Do you lie and tell your friend he /she is not fat?

i dny like.

no i dont like to lie anyone

i think i am honest with friends. but i think most of my chubby and fat friends accept themselves. they know they are chubby or fat. they dont need to ask me if i think they are chubby or fat. they usually just ask if they look ok in a certain outfit or if they should change or if the outfit makes them fat. and i am honest, telling them which outfit looks better on them at that moment.

It does depend on the type of friendship you have. My best friend and I would have no qualms about telling each other we were getting fat and neither one of us would take offence, but I know that there are others that are more sensitive about it so I wouldn't say anything or I would say that it doesn’t matter to me, which it doesn't. I could not imagine pointing out to someone that they have gained weight just to make myself feel better. I don't think telling the truth is bad as long as it doesn't hurt someone else unnecessarily; I do hold back from saying things in case I cause upset; I don't know if that is the right things to do or not...

Telling the truth sometimes feel bad to somebody who gets hurt. There must be some kind of nice words in a way to say the true things about him. A joke? no not really but a serious comment that makes a person happy. Sure, I do not tell a lie to a person in order to help him or her. There's nothing wrong being fat. That's natural. To accept the truth makes you free. Right? Happymylotting.

someone once told me that it's not good to tell fat they're fat but i think it's better when you let them know so that they try to cut down their excesses

If they get mad at you for telling your opinion, then they're not real friends. It's normal to get upset, but not annoyed on the person who told you their opinion - you asked for it, right? I understand how it's like to ask someone about how you look and they telling you something that you don't agrea with... But really, that's not a reason to get mad at your friends. That's what they're there for, at least that's my opinion of a true friend - someone that will always tell you the truth, no matter how cruel it is. Afterall, that's only their point of view anyway... There's no general truth, everyone has a different perception of reality, so she/he might think of her/himself as fat and you mgiht find her/him different. There's no correct or false answer to anything. And a true friend would accept the others' comments, even if she/he doesn't agree with it. They must learn that everyone sees reality in a different way, it's stupid to get upset because of how other persons see you. If you like yourself, that's the only thing that matters. If all of us would live our lives by what others think of us, then what will happen to our own perception? It would mean we'll all take for granted everything the others say and try to please everyone... Obviously that's not possible and it will only make you feel bad about yourself even more. You are weak if you let others' opinions influence your own life and opinions. Ok... sorry I may have deviated a bit from the subject... but that's my opinion, I hope it helps your friends :) You don't have to change your behaviour for them and neither your opinions. They must learn to accept them without getting influenced or affected (that much...). If you don't comment it's the same as if you'd say something bad about them, that's how they'll take it, because if you'd have a good opinion why would you keep it away from them? I know it hurts to hear a bad opinion about yourself, I hate it too when that happens, but I try not to get so worked up about it.

lying is never good but to hurt a person feeling just because is not good either.she don,t need you tell them they are fat they are ready know it.and it know one business anyway with all due respect.

I DON'T! That is why I offend a lot of people hehehe

I think you can tell who's sensitive and who's not. Mostly I never tell any of my friends that he or she is fat. It'll most probably hurt their feelings. If we're rally close then I could mention how he or she looks to have gained some weight. But I never say "you're fat." I wouldn't want anyone saying that to me either!

in my opinion,if she is my best friend,i could sincerely tell her the truth and my real opinions.but if we are ordinary friends,i will think about her fellings,sometimes i will lie about the truth avoid hurt her fellings.

Sometimes I do lie and sometimes I tell the truth.. Depends on the personality of my friend. If I know that the person would not keep any bad feelings if I tell the truth then I go for it.. So when my friend is sensitive, i would rather lie

if you're a real friend, you should always tell your friends what they look like if they're asking.. it will do them good.

Sometimes you have to lie to people to make them feel better if they are trying to lose weight and maybe they are losing weight it just isn't that noticeable. You just tell them that it is so that they stay motivated and keep on trying. But with my friends if they aren't even doing anything I just don't bother to lie. Tell them the truth but not in a harsh way maybe be nice about it so they know that your maybe just concerned about their weight.

I don't tend to lie if someone looks really horrible in something I will tell them. I hope they don't get mad at me but if I tried to lie they would know anyway. I'm the worst liar ever. I can't do it even to big meaningless corporations. So I figure whats the point of attempting to?

Well most of my friends are not fate and non of them is sensitive at all. In fact even if I had a fat friend he rather wouldn't have asked because he would know what the obvious answer would be cause we are all very frank and straight forward towards each other. I think he'd know that some of us might even start making fun of him now that he mentions himself that he thinks he's fat. I don't believe in giving false opinions cause the person who asked should expect both answers otherwise he shouldn't ask.

telling a truth isn't bad but it will all depends on the person hearing such truthful words! I wish they would realize that we do not mean to hurt them.. its just that we would like to be honest about what we think about them than letting them know that its all good while in fact it isn't. True friends are true and would love to be like that whether or not they'll accept that.

first off, i hate when people ask others if they look fat. other peoples' opinions of how you look does not define you! everyone has a different perception of what "fat" or "skinny" means, and people come in all different shapes and sizes that can all be beautiful, or ugly! that being said, when a person asks this question, they are clearly already insecure in their body image. i wouldn't suggest telling him/her that they indeed look fat. it's usually best to avoid the situation altogether, whether the person is what you consider fat or not. in those situations you can't get out of, and assuming this person is someone you are friends with and are close to, i would simply tell them they are beautiful. as a friend, that isn't a lie, and they will be able to take that with them as a compliment, rather than dwell on how fat they think they are.

If he/she is my close friends, I would tell he/she the truth whether good or bad comments. But I try not to tell bad comments to somebody like colleagues or people I don't really familiar with because you don't want to hurt people feelings and they might not know you just want to tell them the truth.

Honesty is the best thing for human. But telling the truth to someone that is pretty sensitive is going to make thing worse. For me, It's better for people to give critics and judge me accordingly. I'm sensitive towards the people who "judge a book by it's cover".