Who should have to pay

Well that really depends on the customs and tradition of the place that they came from. There are countries that lets the bride pay for everything and others it is the guys family who spend for everything for the wedding. In the modern times now where both man and women work both side should share for the wedding cost given that it is so expensive to wed. I think your friend should think over if her fiancee family really want her to be part of the family for she still got the time to back out if there will be conflict with both families. What was the say of the guy in all of these?

Well, i guess that's their famility tradition but hey, if the groom wants the wedding to happen then he should do something about it.. you know, he's old enough to make decisions for himself.. here in the philippines, the groom usually pays the wedding expenses but if he doesn't have enough money to afford a grand wedding then he would make ways to make the wedding push through.. he could ask his bride to contribute something or he could ask for his parents help..

Well, i guess, they are just following the tradition but hey, if the groom wants the wedding to happen, he should do something about it.. you know, he's old enough to make decisions for himself.. here in the Philippines, the groom usually pays for the wedding expenses but if he doesn't have enough money to have a grand wedding then he would do something about it.. he could ask for the bride to contribute something or ask his parents to help him out..

I think if the groom's family really want to let the marriage happen then they should contribute something to it or rather make it a simple affair.If they are really very wealthy then they can arrange the grand reception after marriage at their own expense.They should keep the marriage simple. But if your friend is smelling some doubts then bride's family should reconsider their options. I hope everything goes well.

I don't want to support either the groom or bride. Just simply asking, why the bride's parents not ready to tell about only simple marriage is possible, because we can't do grant celebration at the time of starting to talk about marriage alliance? Bride's parents may have taught about groom's family is rich. so they will pay for the marriage expenses. If bride's parents were talked about simple marriage in the beginning means it is 100% sure there is no mistake from bride's parent's side and they have a right to tell we already told about our situation. Only solution to this problem is, arrange a marraige loan from either groom or bride, and both of them have to pay after marriage.

the groom's parent should pay most of the expense. the groom is their son, I was surprised that why they refuse to take their responsibility.

the bride pays for the wedding the groom pays for the rehearsal and most often the honeymoon. the brides maids pay for the bachlorete party and the best men play for the bachlor party. i have been married 10 years now and i only paid $60 united states dollars for our wedding. it was a very nice wedding granted i didnt have a $10,000 dress but i looked very eligant that day.

what I find humorous is that it seems like most people are always looking for freebies and handouts.Honestly, I feel that it is up to the individuals (ie Bride and Groom themselves) to pay for what they want.I dont think people should rely on others to foot the costs of the wedding and if they cant afford to foot the costs entirely on their own then maybe they should postpone it or consider cutting down the costs in various ways. It seems like often times in developed nations people tend to gravitate toward living off of credit and handouts period.I find it all quite silly.

It is traditionally the Brides family that pays for the wedding while the Grooms family pays for the honeymoon. I came from a family that didn't have much money, and I didn't have a large wedding. I had a very cheap wedding with only a few friends and close family as the guests. My husband was fine with this. My sister on the other hand married a wealthy man, who would have been very disappointed in a small wedding. My sister understood that my parents could not pay for a large wedding, and therefore wanted a small wedding. Because her husband insisted on a large wedding, his family paid for it, and i think that is fair. If your friends parents can't afford a large wedding, they should plan a small wedding.... maybe even elope. If that isn't good enough for her finace, then let him pay for something better.

I think the amount of money spent on weddings is obscene. The flaunting of conspicuous consumption to show how wealthy you are when you really cannot afford it is sad. Hundreds of years ago a bride put on her best dress and went to the church and got married. Only the rich who could afford it had a dress that could only be used for one day. The poor people and middle class want now to look like the rich people and parents of the bride and groom struggle with finances to put on this fake show. I see even people who have been living together already and even have children want to put on a big showy wedding. [rant over]

When my daughter got married to her first husband, it was after I left a very abusive situation. I had almost no money, but it was still a very nice church wedding. I only had food stamps and a part-time job. I used the stamps for the reception, which was held in the basement of the church. My mother wanted to get her something for her wedding so she bought her gown and accessories. I was able to buy supplies to make the decorations and Unity Candles. You can do alot with a little imagination and friends and relatives. In the past the bride had to have a dowery, then when that passed into the sunset, The Bride's parents paid for the wedding. Now days I don't think there are any set rules to who pays for the wedding. Although I think more and more couples are paying for it together. There are still some steadfast cultural traditions, though. I hope they get it worked out. By the way there are many Theme Parks that love to have Weddings in their parks. They even foot a lot of it for a price.

Not that it's any of my business, but I think they should postpone the wedding until they can straighten out the parent issues or the marriage will likely be difficult. There's no rush. Take your time. If in the end they feel they need to get married anyhow, elope and to heck with the parents and their financial bickering.

Hi CRIVAS!I think that both families shuould help with the wedding.However not everything.I feel that two of them may do something by themselves.When they make a decision to get married,they'd better have own economic strength.It is personal opinion. Best wishes and happy a good day!:)

i guess one-party payment times are over!!its time both take the share and burden.its better both ofthem share the expenses 50-50.so that nobody will have a holwin the pocket!!

i know traditionally it's the bride's parents responsibility, but who goes by tradition now a days anymore...i think in this economy and day n age if you can't afford to pay for the wedding on your own, don't expect others too, just wait til you have money saved. i saved 11000 for mine and didnt expect any one to put in, but my mom offered to buy the dress when we did the fitting, and my dad paid for the reception dinner when we went. i didn't ask and i didn't expect it, i had the money for it, but they wanted too.

If they can't afford a wedding, they should cut back. I once knew people who couldn't afford a big expensive wedding. They did it in their back yard. They had a barbecue and asked friends to help cook and bring food dishes. The wedding cost next to nothing. The wedding itself isn't important. It's what comes after that counts. The marriage.

I know it's a time honored tradition that the bride's family pay for almost the entire wedding, but I never understood it. They only people who SHOULD pay are the bride and groom. If there is someone else who can, and wants to, pay, then that's fine, but IMO, it just one more thing that is expected and oftne taken for granted. The bride and groom are adults. They should pay for their own wedding, to the best of their ability. If the grooms parents aren't happy with that, they should stop being judgemental and pitch in.

It´s usually the tradition for the bride´s parents to pay for more of the wedding, in this case however I think that the groom´s parents should foot more of the bill given that they have a lot of money. The cost at the very least should be split down the middle as these days weddings can be very expensive. I think it´s bad of the Groom´s parents to simply expect that they don´t have to pay for anything, they should be prepared to pay at least half and respect that the bride´s parents don´t have a lot of money. Happy Mylotting!

I think they should discuss that situation both sides of who is the responsible for that, Usually groom side, do that things or both i mean they can help each other, or maybe ther are some problems between the bride and her parents in law or i dont know, but groom's side or parents are responsible for that, but they shoul plan that expenses the time that they are planning to do that,. If i am the bride im not going to have a big wedding, they can go to the judge and bring some witnesses and have the judge sign the papers and done if they really wanna get married they can do that, just forget who's responsible for the expenses.

Actually this sort of story is common. I just don't know about the culture of other countries, but here in my country, the one who should be responsible covering the wedding cost is the groom. But due to financial issues, both the groom and the bride help out each other to cover all the expenses. Base on your story, IMO, its not that the bride's family should be responsible paying the expenses but instead the groom's family just doesn't like the bride. Most likely because of their current status. You already said that the groom's family have a good financial standing, while the bride's family is the opposite.