More In Law Drama
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
United States
January 26, 2009 7:25am CST
This time it's my FIL who's getting under my skin, gosh I just can't stand him. I know it's been awhile since he's gotten on my nerves, but honestly I wish he just wasn't in our lives anymore. He has to call us every single weekend about rent money, and I just can't even stand to hear his voice on the machine anymore!
Anyways, apparently his car is dead, we figured that out yesterday when we called him and told him he needed to come pick up his money.
So this morning he calls the house just after hubby had left to head down there before going to work. It's bad enough how early hubby has to go to work, but to have to make a stop along his way is rather annoying.
But anyways, FIL leaves a message on the machine saying he was going to need to take our car today... didn't ask, just said he needed the car today. He's going on and on about how he'll pick hubby at work at whatever time he gets out (9pm today), etc etc. Then, he calls back a minute later, says his phone died on him and he don't know if the message went through, so said the same thing AGAIN!! (Have I mentioned I can't even stand to hear the sound of his voice?) Then, apparently the phone starts dying again... so he swears on my answering machine... and my 6 year old twins and 2 year old are standing right by the phone and could hear this!!
I'm just so annoyed by the whole ordeal. And I know hubby will end up letting him borrow the car, because he has a real problem saying no to his parents, and that annoys me too. I think after how rude and inconsiderate his father was on the phone, that hubby should say no! Oh well, he won't like using our car anyways, the heat doesn't work! He better not even think about trying to borrow my van, that will never happen!!
Anyone else's in laws been annoying them lately?
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@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
26 Jan 09
Hi there Kats,
Well isn't life fun? 
sorry, I don't mean to laugh at you, I have a quirky sense of humor, and I tend to make light of things that I can not change or control. I think we have all been where you are right now with someone in our lives who just irritates the heck outa of us.
For better or for worse, as humans we need other people, the downside is those other people annoy us tremendously. Reminds me of the saying " you can't live with em, and you can't live without em!" Unfortunately, I can't make everyone around me do things the way I want them done. What I can do, is change my own attitude toward the person. A long time ago, I decided that I wasn't gonna let anyone to take up free space in my thoughts. I once heard someone describe it as not letting anyone live your head rent free.
So now, I try not to let those things get under my skin so to speak because I can't change the other person. In fact, they probably do not even know how mad I really am. So, I spend a lot of my time & energy thinking about the person who's made me mad, and they have no idea that I'm even upset, because most of the time what ever their behavior was is perfectly acceptable to them, it's just not to me.
In a nutshell, I decided that I don't have room in my mind is for other people and to worry about what they are doing or not doing. Don't let other people live rent free in your mind either.
Good luck to you and happy Mylotting! 
sorry, I don't mean to laugh at you, I have a quirky sense of humor, and I tend to make light of things that I can not change or control. I think we have all been where you are right now with someone in our lives who just irritates the heck outa of us.
For better or for worse, as humans we need other people, the downside is those other people annoy us tremendously. Reminds me of the saying " you can't live with em, and you can't live without em!" Unfortunately, I can't make everyone around me do things the way I want them done. What I can do, is change my own attitude toward the person. A long time ago, I decided that I wasn't gonna let anyone to take up free space in my thoughts. I once heard someone describe it as not letting anyone live your head rent free.
So now, I try not to let those things get under my skin so to speak because I can't change the other person. In fact, they probably do not even know how mad I really am. So, I spend a lot of my time & energy thinking about the person who's made me mad, and they have no idea that I'm even upset, because most of the time what ever their behavior was is perfectly acceptable to them, it's just not to me.
In a nutshell, I decided that I don't have room in my mind is for other people and to worry about what they are doing or not doing. Don't let other people live rent free in your mind either.
Good luck to you and happy Mylotting! @katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I wish I could do just that, unfortunatly I seem to be the type of person who likes to dwell on things that bother me, and my In Laws give me plenty of things to dwell on. Normally when people upset me as much as my in laws do I just get them out of my life. I don't like to surround myself with people that bother me. Unfortunatly I can't just push my in laws out of my life. So long as I'm married to their son, I will just have to deal with them for as long as they live. Trust me there have been times I've seriously thought about divorcing their son just to be rid of them! If they keep things up, I'll be at that point again very soon!
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@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
26 Jan 09
Yikes! That is pretty bad! I'm sorry! I understand about weeding out those that train our energy from our lives and as you say you're stuck with your in laws because you married their son.
It takes amazing self control, but I have nearly bitten my tounge in half dealing with blood relatives again under my skin, whom I cannot easily dismiss either. In the end though, letting him under your skin is only going to hurt you and he probably doesn't even have any idea that you're angry.
All the best and happy Mylotting!
I understand about weeding out those that train our energy from our lives and as you say you're stuck with your in laws because you married their son.
It takes amazing self control, but I have nearly bitten my tounge in half dealing with blood relatives again under my skin, whom I cannot easily dismiss either. In the end though, letting him under your skin is only going to hurt you and he probably doesn't even have any idea that you're angry.
All the best and happy Mylotting!@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I have pushed blood relatives out of my life, and trust me I had very good reason for doing so. I won't even go into all the reasons why. My mother did the same thing her whole life, but for different reasons. She was a dependent... she always needed someone to help her with one thing or another. Usually it was money, or possessions she couldn't afford for herself. Whenever someone would say no, she'd stop speaking to them. Once I was old enough, I was forced to be her enabler, I had little choice because I was also dependent on her for food and a roof over my head. Sometimes she'd make me put her before my own son. Once I got out of that situation I swore I'd never look back. Unfortunatly she sucked me back in. But things took a nasty turn, and I cast her out of my life once and for all, haven't spoken to her in at least 4 years, and have absolutely no plans to.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I told hubby he better not let FIL borrow the car the rest of the week, told him to make stupid excuses or something, but he's not giving him the car anymore this week. I dare that man to call and demand to borrow my van, he'll get an earful from me!
@gemini_rose (16264)
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26 Jan 09
Oh my it does sound like you have trouble with them!! I cant believe that he just said he was using your car and did not even ask that is just so cheeky. I do however understand your hubbys reluctance to say no, my hubby gets cross with me and my parents too because I can never say no to them and he thinks that sometimes I should but they are my parents you know?
Anyway I dont have that trouble with my in laws at all, my in laws are split I hardly see my father in law but he will do anything for us, we only have to ask. My mum in law is a diamond really, I am not over close to her and sometimes I get the impression that she does not really like me much but she is fantastic. We have been going out with her every thursday for the past few weeks and she is such a laugh!!
@littletinker (273)
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28 Jan 09
Once....my Mother in Law was living with us for a year or so and she drove me mad sometimes.
We had a utility room where the washing machine was and it was in the part of the house next to where I slept and all of us were not comfortable with MIL just wandering about where I was sleeping....so we made arrangement that she came down on specific mornings to use the washing machine as she liked. And to just let us know if she needed in in case of emergency.
(The reason for this was that I was more or less in bed all the time due to being ill)
Anyway....this one morning it was her morning to use the machines....but.....me or my partner had not taken our washing out from the night before as I hadnt been too well.
Most people would say "Hey son....some washing still in here" wouldnt they???
Nooooooo not her! She took the washing out.....which was SOAKING as it had not been on spin and she left in on the floor!!! Not even in a basket....on the floor!!! Where all the dogs walked and where all the water ran UNDER the machines!!
Now tell me....how can anyone not get annoyed with that!??
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
28 Jan 09
Yeah, that's pretty rude. I had to have my mother live with us or awhile too, and I was horrible about taking the clothes out of the dryer when they were done. She'd get annoyed anytime she went to do laundry, but she'd always say "Hey, wanna go get your clothes out of the dryer for me?"
@stardustw83 (435)
• United States
26 Jan 09
lol sorry i know that its not funny but im just amazed that i'm not the only one that is highly annoyed by their in-laws. my mother in law is very annoying to me and my husband. she tends to think that the world should revolve around her and if things dont go her way then she throws a fit by either stomping away or not talking to either one of us for awhile. so to say the least she can be a brat
