, and sanctity of the ceremony itself. When a couple is married, part of the ceremony is the taking of vows. Two people make an oath, a promise to each other. All too many people believe the work on the relationship stops after you take your vows. But, that's when all the work really begins. It's much harder to stick with it, and work the problems out together. However, that's what the vows mean. You are advised not to enter into a marriage lightly, but people don't really understand what that means. That's why the divorce rate is so high. It's easier to walk away, then it is to work to keep the vows you made to each other. Extra marital affairs were never part of the marriage ceremony, or vows, therefore have no place in the marriage. This type of activity only creates more problems, one of whichthem is STD's. These days STD's are more prevalent then ever, and one of the biggest reasons people get married to begin with. Unfortunately, the sanctity of the marriage garners so little respect that the institution can no longer mean you are safe from them anymore.

Because you're being dishonest and potentially hurting your partner. Now, if this was an open relationship and it was mutually agreed upon, that would be a different story.

Hi, I feel extra marital affairs are so wrong on many levels. I believe doing these things can bring disease,distrust,and doubt. I know of couples who barely communicate but are always arguing leaving the man or woman to cheat and be totally unsatisfied in many ways and besides guilt will eat ou up in the end. I also feel if a couple does have these situations with others besides each other a choice is broken and makes the other partner feelless loved and very unsur of just how much their mate really loves them and feels for them. A committement is just that so why not honor it and communicate and work things out. If all else false divorce and find your happiness but going behind each others backs is so wrong and not worth what can happen in the long run.