What does it mean to you?
By Jess
@JJ4Ever (4693)
United States
9 responses
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
30 Jan 09
Love should be easy, but its not always. Its also worth fighting for to keep it. You and your honey are an example. Your love for each other isn't a fight, at least with each other. But your love is worth fighting for, I am talking about the outside forces that are working against you. I really feel for you and JJ. My mom never liked and approved of my husband, and he was good. Now its too late to change the past, I think she has learned from it. I have noticed that she is so much more careful and nonjudgemental about my sister boyfriend. Its up to us to choose our mate and live our life. I know they want to protect you, but all they are doing is driving a wedge between you. Good luck with everything, I wish you all the best. Its really nice seeing you and getting the update, (your response to another post). I hope I have made sense to you. Take care, stay warm, becareful on the roads and THINK SPRING!!!!
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@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
8 Jul 12
Hey, Polly! I was just going back and revisiting some older discussions of mine and came upon this one. My hubby and I will be celebrating our three-year anniversary this week! Can you believe that? When we were discussing this topic, we'd just set a date. Time flies! Thanks again for all your encouragement. Almost three years later, we're as much in love if not more than we were when we set the date. 
@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
2 Apr 09
Hi, Polly! You are so encouraging. This discussion really hits home for me. As a result of my fight FOR love (rather than AGAINST my love - lol), we're getting married on July 11, 2009! There is going to be conflict and things to fight for, but it'll be worth it in the end for the exact reasons you mentioned in your response. I certainly hope my parents don't learn the hard way, but what you've shared definitely gives me hope! Thanks so much for all your concern and support. You have been such a sweet friend for a long time, and I hope you know how much you are appreciated by all! This is a wonderful lesson for so many to learn - not to spend life judging others and what they do, but to live life to the fullest and love everything about it...make good choices...have no regrets. Thanks for the encouragement. Great response! (By the way, happy official spring!) We should be staying warm soon now. Take care.
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@scarletrose_2000 (192)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I think that this quote means that love is not meant to be a fight between lovers but that the lovers should be willing to fight for the love they feel for each other. The fight it is talking about is not a physical beat down but more over the determination and ability to stay together despite what others may say or think. In a relationship we will always have times we do not agree but if we have those moments more than the moments that we can get along and agree the love is probably not going to stand the test of time. This type of love would be useless to fight for because it will fall apart in the end any way.
I have some what experienced this. My husband and I have been married 10 years but no one thought we would last past the first year or so. No one looking on the outside thought we should "be" together but we knew that we should because only we knew how we felt in our hearts. We even had friends that went as far as to put bets on how long our relationship would last! We have had our fights as all couples do but we have remained strong and determined to hold our relationship together through it all and we have done it.
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@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I love your response; it's beautiful. I also appreciate the example of your own relationship that you added. There is so much truth to what you said. "The fight it is talking about is not a physical beat down but more over the DETERMINATION and ABILITY to stay together..." I couldn't have said it better myself! I like how you went into depth on the fight. Without that determination and love for one another, I don't think a marriage could last. I'm so glad to know that you in your marriage were able to beat the odds and bets that other have placed on you to prove what a true, solid, and healthy marriage is all about! Congrats to you and your hubby for your 10 years of marriage and another 10 to come, I have no doubt. I appreciate your response more than you know! Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts and wisdom!
@scarletrose_2000 (192)
• United States
28 Jan 09
Thank you very much for your response. You are very welcome for the response. I am glad that you enjoyed reading it. I also want to thank you for wishing my husband and I another determined and great 10 years. :) I enjoy knowing that my responses helped thank you for letting me know it meant a lot to you.
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@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
Love is not a fight, but it's something worth fighting for.. well, a love for me is a thing that makes you happy, makes you smile, makes you crazy, makes you laugh, makes you cry, hurt sometimes that's why "LOVE
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@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
28 Jan 09
Ok, you got me going here. I don't think it really means what your first impulse is. Like, a fight between people, arguing. 
For some reason, and don't ask me why girlfriend, haha, it reminds me of, oh man, this is hard to explain. Um, you know how some people fight themselves NOT to fall in love? They don't want any part of it, but it happens without them even knowing it. It comes naturally. Oh my gosh, I can't explain what I'm talking about. That's why I don't blog, lol!
It's kind of like, when it happens, it happens completely unintentionally, and in the end, it's so beautiful, you WILL fight to keep it. 
HaHa, I'm just laughing at myself because I can't explain what the heck I'm trying to say. 
It's kind of like, don't fight it, but when you find it, fight for it.
For some reason, and don't ask me why girlfriend, haha, it reminds me of, oh man, this is hard to explain. Um, you know how some people fight themselves NOT to fall in love? They don't want any part of it, but it happens without them even knowing it. It comes naturally. Oh my gosh, I can't explain what I'm talking about. That's why I don't blog, lol!
It's kind of like, when it happens, it happens completely unintentionally, and in the end, it's so beautiful, you WILL fight to keep it.
HaHa, I'm just laughing at myself because I can't explain what the heck I'm trying to say.
It's kind of like, don't fight it, but when you find it, fight for it.1 person likes this
@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
2 Apr 09
Not only do I know exactly what you mean, I've also experienced it firsthand! I love how you attempted to describe what you meant because not only does it make perfect sense to me, but now I have to share my experience with you! (LOL) I remember going to college thinking I was going to get my "MRS" degree, if you know what I mean - ha ha. I remember trying so hard to find "the one." It seemed like the harder I looked, the less successful I became! It was weird, but I understand completely how the process works. It wasn't until I gave up and stopped looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with that "the one" was practically handed right to me! It was crazy, but it worked. What I wanted so badly fell right in my lap the moment I stopped looking for it. Almost five years later, I'm still fighting for it! (If you've read some of my other more personal discussions, you'll know that I literally have had to fight for what I have!) That makes your response so valuable to me because I've been there and done that. Thanks for your excellent response. Well done, my friend!
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
29 Jan 09
hi jj, i think love is worth fighting for, if you really love the person..what ever it is..whoever it is..as long as love is there..you will fight for it..cheers
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
29 Jan 09
Love is not a fight? hahaha well, for me it means when you are in love you should avoid fighting each other for no reason. Understanding each other's weakness resolves the fight... on the other hand Love is worth fighting for? Great!!! when you are in love no matter what happens you are always there for the one you love even if YOU against the WORLD if you are in love with each other no body can separate you though the heavens fall, you will fight for that love. Just my opinion.
@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
2 Apr 09
Thanks for sharing your opinion. I agree with you and especially like how you mentioned that you'll stand by the love of your life, even if it's standing against what seems like the whole world. I've never thought about it in that light, but I love your persepctive. Thanks so much for sharing!
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
28 Jan 09
TO me, it means that love isn't about fighting each other or trying to have things your way or anything like that. But it is worth fighting for. Love is worth defending and doing everything in your power to show your love for someone.
@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I love it! Yes, you're so right. In the time a person would spend fighting, he or she could just be enjoying being with that special person. I think love is definitely worth fighting for too! That's what I love so much about this quote. It puts a whole different perspective on things. It helps us to see what's really important. It's almost like when you fight with your siblings. When I was younger, I'm sure I fought often with my 4 sisters and 1 brother. However, when someone at school or wherever else started picking on my sibling, I fought FOR them instead of WITH them. I think that's the truth that is being portrayed here. Hold onto those things that are most important to you! Hold on so tight and never let go. Thanks so much for your beautiful response!
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
28 Jan 09
[i]That is a beautiful line there! Quite deep yet meaningful!
In my own interpretation, when we love someone, we are always ready to fight for our love, not the destructive fight! LOL! Fight in the sense that, we are always willing to be with the person whatever the trials and imperfections of relationship, we will not give u[/i]p@
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@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
28 Jan 09
You did a great job of portraying what love is really about in your response! We may think that we're with someone we can't possible live another day with (LOL), but yet when we put it into perspective, we really can't live without that person! I think so many times we can get sidetracked from what's really important. That's why I love this quote so much. There's a LOT of truth to it. Thanks for sharing in this discussion! I appreciate it. 
@celticeagle (167071)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Jan 09
To me it means love shouldn't be a situation where you are fighting all the time but rather be important enough to both people that you continue to fight for it. Do all the things you need to and that is expected of you to keep it going.
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@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
2 Apr 09
I can't help but agree. I think it's great team work when a couple can stop fighting with one another long enough to realize what they're actually supposed to be fighting for, which is staying together. I think if a couple has the determination to keep going, nothing can separate them. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, my friend.
