Did you start having problems with your friends in college?
By katran
@katran (585)
United States
January 28, 2009 10:44am CST
They always tell us that college is a changing experience, which is why high school sweethearts don't often last through college. You go in as one person and come out a completely different person. It seems lately that this is not something that only affects romantic relationships, but affects friendships as well.
Lately I have found that me and my best friend of 5-6 years have very little to talk about. He went to college in Missouri and got more into the party scene and it seems like we have less and less in common. We fight a lot about stupid things, and most of the time after we talk I just end up feeling bad. I know we have both changed as people, but it seems like we might be changing into incompatible friends.
I think a similar thing is happening to my boyfriend and his best friend. He said they don't seem to have anything to talk about or anything in common anymore, and I think they just get on each others nerves. Did this start happening to you in college as well? How did you deal with it?
3 responses
@jlamela (4897)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
These things happen to me also. When I was still in high school, I have this very good friend of mine, we are really best friends, it lasts until college, when we both graduated and find respective jobs, we became less and less comfortable with each other, I find her very boring where in fact in our high school days we are inseparable and we shared common things, right now I don't find her nice anymore and we don't talk anymore.
But there are friends also back in high school that I am comfortable with, but rarely it happen that I last long hours talking to them. Most of my friends now are the one I meet in the company I work with.
@oriyadoctor (259)
• India
28 Jan 09
At times yeah. I do run into problems rather I say they are conflicts. But then you can not say good buy just because something does not turn out good. So whatever happens I try to resolve matters as soon as possible. So bottomline is do whatever you like but always make sure at the end of the day your friends are with you.
@tracie1758 (507)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I believe it's the distance. I lost a lot of my high school friends once I started college. Everyone meets new people and there's little time to keep a close relationship like the ones you had back in high school.
