Can you be FRIENDS with your EX?
By rebekah_ash
@rebekah_ash (169)
Philippines
7 responses
@rebekah_ash (169)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
I just think that hatred and grudges should be put aside. It's part of immaturity to still hate the person when things are already in the past.
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
Well the intent seems to be friendly but do you think your husband will think like what you are intending to do. of course you cannot take from your husband that there is something intimate that happened between the two of you and it could start something in the process of making a friendly gesture. If your husband is okay with that I see not problem with that too but your husband think otherwise.
@rebekah_ash (169)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
No worries... i don't usually talk to any guy without my husband.
@chelle9960 (27)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
At first it would be hard to be friends with your ex...but as time passes by, all wounds were healed, you can be friends...but you should know how to handle the friendship with your ex...it's hard so it's up to you if you want it...
@rebekah_ash (169)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
Yes. I don't want to play with fire. Even not with the ex, relationships outside the marriage should be careful.
@ericajoyce (1746)
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
Hello rebekah_ash. I can never be friends with my ex. He hurt me so bad and as much as possible I dont want to talk to him. Im not mad at him anymore but I want to be distant with him.
@rebekah_ash (169)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
As of now that the pain is there, I think you can not really be friends. But time will tell when you are ready... We also need closure.
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@donnakristel (1704)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
well, if you are former friend, then it will be easier for you to be friends again. but if not, then it will be difficult.
and if you have a present relationship, then i think your partner will somewhat be jealous.
@littletinker (273)
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29 Jan 09
I believe that you can keep past relationships civilised but not as far as friends....and to be perfectly honest, why would you want to be friends with an ex? You have split up.
I tend to find that this is usually something that women want, not men. Its women who want to stay friends with their ex's but I dont know why.
If you are married why jepordise your marriage for the sake of remaining friends with a guy that you slept with? Or with a guy who it didnt work out with? Why does your husband want to be familiar with this guy? He would have to be because all people in a marriage are friends to the couple.
It is not complicated at all. You do not need to be friends with any ex. (unless there are children involved and then it becomes the 'civilised' scenario)
@rebekah_ash (169)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
No. I just thought about it but I got no plans. Like what you said, if ever we bump into each other I just want to be civil.
@marie_cehl (50)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
Yes as a matter of fact all of them are my friends but not so close. We have the same school years back so everytime there is an event we mingled. Past is past and I hope my love for my bf gives him comfort. :D
@rebekah_ash (169)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
Yes that's what I am talking about. You see most of my ex-suitors are my friends. Their wives are my friends too. And they are my husbands friends. But still I limit my socialization with them if my husband is not around.
