Do you threaten your kids with the bogeyman if you don't want to spank them?

Though spanking is not a useful approach to discipline children but somehow it teaches children to be afraid of the adult in charge. I do use bogeyman to scare him at times when there is no way out to control. However, I trust that with spanking and scaring will only make children afraid to misbehave probably when we are watching. With all the screaming and just saying no is not enough. During holidays, I've been using a tactic - Reminder. Let them know what there are doing right as well as about the mistakes they make. Hearing good things makes us feel good and makes us want to do more. So, I say nice but true thigns to them everytime I have to correct them. Praise them even with little improvement. just like "Wow, you played all day without fighting" Adults do need reminder.. what say Children?

actually,i dont threaten them with boogeyman.but,i threaten them with chuckydoll.i have a life size chucky doll and his bride tiffany doll.my kids are afraid of them.everytime my kids are naugthy and dont want to obey me,i will tell them that chucky doll will move and get them.or im going to make them awake like in the movie.

When need arises, I threaten tham verbally that I'll just give you a slap, however, I refrain from spanking or beating them, they are growing day by day and I think, it is not good spank of physically beat them. It may not serve any useful purpose. It is better to tackle them through verbal communication.

I didn't spank.....and I didn't threaten with the bogeyman....I had other sources that I used for punishment....like time out...sitting in the naughty chair we called it back then....and when my daughters got older....taking away their phone previleges was the best...they hated it!

It is so easy to scare children. They believe most things you say and we use it to scare them and make them obey what we want them not to do. When I was still a child my mother usually scare me with a stranger. She would tell things about some people. But then I realized that it is illogical to scare children when you want them to do something. From my experience, I became timid when I grew up. It is still better to explain to children why we want them to do this or the reason why not to do something. It requires control within ourselves and discipline not to scare them but to explain to them about the things they should do.

I'm totally guilty of this. When I can't let my kids sleep early at night, I'll tell them, the "balut" (boiled duck's egg) vendor will be there and get them. I know that I shouldn't do this, but it really makes them go to sleep. I just think that they will just outgrow their fear when they know there's nothing to fear about a vendor shouting "balut!".

when they were younger i just spank them, and then tell them i am getting the boogy man . lol no j/k i just spanked them

I am not a parent but I do believe that my parents were pretty amazing. My parents probably spanked me like once or twice. But the fear I had of being spanked usually kept me in line. This was really effective with my parents bacause they always followed through. When they threatened I knew it was going to happen and I knew the consequeses of my actions. Since the boogeyman could never really punish your kids eventually your kids will figure that out. That would lead them to not believing you and eventually ignore you

I would never use the boogeyman to scare my children or use a scare tactic at all. We take things away from our children such as the TV, computer, games, etc.