my daughter's plea...

For some reasons, my heart felt a tinge of pain. My heart goes for you. I mean with all the burdens, does the father provide at least some help for the kids? Raising up a child is quite burdensome already. But raising 3??? You must be sort of a superhero! Being a working mother also, I know some times, we have to play with our emotions and stay with them for as long as we wanted, and a hug, a kiss, an embrace,are really not enough to equate with their longingness. These are the reasons why we feel guilty. But proper explanation that we need to go to work, is is also for them. My twin daughters came to that phase before. I am working in a Call Center for more than 6 years now. And they always plead me not to go to work at night... or at least they can sleep first before I go to the office. After setting proper expectation, as they grow up, they understood. Surprisingly, now that they understood life a whole lot (even if they are only 8 years young)they become my adviser, my bestfriends, even my shopping buddies and parlor buddies! Whenever I want to spend more time with them,They are the ones who always remind me, "Mommy, if it's SL, I will call up your Boss and tell him you're not sick. C'mon, we won't have money if you're not going to the office!"-with matching hands in their waist. And to think, our situation some years before is totally the opposite! So with your kids, i know that they will understand. More power. Take courage. They are your courage. And if you need an ear to listen, a shoulder to lean on, I know we have lots of mommies here in MyLot who understands. Happy mylotting!

Hi friend, many mothers, like me for one, face the same situation. It's really heartbreaking when you have to go far from home because you need to. Although I myself resigned from my job, a high paying job actually, to be a work at home mom, I will not say that any mother should do it just because of the kids, unless your kids are really sick that you have to personally attend to her. For me, if you have a partner, it should be a couple's decision, both the husband and wife. If anyone is not really convinced that staying at home is needed, don't do it, because when you are already at home and you are personally not decided that it's the right thing to do, you will regret your decision after a while, and it will be late because you won't be able to get your job back. Kids are kids, and of course they will want their mommies every time at their side, but if you can just properly explain the reason why you are working and that you give enough quality time for them, pretty soon they will just get used to it and enjoy your lives better because you are not lacking in anything.

How I wish I could... Its natural for a mom to want to be home with her kids and for the kids to want to have their mom around them while they are still young. But its not as easy as it seems. My boys always begs me not to go to work but I know that I have to make that sacrifice to be able to provide food on the table. I just try to reassure them that i will make it up to them during the weekends and I leave for my office with the resolve to be more financially stable so that I can be with my kids.

It's hard but it's a necessity to be able to pay for the basic needs of your family. I remember when I was around 4 years old, I told my mom I wished her boss would just fire her. lol Of course, I was lucky enough to stay with my grandmother while my mom and dad worked.