Is there anybody out there just like me??

it is good ,you have reached some sort of compromise,the unrealistic expectations of each other causes misery to everyone involved.forget about the other person,life has to move on.

my situation is very much different from yours, yezzyk. i got married to a man whom i had no intention of marrying at all. he just forced me into marriage with him by creating a situation which forced me into it. well, while we were living together, i have known the most miserable years of my life. i have waited for the time that he will change into his good self since he has family already. yet, after my second child he stayed to be as irresponsible as he could get. so, i decided to leave him behind as i will go home to my hometown with the children. he didn't allow this to happen. he came along with us to the province. only, he had proposed that we do not separate because, he will be leaving to work for abroad. i thought things will be fine already. when he came back from his stint abroad, he is just as irresponsible as he used to be. well, another child came into the picture before i get to realize this. now, he is with somebody else and my three children haven't forsaken me. they are all of majority ages by now, by the way. so, for you, it is good that you have found a comfortable relationship. the truth is, you only think that you are not that much in love with the man that you are with right now. in fact, you are so very much in love with him and you will only get to realize this once you get separated for any reason there might be, like work.

There are times when I feel like I am in that situation. My ex was the love of my life and I will always love him, but he made the decision that we would never make it if we had gotten married which devasted me. He told me to move on and find someone who does want to marry me. The man I am dating I love very dearly and I do want to marry him, but there are times when I wonder if I love him more than my ex.

I think there are a lot of us who have been in that situation where we are in love with one person, but they don't want us or for some reason we can't be with them so we move on and love someone else, but it's not in the same way. I mean who really gets to be with the love of their life? I hope against all hope that I get to be with the love of my life whom I see as my current boyfriend, but we never know.

Couples do tend to have misunderstandings and fights, otherwise the marriage is not stable. I agree with one of the mylotter here who commented that you tend to realize the love that you have for that person only when you are seperated. Anyways, this website talks of some ideas that were put together by analysing the problems faced by couples generally and the article gives steps to revive a broken realtionship. This is not a referral, just that I can't add all the points here, that I am redirecting to a article. http://www.socyberty.com/Relationships/Steps-to-Revive-a-Broken-Relationship.472763 Happy mylotting.