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i am sorry to here it i lost my father aswell spend as much as possible with him if you don't you'll regret it later.

I am very sorry to hear this. I hope, despite how it sounds, you father does not suffer. Cancer can be hard. Many of my relative have had it. Try to spend as much time as you can with him now. It may be hard to see him, but you will not regret it. You and your family are in my prayers. Try to stay strong.

Hi Robin! I am so sorry about your dad!! I would be upset too if I was you and my father didn't tell me first. But I think some people just handle things differently. You just gotta be kinda understanding and just spend as much time as you can with him. God bless!! Tanya www.youravon.com/tnoell

Robin, I think there must be some reason, why he is keeping u in dark. Either he thinks u can not bear the pain or he is still angry on some misdeed of urs. Either way u have to clarify the position to him. If he is angry on some issue which u think u r right, then u can get it solved with some mediator. Anyway now when he is in last stage of cancer, u have to bless him & pray for recovery. Pray this prayer( each sentence 3 times) 1.God I love U. 2. God thank u for the gifts u have given me in my life.(Repeat as many times as u can think of a good thing u got) 3.God u r inside me & giving me blessings. 4.God u r in my father- I love my father-God Bless Him. I see God in every thing -I love them-God Bless them. 5.God use me for doing ur good deeds. This way u'll start loving him.

First of all I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I lost my mother to cancer in June of 2007. I was with her at the time the cancer was diagnosed and was with her at the end when she passed away 2 weeks later. Everything happened so fast from the time we found out until she had passed away. When you first hear the news of having cancer, its a terrible shock to the person and also the family members. It may be that your father may be trying to figure out a way to tell you to make it easier on you as you had just recently gone through with it with your mom. So, what I would do in your situation, and i don't mean to sound harsh, is rather than being upset with him cherish the time that you have left with him. He needs you right now for comfort and support. ~proudnana~

Robin, I'm sorry to hear about your father and how torn you are. My mother was diagnosed with cervical and uterine cancer last year. We were lucky they found it early, she had a total hysterectomy and never had to do any chemo. It took her a few weeks before she ever told myself or either of my 3 brothers. She told friends before ever telling my father. She said it was easier to tell others than to tell all of us. It was almost like she was looking for advice from others how to break it to all of us. My father, brother and myself all went to the hospital with her and sat there during her surgery and I was the one who brought her home. She now has another scare that 3 more areas has become cancerous again. She did come to us first this time. When she first found out she didn't want anyone around her at all. She basically shut herself up in her house and had no contact with anyone. Hopefully your father is in that stage. Almost a denial stage. Like if no one is around me I really don't have it. It's hard for them to have people they love around them at first. I don't blame you for not wanting to push yourself on him. Hopefully after he gets through this stage it will get better and he will realize he really does need the support of his family also. Best of luck and stay strong.