Do you feel that sometimes you and your husbands are from opposite poles?
By marisriel
@marisriel (1156)
Philippines
January 25, 2009 2:44am CST
I just had a disagreement with my other half minutes ago for some petty things. It will be his birthday in two days time and we had scheduled a date for the two of us, an intimate date because that's what he wants since we haven't had that privacy because the kids sleep in our room. It was our agreement and our current system that it's my salary that will pay the bills and his salary will be our savings. I chose that because I'm having difficulty or I don't like to tell him every once in a while that I need to pay for this and I need to pay for that. However, this month, my salary won't be enough to pay for all the bills. I trust him that of course he will pay the bills if I don't have the money anymore, but you know, I just need to tell him that, just in case that he doesn't know that I'm currently out of cash already. He got mad because he said I am malicious to think that about him, that of course he would pay for the bills and no need to tell it to him. He said my timing is wrong because it will be his birthday and that it seems that I don't want to pay for our date anymore. Actually, this is just a petty thing but we ended up shouting at each other because I felt that's not what I intended things to be. Are you as wife feels like the same way as I do, that somehow you just need to say things even if you know that your other half already knows what to do? Do you get me? I just felt sad that things turned out this way because it will be his birthday and I don't want to be the reason why his birthday won't be a happy one.
2 responses
@b3rn1c3 (40)
• Philippines
20 Feb 09
Yes, I do, especially, when we are in a heated argument!
But when we're not, we're like we have the same thinking. Like, he'll be the first to say a/some things that is on my mind, and vice versa. And it's fun!
But you can always talk him out about the things, especially everything that concerns your family. Be transparent. If a mistake is done, blame no one. Just move on and live with it. :-)
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
25 Jan 09
I do not feel it, we are from opposite poles. Actually I wanted to break off our relationship before it became serious but she made a promise I was a fool then and believed her. We would come to a heated argument at least once a week. Things became worse after 1997.
Personally I do not think that you and your spouse are poles apart. This opinion is based on the fact that it was only recently that you had a serious argument with him. And it was due to a misunderstanding over the words used. Try not to spend too much time thinking over it. Instead try to make up, not necessarily by buying him an expensive present.
all the best,
rosdimy
rosdimy