How do you communicate with someone who is hurting you or hurtiing others?
By FayeSLongo
@FayeSLongo (306)
United States
January 30, 2009 10:31am CST
I was reading this book by Pema Chodron and she asked this question. How would you communicate with a personj like that? Careful now, the question isn't what would you do or how would you REACT, it's asking how you would COMMUNICATE with such a person.
It's actually quite a tough question....
2 responses
@become (89)
• United States
30 Jan 09
I have found that when I must communicate with another person who is causing me il, I sit the person down and communicate via pencil and pad. This way both parties don't necessarily express the emotions verbally and can stick to the words or paper. Granted emotions still fly, yet after a while hopefully they understand that the person hurting or being hurt is really doing it to themselves.
Now if you are talking physically, that is another conversation altogether,
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@FayeSLongo (306)
• United States
7 Feb 09
I actually do that a lot. When I find that I'm not going to be able to express myself in a civil way, I'll give myself sometime to cool off and then I'll write out why I'm upset and the specific points I'd like to make. I've even spoken to people with paper in hand so I wouldn't get off course. I know it may sound silly but it does work!
Thanks for replying.
@markbrauer16 (265)
• United States
30 Jan 09
you just have to tell them what they are doing and let them know that you do not like it.
