Solitude
By Pose123
@Pose123 (21635)
Canada
January 27, 2009 7:49pm CST
We all need time alone, even those who consider themselves to be social butterflies. Solitude is very necessary for reflection and it may be spent listening to music, lost in a good book or for some, in meditation. Sometimes we may need to be alone just to do nothing or to enjoy the sound of silence. Solitude will revitalize us. Yet we have to be careful, too much isolation can mean that we are hiding from the realities of life and can be physically, emotionally and spiritually unhealthy. Just as we need our "alone" time, we must also remember that as human beings, we are by nature social creatures that thrive on human contact. Use solitude as a time for rest, personal growth and invigoration, than we can return to work and to our relationships restored and ready for life. Your thoughts please.
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
Hi Pose123! I really love what you said here and I agree with you completely. I do love being alone sometimes since this can give me the rest and break from everything. I do love spending some time for myself, alone in my room or sometimes all by myself at home. I usually spend it just meditating and doing nothing, thinking nothing..just listening to what my body and that inner voice inside my heart tells me. It does invigorates me and calms my heart. Thanks for sharing this thoughts.
Take care and blessings to you always my friend!
lovelots..faith
@angusthethird (515)
• United States
28 Jan 09
When I want to get away, and to seek my Lord's Face in prayer, and spend time alone with Him, I will tell her I am about to wander into our bedroom and have a little time between myself and Him.
If I don't spend time with Him alone, I will go nuts, and my thought life will take turns I don't want it to take.
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@Citizen_Stuart (2016)
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28 Jan 09
There are times when I absolutely crave solitude. I'm a natural loner, but I've had my brother staying with me for some time due to some financial problems he's had. So I'm rarely alone, either at work or at home. Sometimes I just want to get into the car and drive out into the countryside for a few hours.
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@mansha (6298)
• India
28 Jan 09
Oh! I enjoy the peace and quite after everyone else has gone of to sleep. I just listen to music surf the net, do whatever that p;eases me and its great. I loe being alona and am quite happy if left alone. May be thats why I love com you don't need anyone else just you are here talking chatting to people that do not judge you and are comfortable among anonymous faces.
@maoandfan (19)
• China
28 Jan 09
i think the most crucial way for us to keep calm is keep our innermost world peace but not absolutely find a solititude place to live in.
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@maoandfan (19)
• China
28 Jan 09
In this noisy outside world,are you really able to find a solitude place to live alone?
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
28 Jan 09
I love solitude, Pose. As it is I am an introvert and quite lazy and sometimes I love being selfish. Its usually on the weekends when my hubby is out tour that I would just send over my son to my parents so that Friday evening onwards, I have me to myself till Sunday morning, when hubby returns. I love the time I spend with myself. Doing nothing is in fact a great balm on stressed out nerves.
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@positiveminded1977 (7072)
• India
28 Jan 09
Hmmm....I used to feel miserably lonely few years back. :) Now, with a baby around, there is no time even to think about loneliness or solitude. Hahahah...I will be lucky if I get even a few second of "ME" time...I guess I have to wait for him to go to school. LOL!!
Cheers and happy Mylotting
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@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
28 Jan 09
Hi Pose123,
I definitely agree with you.
As much as I enjoy fellowship, I also yearn to be alone. Only when I'm alone, I can clear my thoughts, set my goals and truly rest. The past few years have taught me not to waste time on certain people. Now, I only spend my time with my loved ones, my good friends and myself. I try not to waste too much time on people who are just trying to waste mine.
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@jocruzy (15)
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28 Jan 09
Definitely we need it. Just as how we need time to be with others, we also need time to be alone with ourselves. This gives us not only the energy to face the day/s but this could also lead us to be at peace with ourselves.
Most especially, as said, the introverts usually have to draw back to gain energy and prepare oneself in any confronting situation. When we see others being aggressive and appearing extrovert, we cannot conclude directly that they are. Because a lot are actually introverts. Hmmm... Kindly give yourself a little time and reflect; are you an introvert or an extrovert?
@deborahkat (519)
• Brazil
28 Jan 09
I totally agree with you. I wish I had used my time alone better when I lived in Holland. I remember when I had to stay away from my boyfriend in a friend´s house, this friend was a truckdriver and passed most of the time travelling. So I used to spend a lot of time alone. I started to feel in panic just to think of being alone. I felt like if I didn´t exist being in a foreign country where not a lot of people knew me and remembering that in my country (brazil) people were outside talking to each other and enjoying the warmth while I was isolated in a cold house completely alone. If I had thought I could use that time to take care of myself and rest things would have gone better for me.
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@Cryptid (72)
• United States
28 Jan 09
As a very spiritual person I find solitude quite necessary to spiritual growth and development as well as personal reflection.
I spend a large portion of my time in solitude in reality.I often find it hard to be among average or very wordly individuals as I am not accustomed to the unnecessary drama and over emotional incidents among many of the worldly people I know.
I also find it easier to get far more work done alone than alongside another individual.Many people like to be around me when I am trying to get work done but then they just try to chat and dont help really and it just distracts me overall from my work.
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@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
28 Jan 09
The solitution exists in our life. Sometimes , I feel lonlely in those times. Sometimes, the solitutuion is a good time to refresh. I learn how to do during that period.
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@mslovely101 (177)
• United States
28 Jan 09
Well solitude is my middle name. I feel alone a lot and have a few friends that are just too hard to get to. The best way that I deal with it is too be online and be with my son.
@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Jan 09
I like my solitude. I am not very social at all. I am a writer and this gives me time to think on what I am about to write and to do it. I also like to just be by myself. I do enjoy being around people but not alot.
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
28 Jan 09
Even though I like to be in the company of my family and friends,there are moments in life when I enjoy my own company,and like to sit and spent time leisurely.I feel this is the time, I can think of and devote to myself,and also the time to reflect on my interactions with others,and trying to readjust my thoughts and rearrange my priorities and my concepts about things in general .This is also the time i utilise to do things I like in my own way without any interferences.I love my moments of solitude,and it helps me to tune myself properly at regular intervals......
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@ktosea (2026)
• China
28 Jan 09
I just cann't agreen with you more,we really need some alone time to enjoy the sound of silence,we can thinnking and read or do something else we are willing to,we are social creatures but that not means we should not have alone time.solitude may help us to be refreshed and be more active in social activities
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@tracie1758 (507)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I totally agree. There are some days when I just need alone time. I never get anytime to myself during the day. I pick about one night a week and tell my boyfriend that the upstairs of our house is mine and to pretend that I'm not here. He's in charge of our daughter and everything going on downstairs. I take a nice hot bath and then curl up in bed with whatever book I'm on at the moment. We all need a break like that every once and a while.
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