Do You Get Irriated When New Users Ask For Continuous Helps???
By vidhyavini
@vidhyavini (6111)
India
January 25, 2009 8:31am CST
Hey Everyone.
I used to help others when they ask some doubts and have never felt irritated in it. But there are people who are just asking for help even without reading the Announcements or Rules in any section. I just hate it.
Aren't they suppose to do it by themselves??? Even after reading everything if they have a doubt, they can ask someone to help them. But people are just lazy to find things by reading I guess.
Have you had these kind of situations???
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18 responses
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
25 Jan 09
Hello my friend vidyavini Ji,
I agree with you that you must have been an extra ordinary student during your education career, but remebr everyone was not like you and some were lagging then you, so tehy were not like you at par with saqme grading. Also, I have seen your profile, and astosnished to read your slogan, which is contradicting your own thought. If some one wants to come and know some more doubts, why to hate it, one may neglect, may not respond. Everyone may not be like you andknowledgeable persons should understand it. Further your name is also related with Gddess 'Saraswati Ji'. You can give some more and share your education with many, which will increase only and never decrease. may god bless you and have great time.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
26 Jan 09
I hope that there is a limit for everything. Haha.
When anyone asks about mylot I can just explain about the rating system, being descriptive, adding avatar and some more things that everyone needs.
But am I responsible for their earnings??? If I refer someone to the site, am I responsible for their earnings too??? They just ask about why their earnings are low and all such things.
When we are clear that we have to be more descriptive to earn here, they just don't bother about that. Still a single line or two in the posts and they ask about the earnings to me.
I have also helped so many people and have patiently responded to everyone.I don't know if you believe me or not. I just started blogging for this only. I added a detailed post about mylot and was giving that to everyone. But there are some who just keeps on asking questions. The answers for their questions will be available in the FAQ itself.
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@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
28 Jan 09
May be I am not like you I guess. I can't bare anyone speaking harsh to me. I mean there is a way to ask for help. And that has to be followed in my opinion. There is no need to be harsh. If they do, then they could just expect that kind of response from the other side.
Happy mylotting.
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
26 Jan 09
Hello my friend vidyavini Ji,
I know, I understand what you are trying to explain, but then again I would say that, it all epends upon other's level of wisdom to get satisfied or not, and they keep finding their solutions through us, a worrld community having more than 1.5 Lacs members. I do not think that they have committed such a blunder that they need to be hated. It is only that they want to get them satisfied .I am also of that type, till I get satisfied, I will repeat my question. This is a great relationship between a good learner and a teacher. Why not we appriciate one's appettite for learning. There are many, they simply keep quiet and never have courage to ask, at least those are better ones. May god bless you and have great time.
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
25 Jan 09
I guess you better stop inviting people for your referral if your help has limitations. When I help someone I would help them the best I could without expecting in return. In this online business, if I am the referrer I know I can get incentives from whom I was referring with out of his/her income. How come I would not her/him more? If some of my friends I am helping without expecting in return, how I would NOT help my referral more?
If my help has limitations, (especially on this online business)it would be very OBVIOUS to the one I helped that I would only after of my own FAVOR and CREDIT.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
26 Jan 09
I have responded to various questions of yours. I just inform you people about the site that I know. Its you who asked me for the site. Remember that???
And whats that Announcement page is for??? Do you think they are just for fun??? Its your duty to read them to be clear of the rules of the site. You could get the clear knowledge only by reading the exact contents what admin has written. Do you want me to get the link and send that to you???
You were just too rude and it just seemed as if I never responded you for anything. I was clearly saying about that site but you never stopped asking question.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
27 Jan 09
Oops. He is not my referral in any site. I just said him about a site named NoExpiry and we both are members there. When I got my payment from that site, I informed that through a discussion and he asked me for the link. Thats it.
Of course I helped him. There were so many questions from his side and I was responding to those. He could also take some effort to learn something on his own right??
I think he never read anything in the Announcement page. His questions was in such a way. And being harsh was another worst thing a person seeking help can do. Haha.
@cornyman (1128)
• Germany
27 Jan 09
Hello to you two ,
there are always two sides of help. The one help is for free and for supporting and the other help is for money.
In case of myLot i would say if you are the referral, you could ask here more often but not always the same questions .
In this case, i would just sent the same answers like last time (meaning copy and paste it again).
On the other side why not helping the referrals for a good start in myLot because it will improve the earning of the referrer, too!
That's why i provide my referrals with any information that i have in the beginning as soon as they add me as friend in myLot, so they can read the mail each time when they have "problems" or they can ask the other members (usually they don't need).
Have a great time in myLot!
@karmendra (1123)
• India
26 Jan 09
hi,,
sometime... but if i have some knowledge about the problem then i used to clear doubts of the person. but if doubt still remains,, its not irritate me. i just usually ask to people more easy problem or questions than that problem and tell them "find it fist then i will help you".. its more easy.. because i don't like to take any irritation.
thanks
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
26 Jan 09
I just don't want to be polite to the persons who are harsh on me for not explaining them about their doubts. I just hate it.
And as Paula said, we are just building their laziness. Haha.
Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.
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@Paula1966 (1102)
• United States
26 Jan 09
Yup... like the saying goes "Give a man a fish, you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, you feed him for life." Good job getting them to fish!
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@deborahkat (519)
• Brazil
26 Jan 09
I just try to help as I can and try not to take things online so serious. Rather here on mylot or any other place. There are always too many words and pages and for newbies it gets a bit confusing. And not only here but anywhere in the world people will always try the easiest way that is to ask for help instead of reading the rules.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
27 Jan 09
Ya of course asking help to someone will definitely be easy than reading the rules. Its just for the one who is asking. And for the person who is responding would think why not he/she read that by themselves???
If a person is really trying hard to know about the site and if he/she is in trouble finding the things they want, then we can offer help. Or else its just us who is making them lazy.
I do accept that mylot is bit confusing. But the other sites would be just too easy only.
@mces0925 (195)
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
well, times like this i can't blame you if you get irritated. it is the way you are. but honestly you need to be patience. i know how you work hard and for someone who is a newcomer or newbie they need a lot of assistance. I guess your blessed with lot of talents. so share it and you will be bless more. one thing it is a bless that you are not the one who asked for a help and it is the people around you:)
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
28 Jan 09
Of Course man. I will definitely help newbies over here. But I just get irritated when they just keep asking the questions without working to find it by themselves. Do you say that all the users just ask for help just when they could not find the answer??
Nope. Some are just lazy to make the search and so they do ask someone. And there is a way to ask for help right. If I am busy and didn't respond to it, is that ok to be harsh on me?? I don't think so. I just got irritated after these things.
Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.
@tracie1758 (507)
• United States
26 Jan 09
Hi, I am a new user. I have probably posted some of those annoying questions that you are talking about. Yes I had my doubts and the Rules section of this website really couldn't calm them. They could have typed anything they wanted to in there. It's responses from the people who are already on here and their faith and trust in this website that really did it for me. Without those annoying posts that I had asking for help on the legitimacy of this site I might have given up on it already. As a veteran of this website you should feel the need to help those just starting out on it.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
26 Jan 09
Ya Paula is right. We do help the person who are really interested in knowing the facts and who have tried for it too. Some just don't try because they are lazy to do so. And they just post a discussion or will just send a PM asking about the site. Well they just want us to teach everything from the beginning till the end. Their questions will never stop till they get the payment from the site.
Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.
@Paula1966 (1102)
• United States
26 Jan 09
It is different if you have TRIED to read the rules, like it sounds like you did. Some people can't be bothered, however.
@panzerswifey (314)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I am a newbie and I do ask questions and I will tell you why.
I do read but sometimes I forget or maybe something I read was unclear.
When you ask questions it is good because you learn when you ask questions.
Remember when you were a little kid and you raised your hand in class at school
do you think your teacher got mad and said..Shesh this kid is getting on my nerve.
No you got help.
Thats all us newbies are looking for and that is help.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
26 Jan 09
You are very clear in your post. You have said by yourselves that you do try to learn something. In that case only the teachers would help us a bit more.
But when the teacher finds some student to be too lazy in finding things, there is no use in guiding them. Thats what I am trying to say.
The person whom we are helping also should try to learn by themselves. They just should not depend on others for everything. I can just say the rules and tips to earn in this site. What should I do when they ask why their earnings are low or why its reduced?? Should I keep an eye on their posts and tell them their mistakes???
When I say the tips to earn itself, the first thing that I quote is to be descriptive. I don't see them taking that to their mind. And they just ask about the earning being low. Haha. Very funny.
@AndrewFreyne (6281)
• United Kingdom
25 Jan 09
I'm not sure that I would become irritated. I think that it's nice to help people when you can although I do admit, this can sometimes test your patience! I guess certain people consider it easier to just ask the crowd rather than delve into all the rules and terms and conditions and so forth. I think it's always good to give someone the benefit of the doubt but after they have been here for a while then they should know how the site works off by heart! Andrew
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
26 Jan 09
We can help those people who are really interested in knowing about the site. But how to help those ones who just want to know how to earn there.
To earn here, we need to know the rules and regulations. Most of them don't mind about that and will again ask how to earn good amount here. They are just thinking all the sites to be get rich sites. Haha.
Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.
@Little_Boy (448)
• India
26 Jan 09
Actually, I become very pleased when somebody seeks help from me. I feel privileged to help any person. And for repeated-help request, if I am convinced that the person has not really been able to understand, then I don't get irritated. I just try to adopt a second and more congenial method to make him understand. I find a lot of satisfaction in helping out others.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
26 Jan 09
What if you find a person who is just asking about the questions for which the answers are already available in the FAQ section???
And what if he/she was bit harsh on you in the way they ask?? Will you still explain patiently. Haha.
@Paula1966 (1102)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I actually responded to someone asking about another site, and I told them how to get to the members section to read the FAQ... they literally said they were TOO LAZY!!! OK, you're too lazy to read it there, but not to read someone's (possibly dubious) response? If someone were really cruel, they could give a purposely wrong answer, just to get you booted.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
26 Jan 09
Haha. You are right. I have also heard too many frank replies. They are just lazy to find the question from the site. So they just ask us and we have to search for it and give them the answer. Thats what they expect.
And when we don't explain they are bit harsh on us too.
@romeo2103 (41)
• India
26 Jan 09
if there is a real need of help surely if i can do that, i wont get irritated by helping.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
26 Jan 09
If there is a real help, even I would help that person. haha.
Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
26 Jan 09
I don't actually understand your response. If you are staying in mylot for fun, then its ok. If its for earning, then you will have to be more descriptive in what you write. Make sure that you post atleast 5 to 7 lines big.
Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.
@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
26 Jan 09
No, I don't get irritated. Sometimes you can't find stuff because you're new and not familiar with the site. When I first started I had a hard time to find out how to put a picture on my profile, but I didn't ask nobody for help, I found it myself and it was not easy, because they should put it on the edit profile link not on preferences but whatever. If I feel like helping or if I feel the person really couldn't find something then I'll try to help out. I know there are lazy people out there, it's easier to just have something handed to you then to look for it yourself. But that's the kind of person that will never amount to nothing, will always be waiting for everything to be handed to them and that's their loss.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
26 Jan 09
Ya you are right. When its really hard to find something and when someone needs real help, I would of course go for it. As you said, its hard to find the place to add Avatar. I will definitely help in those troubles. But not for the lazy ones. They are the ones that irritate me.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
26 Jan 09
I don't earn anything for sending Private Messages though.
I can of course help people who just want it. But there are some people who are lazy enough to learn by themselves. In that case, I don't think its worth explaining as they would just ask questions for every happening.
I would just list some few questions.
1) How to earn here
2) How can I post smilies
3) How to get that star
4) Why my star rating is low
5) Does that affect my earnings
6) Why do I get few cents per day
These are some of the questions. In these the first 3 questions are little reasonable and we could guide newbies with that. The other questions that we get are just irritating of course. Hope you understand what I mean.
Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.
@max1950 (2306)
• United States
25 Jan 09
when i started using a computer a few years back maybe 3 i could read and read info on what to do but without someone showing me or explaining so i could understand what i was reading i was lost, i am still pc illiterate but i'm gettin there so when someone need's whatever little help i might possibly give i try to help.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
25 Jan 09
Ya I do also help if thats needed. But some do take advantage of it. They just ask us everything without trying to know it by themselves. They just send a line in a PM asking how does the site work and I have to send them the step by step procedure. Thats funny.
Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
25 Jan 09
Dear friend,
Not every time, mostly I had not experienced any like this, but if they ask me I hope it would be a test with my patience and moreover if I have time I would do my best to clarify their doubts as long I know it. As I too have asked many helps from others I had never tried any one to irritated with my unnecessary helps.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
25 Jan 09
Of Course everyone will help for necessary things. But there are some people who just asks help because they are just lazy to read about it. I can just explain once about it. Still they just keep on asking about that. At that time I do get irritated.
Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.
@syeryn (573)
• United States
25 Jan 09
I don't mind helping others. Sometimes they just need that personal contact to learn how to use a site because they are unsure about the rules. I will always offer assistance to them with their questions.
The only time I get irritated is when they repeatedly ask how to make money. MyLot is a great site, but you will not get rich here and some come in with the idea that they are going to make enough money here to quit their day jobs and that just isn't how it works.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
26 Jan 09
Ya you are right. People just continuously ask for help. We could just tell the rules and regulations of the site and some few informations about the site. But they do ask about the earnings also. Why I am not earning much and all those questions.
Its up to them to earn money. How can we guide in that?? They have to learn more about the site to earn more. They are not ready to take any efforts. Haha.
Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.