Why does he not put his dirty dishes into the dish water?

There may be nothing to wotty about. People have different method or way of doing certain things. Most are entrenched in their ways and it is not easy to change them. For example the way I fold clothes is different from how my spouse does it. So is the way I hang the clothes. I would arrange them in sequence and hang them my way. As for the dishes I do not soak everything together. I put them aside and wash them according to category. Drinking utensils are washed first. The dirtiest dishes are last. So yout partner is not alone. all the best, rosdimy

Maybe he will get used to doing that eventually - The less you sweat it the less stress you will put on both of you and maybe eventually he will do it. I used to get mad at a girlfriend I had several years back because she never turned of the lights - I would come home and every light in the house would be on - I would get so frustrated because she did not seem to listen. So every night I would fuss and she would get upset and fuss as well - I finally came to the conclusion that a few extra dollars a month on the electric bill is worth peace in the house- If it were possible - I would pay a monthly fee to come home everyday and have peace in the house - so her keeping the lights on all the time was worth it. And once I stopped talking noise every evening when I got home - she soon started to turn them off. It was a win/win situation in the end.

Well not to worry he will get used to it maybe where hes coming from some of his siblings that washes may not one putting plates into the water shes using to wash or like the pates beig stacked at one coner and keep the sink free..

Remember that you two just started living together and 9 months is not a long time to undue traits you have learned either living with family or living with your self. What you might try is ask him why he thinks it's such a chore to move them the extra 2 feet into the dishwater. It would be interesting to hear his response.. I know it's frustrating but sometimes you can't make a person change things that they have done their whole life in a total of nine months it takes years sometimes to retrain them to do what we would like them to do. LOL!! My other half hates doing dishes and will do them half you know what if asked to or made to. He hated when I got deathly ill and couldn't do them because then he was in a situation where he had to do them LOL!!!

You have been living with him for the past one year and i think it is not a long period to change his habits and traits which he had nurtured during his past life.He might not had been pinpointed by anybody about his habit of not putting dishes into the dish water.Give him some time but do not get tensed or perturbed.Forhim i think it is not an issue at all and you are taking it a bit seriously.As your relationship goes by he will definitely adapt himself according to your ways and means.

I have the same situation but I have accepted it otherwise there would be word fights every evenings. Guys just don't pay attention to such things as we girls do. Anyway, I try and explain to my boyfriend that I accept your untidiness so please be so nice and from time to time respect my love for tidiness, and it helps - he really washes dishes and cleans up the house. I have understood talking in soft voice is better, it reaches the goal you wanted to reach.