How do people who have beenmarried for 20 years plus stay together

In my parents case, they only lasted for 20 years minus a year. Lol. So that makes nineteen years. They are separated now and have nothing to do with each other. Those years they were together wasn't really love but it was for me, my brother, and my sisters' sakes. So congratulations to those who have parents who are truly in love and to those couples who are, too.

well in almost a month my wife and i will be married for 24 yrs. i guess the secert is, learn what to fight over, and how to deal with it as well. always be honest and truthful. tell each other you love them before leaving the house, and before bed, and on the phone. and through the time you are home together. never go to bed mad at each other. learn to listen more not talking. and feelings are never wrong it's just how you feel. and most of all if you know older couple just watch what they do. and us men just what our wife tells us too do.. j/k

That is not necessary. People living in conservative societies like here in India may be living together jut for the sake of respect.

I've been told by a great teacher and friend about this that this kind of thing (being married for a long time) is not really ALL about true love. Most probably can say it's true love but true love is not all the time a perfect love and relationship. For such a long time of being together, both of you WILL change... You get into fights because of differing views but what holds you together is because you both CHOOSE to be together still despite of it all. CHOICE is a very important thing in love. You have loved someone, you love someone, and you can choose to love that person until you still can. My parents have been married for 35 years already and such a thing is evident in their relationship. They almost called it quits, they fought a lot of times but still they chose to be together and settle any differences. My mom told me, the love 35 years ago and the love now is TOTALLY different. It's so different that you can barely think you're in love, I'm not saying this HAPPENS to EVERYONE though.

hi thesoph, I think it is true love.So that they are still connected with unseen wire of love to 20 +

It depends maybe true love for some and companionship for some. For me I would love to stay with my partner 20+ years and more. I hope that I could lived and I would married a guy which I deserves to.

For some, it could be true love. For others, it's just having learned to put up with each other. lol. Still for some, it could be just staying in a marriage for the sake of the kids.