how do you handle a problem like... HUBBY?

I think men are worse then kids when they are sick. It drives be up the wall they would rather feel that way instead of taking something. I just learned to say to my hubby, oh I'm sorry you feel bad. There is medicine in the cabinet. Then later if he still persists i ask did u take anything? If he says no, I reply, oh.. Well don't complain to me, it's your own fault for not taking anything. It usually shuts him up, lol.

You are not the only one that suffers when your husband is sick. I too have to deal with the whine moster when my hubby is feeling under the weather. I have never been able to understand why when i feel bad, I am still expected to do all the stuff around the house that I normally do; but if he feels bad, he can't even get up to get himself a glass of water. lol And as for the medication, my hubby is the same way...doesn't matter what I get from the store or what we have at home already, he won't touch it. I too am baffled by this mystery. Perhaps some kind gentleman out there would be nice enough to respond and let us know the reasoning behind all this. lol

That is your baby who needs attention, the attention needed is just to let you know its not easy being sick! what make us oaky is when you have shown all of your love and care to us, if we still whine just leave us alone, go out or sleep, abandon us for some time and you will see miraculous healing but while you are away you may call and just say hey how are you feeling the moment you hear fine you can crop the phone before we start whinning again. Mind you we can't be traded for anything whatsoever!!!

Oh geez. I think this is a male gender thing. I don't mean to be well.. MEAN about it either but it seems like most of the men I know are like this if they don't feel well. For the most part, WE cater to our husbands and try to help them feel better. I have a good hubby and when I'm not feeling well, he does what he can to help me, including keeping kids from climbing on me or coming in the bedroom, he'll go get food so I don't have to shop or cook, and he'll even clean up a little so at least all the dishes are not sitting around all over the house. My hubby WILL usually take meds if I get them for him, unless I get him the WRONG kind.... Honestly sit him down and tell him that you are trying to do what you can to help, so he can either be appreciative and accept it, or you can just NOT help him lol. That oughta do the trick, most men will understand if you put it bluntly.

Some men are babies, (men please do not get offended) I have experienced with my husband he wants to be in perfect health but do not want to take simple vitamins, he could not shovle the snow but I did, simple little things around the house he will call Mr. Fix-it. Listen to this once the car alarm went off did not think to check the battery in the key holder but he wanted to take the car in to the dealer so I went out bought batteries to replace the old one in the key holder and it worked fine, so hang in there I believe my husband was a whiner.

The only thing worse than a sick man is a sick baby. My husband drives me INSANE when he's sick. It's not like he does a heck of a lot to help out around here anyway (ok, ok...besides pay the bills)! He had a stomach bug about a week or two ago and I swear I thought I was going to have to take him to the ER to get him to shut up. I waited on him hand and foot as well as took total care of our kids because he couldn't move without wanting to puke. Funny thing, because the next morning he was outside working on his car. hmmmm....makes me wonder.

My ex was like that..he just liked to complain...he was a whiner and a wimp... he was scared to go to the dentists, scared to get shots, scared of everything. I like am like my dogs, I am sick, I crawl in the corner, cover up and want to be left alone. The dogs tend to be smarter then many of us(read that my ex) in many cases. You know what, just get the medicine, wrap it in cheese and give it to your husband...

you have to have a heart to heart talk with him. let him know there is no shouting or fighting because you want to know what he is feeling and in turn you want him to know how you are feeling. let him know you feel guilty everytime he's coming under the weather. ask him why he wouldn't take his medicine. that it would make you happy if he takes it and be a good patient. let him know that lately he seems to be whining a lot. ask him what's really bothering him. if he says that "oh it's work, it's the traffic" or something really mundane, you tell him but almost everyone has the same problem but they never complain. ask him what things he is thankful for. that losing those things are not compared with the things he whine about. those things he is bothered with are always going to come. it's part of life. he couldn't control it. what he must do is do something about his own actions. everytime he wants to whine, to think about the things he has instead and be GRATEFUL for it. you in turn say things that you vow to try to be more patient. have a system when he feels he needs to whine to tell you right away, so you guys can talk about it. it's such a negative thing. and i know how affecting it must be for you too. like you feel yourself getting sick too right? you have to make him aware that he is now in a marriage. which means there are 2 people in a household. you have to look after each other, not just yourself. good luck!

Hello ruthinian! I remember when my husband got sick too. He never complains but he is also quiet. I guess he just wanted to be alone or something. I tried to be there with him eventhough I felt that he doesn't want to. The good thing is if I wanted him to take medicine, he will take it. Try not to and I will leave him..hehhehe..

We have the same problem but mine is with my daughter. My daughter is 26 and she's a high school teacher. When she compalins of headache, she won'take paracetamol. She would rather ask you to get a herbal oil to meassage his forhead. She was diagnosed as with a very low hemoglobin, she won't take the prescribed pills as she don't want the odoe. She would rather eat the required food in order to get her red blood rise up. I often worry as when she feel something wrong she would just want to sleep and when she woke up she feels better. When I insist for her to take med I would insert the pill to a piece of chcolate or inside a fruit in order for her to swallow it. I keep on saying if I could only swallow this medecines for you, I will do it. (lol)

Hi, well I don't have a husband anymore but I have a b/f that I live with. He can be such a baby when he is sick with a cold. I tell him to take medicine to feel better and lucklily he does it. I give him medicine to knock him out for a few hours so he will sleep and let me sleep too. I used to have a cat and when I was sick he would come into my room and check on me, he must have known if I didn't get better it wouldn't be good for him.