Even long after marriage
By bamakelly
@bamakelly (5191)
United States
4 responses
@StarBright (2798)
• United States
28 Jan 09
We have been married since 1964. It's a two way street. Keep him happy. He keeps me happy. Not a difficult job at all. Doing what comes naturally. Still crazy after all these years.
@StarBright (2798)
• United States
28 Jan 09
LOL. I have kids your age. Hang in there. I know what you mean. It should not cost you your own happiness to be married. You should be happily married. It won't always be easy. It requires work and wanting to make it work from both parties.
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
28 Jan 09
That is a good long time to be married. You have been married for longer than I have been alive. I am going to be 41 next month!
Good for you StarBright that you have a good marriage that has sustained throughout the years. If you are with the right person it probably does not hurt to try keeping the other one happy.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I've been married for 6 yrs and we've been together for 10 and in all honesty its NEVER been about "keeping him happy"...but thats just me...and flip of the coin I dont expect him to keep me happy...If I or he can't find that on our own thats each our own problem ya know..Just like I've never changed for my husband and I never expected him to either..
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@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
28 Jan 09
Thanks for writing back. I think that you make a lot of sense in what you say about the fact that it isn't about keeping anyone happy. I do believe that we need to find happiness within ourselves first.
Why should we change? We need to accept each other in life flaws and all.@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
28 Jan 09
Why should we change? We need to accept each other in life flaws and all.
Thats just it...My attitude is, he was cool with who I was when we met and started dating so why would I change after we got married ya know..Just like I never wanted him too.
@sona22 (1430)
• India
28 Jan 09
We have been married since 1990. And we never find it difficult to make other happy against one's desire. Where there is love and affection it is come automatically. It is not a question of sacrifice at all to us. Yes, we have to compromise something. But the compromise not at the cost of unhappiness.
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
28 Jan 09
Very well said sona22. I couldn't have said it any better myself. The truth is the fact that it shouldn't be a hard sacrifice just to make our partner happy. Where there is love there is always a way. Take care and thanks so much for the clever reply!
