Friend's Husband

so i take it you're are not interested in the exhusband of your friend (thank God!). where did he call you? you may want to just avoid him and not talk to him altogether. if he couldn't talk to you he'll probably just give up. ask someone else to answer the phone. if you live with your partner, ask him to asnwer the phone or ask that he be the one to do the voice prompt in the voice answering machine. i don't know what this exhusband's motives are, but if it is to find somebody to bother, he couldn't attain this if he couldn't talk to you. if you wish to tell this to your friend you have to be very careful about not putting down her ego. in any case, from my point of view the ex is not that sincere because his choice of words are disrecpecting to a woman! he's just probably wanting to hurt your friend and he'll know she'll know about it since you 2 are friends.

There is obviously a reason he is an ex and I remind him of it. I would put him in his place and make him not want to call back and then tell my friend of the conversation and let anyone else know he may contact and do the same too. Some men are such dogs! Well I guess women can be too as to not discriminate, lol. How rude to say the least.

I would tell him to lose my number!

There is no way I'd even consider playing along. I would tell my friend what he'd been doing, and then I'd tell him in no uncertain terms what I thought about him. It's not fair what he's doing, whatever reason he's doing it for, so don't let yourself fall into his trap.

There are certain rules to dating and to friendship. The first rule is you NEVER date a person your friend is seeing or has just broken up with. There are a number of reasons you just don't do this. 1) They hurt your friend or it will hurt your friend. The last thing you want to do is that! What kind of friend would you be? 2)The person could be trying to do it for spite to hurt your friend. If for spite on top of hurting your friend you look like an idiot. Now you have a pissed off friend and a laughing donkey butt saying look what I did to you. Not a good situation to be in. 3) Even if the person is sincere and wants to date you it will hurt your friend. If it did work out and you get together there is no way you can ever have them and your friend. They dated there is no O' yeah I remember the time we kissed in the rain and we are still best buds today. Be careful when choosing between a good friend and potential lover. Many times you all lose! On a side note of why you should not do this I would be pissed that he asked. You know all the dirt on the guy from your friend does he think you are stupid? He is insulting you and your friend all at the same time! He needs a good cussing!

God that's gross. I will curse him a lot. How dare he hurt my friend and now he is hitting on me?

Wow that is just wrong. Did you tell your friend that he called you? Maybe he was doing it to hurt her. It would really be spiteful and mean to hook up with your ex's friend. I'm married but even if I weren't I would never hook up with a friend's ex. If I were single the only way it would happen is if it was a situation where my friend would be ok with it, but even then it probably would be too weird.

i think better to reject his calls or any invitation... just to avoid bad things to happen... better to avoid him even communicating to him. this is also for the sake of your friendship with his wife..

ewwww...I would just tell him: "I have a husband. Don't call me again" then I would hang up. I think he's going nuts or desparate. It's a good thing that your friend has left him. Such people are like garbage. urgh

I will not only tell him that am in a committed relationship but I will remind him that his ex is my friend and it's absolutely awckward seeing him. I would tell him am not interested in having any involvement in him as this may cause further trouble in my relationship w/ both my partner and my friend.

Hello Jezebella! That's totally ew. It's like saying that while they are still together with my friend he fantasize me or something. I can't even think about it. Now I wonder why your friend left him because he is such a cheater, s e x maniac, and traitor. Glad your friend fianlly got over him.

I think that was done in poor taste. Glad your friend left him. I think it would tick me off. In fact I know it would. He had no right to call you and say those things. You are mutual friends, but he just crossed the line. Again, glad your friend left him. If he has so loose morals to call you with that suggestion while you are in a relationship, can you imagine what your friends life was like living with him?

This guy is obviously a creep. I wouldn't speak to him again. A good friend is worth far more than a fling. And that's all this guy would be is just a fling. He obviously can't stay committed to anyone. I never understood that about women that messed around with men that already had girlfriends or wives. What makes them think that the guy wouldn't do exactly the same thing to them. As if they're so perfect he would never think of stepping out. Well, think again girls that do that...soon enough he'll be trading you in on a newer model.

Well I see why your friend left him and she made a good decision. I simply will tell him not to call me every again am in a happy commuted relationship and I wouldn't disrespect my friend and my re;relationship unlike you.

Wow!! In reality it is Sad to see men who are like this. He should worry about getting divorced and moving on before hitting on other women and asking them out, and since you are in a committed relationship I feel this is even Lower as well. Personally let's hope he caught the drift and I feel your friend did the Best by choosing to leave him as well.

i think you were right in saying no.he seems to be a man with loose morals,otherwise how can he flirt with you when you are in another committed relationship.happy posting.

I think if a person like him has no right to call his ex-wife's friend and tell how hot she is. I think it is a good thing that your friend left him. I always believe that it is good to go for committed relationship than for other relationships. I think you should tell him straight that he has no right to disturb you and you are not interested in him.

I would stay as far away from that one as possible if you value your friendship and your current relationship! By that, I mean ....do not pick up his calls...don't visit him nor allow him to visit you. He obviously is looking for more than friendship with you or a shoulder to cry on.

Jezebella, I just cannot speak for him here, and I do not doubt some absence of moral decency on his part here. However, there is much I would like to put a point forward here and that is there will not be any fire if there isn't any spark. You should be careful with how you project yourself here especially when this bloke is around. Just let your ways be beyond reproach and exemplary amongst peers and love ones. Cheers.

I would probably curse his behind out. My goodness, what is wrong with men these days. There are two things that what was wrong with him even approaching you that way. One, he was your friends husband and two, you are/were in a committed relationship. Did he think just because he doesn't value commitment that you should feel the same and betray your friend and significant other? You should have gave him a piece of your mind, and not in a nice way.