Frustrating myLot members
By oyenkai
@oyenkai (4394)
Philippines
January 27, 2009 8:55pm CST
I have no idea why so many myLot members start a discussion asking for opinions but when you do give them a piece of your mind even though you were careful enough to make sure you're polite in your phrasing, they still call you narrow minded for not seeing things the way they do.
What's up with that?! We're not here to say "you're right", we're here to *discuss* things.
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8 responses
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
28 Jan 09
Some myLot members remind me of my first husband. He always said When I want your opinion, I'll tell you what it is!!! Sadly, he wasn't kidding. 
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
28 Jan 09
Oh hell yesssss....a long time ago!!! But I recognize the same mentality here. They ask for an opinion when they really want an agreement.
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@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
28 Jan 09
yeah its annoying. If you don't want others' opinions then don't ask. This happened to me recently. Someone asked if it was possible to be gay, and christian. I of course started off explaining that I have nothing against those that think they are gay, and they should be treated with respect like anyone else, and are always welcome, but no you cannot be gay, and christian since they conflict with one another. Dude went into some kind of rage going off on me, told me what a horrible person I was, and then gave me a negative rating.
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@oyenkai (4394)
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
I never thought you can determine if somebody gave you a negative rating... How?
And about being Gay and Christian - I don't have a personal stand on it but Pope Benedict sure says that it's impossible.
However, there may be something that you missed in your reasoning if you don't mind me commenting on that: the Christian choice is governed by one's conscience. No matter what the Pope says or what the Bible says, it's still one's conscience that we are to follow. If someone utterly believes that being gay is the Christian way of life for him, then he should follow that - and that's between him and God. - We can't really say "because the Pope told me so" when and if we were asked in the gates of Heaven, can we? :P
Just my thought :)
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@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
28 Jan 09
Sure if you change the wording of the bible, and make up your own ideas of what is allowed, then anything goes. But when you've made up your own rules, then is it still Christianity, or does it become another religion. Example Catholicism. I think you can tell when someone gives you a negative rating. If your number goes down right after someone makes a really harsh comment about your response. its kind of a good indicator they are the ones responsible.
@g_aileen09 (1354)
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
i was once a victim of that scheme. there are some members who don't seen to know the meaning of tact and diplomacy. pity them.
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@Paula1966 (1102)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I wish I knew why people react like that too. Some people will be very offensive in their wording, and then get really hot when someone responds in kind. It is like watching a circus sometimes.
@melvill (392)
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
Really they call you narrow minded? How sad.
Maybe because each member has different point of view. Your opinion is not understand by that member, maybe because of culture differences. I don't know if I'm correct.
Happy mylotting! You should not be angry, you will grow old fast. Joke!
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@oyenkai (4394)
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
Yeah I've been called narrow minded and ignorant - but the guy who told me I was ignorant took it back after he thought over my response LOL. The one who told me I was narrow minded however, is being stubborn about things and I don't want to just let the topic go without making it clear for her so I try to be as nice in my comments as possible. It's like baby sitting.
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@pharlan (31)
• United States
28 Jan 09
Some people just see the splinter in your eye looking past the block of wood in their own. Its the pot calling the kettle black. They call you narrow-minded because they are so narrow-minded that if you don't agree with them something must be wrong with you. Get It?
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@Barb42 (4214)
• United States
28 Jan 09
Lots of people start discussions to make money and so they ask for your opinion. They really don't want to hear it if it's not their same feelings. So, you are a loser before you ever start with those kind of people. When I'm confronted with those kind, the next time around I remember that and skip their discussions.
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@Ephraim123 (274)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
I think it's already below-the-belt if they'd call you narrow-minded. The attack is too personal and thankfully, I haven't had comments like that in myLot(newbie here). For me, it's all about having respect to other's opinion.
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