Leaving town for study is a good thing or not?
By doris_wu
@doris_wu (27)
China
January 25, 2009 10:34am CST
Today is Spring Festival.It is the most important festival for Chinese people.So i want to say ????{those words mean happy new year in chinese}. I am a college student,I left my hometown for study,at first i'm so exciting that i can leave my parents because i'm free then.But now i'm so upset.I don't wanna study in other city ever.I think i'm not good at communition with other people.And it's really hard living with a lot of girls.I think girls is more difficult to mix in.
6 responses
@shav9292 (928)
• India
25 Jan 09
i am an engineering student...i aint gonna tell you that i know what you mean..cause i dont..i have been with my family since i was a little kid.
but i have to leave someday or the other..so that is what i fear.
luckily i got a seat in the college of my choice.it is only 2 hours away from home.
at once it is good that you are on your own but most of the peole get homesick very easily ,but what is most important is your studies,your goal.
what you doing now is for a reason,for a cause,so you have to hold on and just do your best...so there will be no regrets.
cheers ,take care!!! :)
@doris_wu (27)
• China
25 Jan 09
yes.you're really lucky.My college is far away from my family.it takes me two days on travel.It's my first year in college,so maybe i just feel a little homesick or like a fish out of water.China is big.And people from different province have different custom.I have to be careful about others custom.
@shav9292 (928)
• India
25 Jan 09
yes it is really hard to adjust isn't it?
but even though i haven't been away i think i am right when i tell that you really know the importance of your dear ones.
i mean when we are with our family we just don't understand their importance but eventually when we stay away we realize the moments when mom used to bring us dinner and stuff like that but now we have to do it yourself..if you know what i mean.
just a thought.!!!
@nympha687 (940)
• United States
27 Jan 09
There's no better way to learn than to experience things yourself. Living away from home would teach you important lessons like learning housework, independence, interpersonal skills. You'll be needing them in the future. Missing your family is inevitable but technology has made things easier. Gong Xi Fa Cai.
@shinymood (405)
• China
26 Jan 09
Getting a chance to study in another city is a blessing, I should think. One has to learn to live on one's own anyway. I'm sure you'll have lots of nice campus memories to recall when you grow old, isn't it a treasure too? If you are not good at socializing with girls, you can just be yourself and some of them are not that difficult to get on with. I wish you great success for whatever you do. Welcome to mylot and happy mylotting!
@jcay_lorna (433)
• Ireland
26 Jan 09
I think that in life you have to make sacrifices for your own good. If you really want to do something then I guess you have to prepare yourself to what it brings. Also living with other people is not so bad at all if you try to make them your friends. If communication will only become a problem if you think it that way. If you think of it as fun while learning, then I think you will enjoy doing it. I hope you will meet nice friends in your school that will help you throughout your college days. Have a nice day.
@henahuda (158)
• Australia
26 Jan 09
education is the essence of life and to be successful in life its very important to be educated and then do well in life. i think that its a wise decision to leave your city and study outside if you dont get the right career option there. yes its only upsetting because you have to leave behind eveeything and settle in a new place and make new friends which can be difficult.
@ksblues (1)
• United States
25 Jan 09
Hi Doris - the decision and follow through involved with studying abroad - especially alone - can be both exhilaration and scary! Growing up in a small town, but having parents who traveled a lot before I was born, I always knew that study abroad was for me. So, I took the first chance I could to travel after graduating from college and spent six months living, studying, and seeing many parts of Europe. As an Art History student here in Florida (US), the chance to see in person many of the things I'd studied was invaluable.
In terms of your living arrangements, I'd recommend just using your place as a home base and getting out among the locals as much as you can. Look for clubs or social groups to join. Maybe there are some listed on a bulletin board in your dorm area?