Deleted Friendship... Sigh!
By maple_kisses
@maple_kisses (2156)
Philippines
January 25, 2009 12:44am CST
[i]It doesn't feel good at all to get deleted! 
I felt like I was being thrown in the trash can...
Well, an ex-online boyfriend of mine did that to me. He's actually the one who ended the relationship just because he found someone else. Then last week, he sent me a message in friendster telling me he isn't happy anymore. I was cautious of my response since I don't want to assume he meant he was happy with me and wants to go back. Besides, the guy dumped me, I may have forgiven him but I cannot forget the pain he brought me, even if I still honestly feel something for him. So I told him "I wish you'll find happiness though.." He wasn't so patient and got upset that I didn't jumped right into the "chance" of having him back. He accused me of being unforgiving and all other maddening things... The next day, yuwie told me one of my friendship was deleted. I looked it up and saw that my ex-bf deleted me in his yuwie friends list. I looked up friendster and he deleted me there as well. And yup, he deleted me from his mylot list too.
I don't mind the relationship, I'm so used to getting my heart broken again and again, the pain is nothing anymore and forgiving has become as easy as 1-2-3 as well. But losing a friendship? I know this is just online but it means a lot as well. I don't throw away friendships as easy as that. It's actually not a pleasant thought.
Have you been deleted in a friendship list as well? How did it feel? Or was it you who have deleted some friends? [/i]
I felt like I was being thrown in the trash can...
Well, an ex-online boyfriend of mine did that to me. He's actually the one who ended the relationship just because he found someone else. Then last week, he sent me a message in friendster telling me he isn't happy anymore. I was cautious of my response since I don't want to assume he meant he was happy with me and wants to go back. Besides, the guy dumped me, I may have forgiven him but I cannot forget the pain he brought me, even if I still honestly feel something for him. So I told him "I wish you'll find happiness though.." He wasn't so patient and got upset that I didn't jumped right into the "chance" of having him back. He accused me of being unforgiving and all other maddening things... The next day, yuwie told me one of my friendship was deleted. I looked it up and saw that my ex-bf deleted me in his yuwie friends list. I looked up friendster and he deleted me there as well. And yup, he deleted me from his mylot list too.
I don't mind the relationship, I'm so used to getting my heart broken again and again, the pain is nothing anymore and forgiving has become as easy as 1-2-3 as well. But losing a friendship? I know this is just online but it means a lot as well. I don't throw away friendships as easy as that. It's actually not a pleasant thought.
Have you been deleted in a friendship list as well? How did it feel? Or was it you who have deleted some friends? [/i]1 person likes this
3 responses
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
29 Jan 09
How sad. I have not had any serious encounter online. So wouldn't know how the feelings of being left in the cold. However, I learned that when it come to meeting people online, I had to be driven by my common sense and not by my heart. Almost everything that was told to me had to be analized and not taken at face value. Many people I put under my "microscope" couldn't take the scrutiny and left. Good riddance! Be glad you found that early before you gave him the access to your life, your emotions and more importantly...your heart!
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
25 Jan 09
girl!! you are just like me when it comes to men , a bad picker-outer. i know it doesn't like it right now but u are better off w/out self centered people like him. if he's that way he probably would not have accepted little nico as he should. you know u wouldn't want that, you to open up your heart & your back door & kick all their buttes out & start anew, him deletely u just shows how immature he is, i have deleted people but it just because i never hear from them or they are inactive. i had two ladies who make me mad & i did delete them. no big deal i' sure for her. she did apply for a new friendship & i just denied her, if i have ever been deleted off anyone's list i have not been notified but i don't know if thet notify u on mylot or not. i probably have. seems like i don't set too well w/someone people but that's their problem, lol. give little nico a big hug from his bobo. you quit worrying about all those dorks in your lifr & find u some new friends. u are too niaeve about men. i use to be to. u finally get hurt enough where they are not important as u thought they were. u have nico to think anout now.
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
25 Jan 09
Hello mapple_kisses! I can tell that you're ex - boyfriend online is not a good person. He doesn't deserve any sadness that you felt right now.
Going back to your discussion, I do think that someone deleted me on his friendslist in friendster because I never saw his profile eversince I got married. I knew it because he put me on his featured friend and now I can't even saw his profile on my friendslist. I don't know why he deleted me when in fact we are just friends and we're neighbors but we don't know each other personally.
