If you cheat what would you do?

It seems to me that if the cheater really is not ever going to do it again, why should she say anything. It's in the past and to tell her partner would only break his heart. She should forget about it, let it go and leave it in the past. She has already betrayed her partner, why make it worse by driving a knife into his heart and ruining the good loving relationship that they share. That's what I think :?)

I imagine your friend feels very guilty and wants to tell her boyfriend in order to get rid of her guilt and clear her conscience. She has to realize that, yes, there is a very real possibility that he could break up with her over this. Just because one partner comes forward with the truth does not mean the other will accept and/or excuse it. For some people, cheating even one time is a deal breaker. In spite of the fact that she tells him she loves him and it "will not happen again," she has already impacted the trust in their relationship. Telling or not telling is a very hard decision. You ask if I would tell my partner in this situation. It's hard for me to answer this because I am one of those people for whom cheating would end a relationship. I expect my partner not to cheat on me, so I would not cheat on my partner :) However, if I were to suppose that I cheated once... let's say a one night stand... I guess I would not tell my partner if I believed, as your friend does, that it "happened only once and will not happen again." If my partner found out and questioned me, then yes I would tell the truth about it.

Of course there are secrets that should be kept and not be told to anyone. However, people who realize that they did a mistake won't get this peace in mind. I think she should decide what she wants the most. What would her boyfriend would do if somehow that guy comes and blackmail her? If one day he discovers this, things will get complicated. She should tell him and accept the consequences. She should face what she has done and not run away from the problem nor being a coward. Everyone does mistakes. I only highly respect a person when one admit she/he has done a mistake and apologize. She can always hide this but inside of her, she won't feel at ease and her heart would be struck. So the best way is to choose. One way she tells and her boyfriend will be mad. the other is hiding but then she is taking abother risk and her peacefull mind won't come back. Choose the path that sounds the best and accept the consequences.

I couldn't imagine cheating on my boyfriend. I love him too much, but if I did I would probably open up to him and admit that it was just once. Knowing I could possibly lose him, which is why I don't cheat. I couldn't imagine losing my boyfriend over something so silly.

In my opinion I think it is best to be honest. First of all, I cannot imagine cheating myself, but if this ever happenened I do not think that I would be able to live with the guilt. I would need to tell my partner what has happened - if he can accept it, then it would be down to us both to accept it and try our best to move on. If he didn't accept, I would have to accept his decision. But if he breaks up with her, perhaps she will learn a really valuable lesson about why cheating is never worth it. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but I don't agree with cheating on somebody that you supposedly love

If I were your friend I will tell my boyfriend what happened. Remember, truth will set us free. She did something wrong so she better face the consequences. It's better that she's the one who will tell to her boyfriend than somebody will tell it to him.