Is it true or false ?Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater

@akangirl (2436)
India
January 28, 2009 4:38pm CST
Discovering your partner's affair gives you such heartache and pain that you doubt you'll ever recover.But when the cheater tries hard to win you back. Should you forgive him/her? Is this cheater going to cheat again?
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@samma00 (342)
• Canada
28 Jan 09
I don't know. I have forgiven a guy for cheating on me, only to be dumped a week later. So I don't know. But I do know, that I have cheated on my last boyfriend but I know I could never do that again to me current boyfriend. I don't think once a cheater always a cheater. sometimes the cheating was a mistake, like maybe drinking, and sometimes people can't control. but i guess it depends. if they kissed a girl, I could deal with that, but if they had se.x with them I don't think I could.
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@akangirl (2436)
• India
29 Jan 09
That was very rude of that guy who you forgave but instead he dumped you. But it happened for your own good i think
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• United States
29 Jan 09
I think it depends on the circumstances behind the cheating. A fling on a business trip (providing the fling is with someone met on the trip and not the secretary) may not be anything to worry about. Cry, yell, give the silent treatment for a few days, be bitter for a couple of weeks and then forgive. An on-going affair....bad news. Chances are if a married person carries on with an affair for any extended period of time (months, at least, usually years) the chances are pretty good that, if they even leave their spouse at all, they will later cheat on the person they were having the affair with. At least that's the way I see it.
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@akangirl (2436)
• India
29 Jan 09
Yeah you are right
@cybersoft01 (1284)
• India
29 Jan 09
It's a very good discussion topic. And for me its hard to say whether he/she should be forgiven or not. I have not cheated on any one and I no one has cheated on me. If I find that my partner is cheating on me, I think I would forgive her as I have a soft heart.
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@rj0921 (115)
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
that will be a big yes.. And I have heard more than once. They will never change, maybe he/she will show you he changed but then after sometime he will return to cheating and hurting you again. And it happened many times not with me but to relatives. Maybe you could forgive him/her but then its up to you if you'd go on with the relationship and do your best to make him/her change which will probably fail..
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@akangirl (2436)
• India
29 Jan 09
Everyone is different. Some really want to change
@ktosea (2026)
• China
29 Jan 09
oh,that's hard to say,my friend,someone believes that once a cheater,always a cheater,I partially believe the saying,but on the other hand,man really could change if he make the decision to change and focus on it.we have no certain rule to decide who will be changed and who will not,all depends on the man himself.
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@akangirl (2436)
• India
29 Jan 09
Yeah that depend on man whether he changes his habit or not as impossible is nothing
@tudors (1556)
• China
29 Jan 09
He who cheats once may cheat twice, more times in the matter of love. unless you welcome heartbreak, tears, those negative mood, then take him back as quickly as possible. Or throw it away into the dustbin.
@akangirl (2436)
• India
29 Jan 09
Yeah relationship even after forgiving turns sour
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@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
29 Jan 09
I believe it really depends on the person and the reason the person cheated. I know people who have cheated early in a relationship to later go on and never cheat again, or at least they say they didn't. I truly believe people can change if they really want to. We al make our own decisions and if we really want to make a change within our lives it is possible. Even a cheater can make that change if they put their mind to it.
2 Nov 10
I really think that a person always deserve a second chance. but if that person still did it, then maybe it is time to break-up and find someone who will be faithful to you.