What is your secret to a happy marriage?
By paula27661
@paula27661 (15811)
Australia
January 27, 2009 12:58am CST
I heard on the radio recently that Cate Blanchett is of the opinion that one of the secrets to a happy marriage is "spooning" every night in bed. Can't argue with that I guess except we would probably disagree on who should "spoon" who! What do you think? Any hints for maintaining a happy marriage?
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@eagle_f15 (1827)
• Malaysia
25 Apr 09
Well it's been 10 years knowing my husband. We courted for 7 years and been married for 3 years. The thing that kept us together has always been open communication, trust, honesty and sincerity. Whenever there's a misunderstanding, we would settle the issue before the "sun goes down" meaning that we don't let it carry to the next day. And we have a motto " the problem is the problem". The person is not the problem. So we have to settle the problem.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
25 Apr 09
I love your motto! Separating the person from the problem, that's an intelligent way to deal with disagreements etc and so is resolving issues before bed time. Thank you eagle great response!
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
25 Apr 09
To have a happy marriage, it takes a lot of work from both wife and husband. Things shouldn't be done by just one, but both. I get married in a young age with the man who is 20 years older than me though I surely love him. I learned a lot from him and vice versa. Marriage isn't all about happiness, it is also about trust and respect. Communication is one way of having a happy marriage too. You don't have to show perfection with your partner, but show the imperfection you have.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
25 Apr 09
Beautifully said. I agree in regards to the importance of trust and respect. Thank you for a thoughtful response. I appreciate it.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
25 Apr 09
That's a good one!
I am single but my experience from people around me tells me that key to successful marriage is to understand, support, giving respect, allowing space, letting go and never going to bed without making up whatever trifles going on.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
25 Apr 09
That's so good to know. I have seen relationships start to suck by just not allowing each other to breathe. I am a passive kind who tend to take life easily and letting go helps me overcome the hurts.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
25 Apr 09
Allowing each other space is so important to me. It doesn't take long for me to feel stifled Fortunately my partner and I have achieved a good balance. Thanks mimpi!
@Dasari100 (3791)
• Anantapur, India
25 Apr 09
For secret to a happy marriage then my advices is loving ever each other and understanding, respecting,caring,en courage always each other,responding the situation so always be with the partner behind at any kind of situation that makes you the strong foundation of the happy marriage.
then they won't get problems
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
25 Apr 09
True Dasari, respect, encouragement and support are vital for a good relationship.
Thanks!
@stargirl85 (218)
• United States
27 Jan 09
My second year anniversary is in May and I could use the same advice how to be happy in a marriage. Im not happy right now but I think its because he have anough couple that moved in with us. My husband told his friends they could move in and its been hard on me.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
27 Jan 09
That's a bit rough! Does he know how you feel? I would put my foot down in that situation. Thanks for responding, let me know how you go.
@marisriel (1156)
• Philippines
27 Jan 09
That's a sad thing, stargirl. Didn't your husband consult you before making the other couples move in with you? Those kinds of things are things when couple should really agree on. Privacy is a very important thing for me and my husband. And every thing that will concern him, me and my kids, they should be decided by the two of us, not only by one. Respect is also one key. Ours is not a perfect relationship but I think we both are doing our best to keep it as strong as possible. We are already celebrating our sixth year wedding anniversary this year and we have been boyfriend and girlfriends for five years before getting married, so that's a total of eleven years already! We have so many downs in our marriage but I am still proud of it because I think my sacrifices, though we are still far from the perfect family that I have always wanted, my sacrifices are all worthy of it.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
27 Jan 09
Thanks for the response marisriel it seems you have the right attitude in regards to your marriage. You are so right in regards to decisions; they should be made together. Hope stargirl85 resolves her issues with her husband. Thanks again, great response!
@montevilla (550)
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24 Oct 12
Communication is obviously key for us, as is intimacy. We hold hands, cuddle, and go out a little dates such as movies nights. we eat out and we tale a walks, we talk about the future, our plans, and we support each other in anything we do.
happy mylotting!
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
16 Nov 11
Personally my thoughts and hints for maintaining a Happy marriage are being open and honest with one another, willing to talk and share about anything. Also being able to Trust, like doing things together, and just allowing the ME times as well. I also feel number 1 thing that helps with my husband and I is a relationship with God. Being able to pray when things get down, and believing to trust in God for all things.
@Mangalaram (5)
• India
14 Aug 12
Hi,
There are many reasons by which we can maintain a happy married life. Happy marriage is standing on faith on each other, sincerity with each other and trust on each other too. One should not see the other person as a slave or bonded labour specially a woman. Both are equally responsible to built a happy married life, also we can say it is an adjustment in two persons. Whether she or he, they have their own values and both should respect the same.
