I'm mad and think I should be now what do I do about it?

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@wheel416 (1019)
Canada
January 30, 2009 3:21pm CST
Ok, I'm mad at my telephone company at 4 pm on a Friday afternoon and I think I have an absolute right to be! For those of you who do not already know I use a power wheelchair. This means that I must have access to a phone line at all times unless someone is going to be with me. I live alone, but feel safe and secure in the knowledge that someone is a phone call away and I've now worked with my neighbors so that they will be there within 30 sec if need be (I also have a service dog). Well, the telephone company apparently without telling me, was attempting to do some repairs to the outside of my apartment and to our complex. I just had a complete melt down because I went to call my neighbor to ask for assistance only to find that I have no phone! Now keep in mind, my phone is my lifeline and connection to the outside world, should I fall, I have a medical emergency or need any assistance for any reason. I had a complete melt down emotionally, because it is very stressful for me to think that I may not be safe and may not be able to get the help that need. I had already gone outside to get the closest neighbor I could find to render aid, only to come back, and find out, that after 15 to 20 minutes I now have a dial tone. I am angry and very upset that they did not at least warn me of the possibility of an interruption in my phone service for two reasons. The first being my safety and security. I think, that I should have been told that there may be an interruption, because my phone is a matter of safety not a convenience. Secondly so I could make alternate arrangements if needed. They have already been informed that my telephone line is an essential service and the importance of it. I had an emotional meltdown and was in tears because I was afraid, what would you do in this situation? Do I in fact have a right to be angry or mad? Would your address it with the company and if so how? What do I say? As always your thoughts are appreciated.
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@nowment (1757)
• United States
30 Jan 09
There are times when lets face it service goes down, it could be something that is like the situation you have described and because of this, yes as a matter of courtesy a notice should have been sent not just to you but to everyone in the building, since you are PAYING for the service, if they are going to interupt the service they should in fact notify EVERYONE. Regardless of being in a wheelchair or not. Now the other side of this, is have you at any time informed the phone company of the importance of the phone line, and why you have special needs that makes it vital that you are not with out phone service? If you have notified them and can verify this such copy of some thing sent in writting, which I do think you should send to the phone company certified return reciept so that in the future you can be protected legally, should something like this happen. However reality is there are times when phone lines go down, someone hits a telephone pole, ice storm causes damange, or just old age. So that while in this particular instance when the phone company knew there would be possiblity of people being with out phone service in a specific area they should have notified those who pay for the service but it is not as realistically feasible as it once was. When the phone company worked on the phone every one knew it was ma bell, now your service provider may be ATT but the company working on the phone lines might Verizon. SO now what? Verizon has to work on lines and it makes sense that power is not goin to go through the lines while they are being worked on, so now this could mean that the people who use verizon were notified of possible loss, but those who say used AT&T or another service provider wouldn't have been notified. With the things that a cell phone can do today it may be a good idea for you to get a cell phone. Before you mention that this is not a good idea for you, my niece also in a power wheel chair and also somewhat visually impaired and not able to say type up what you have on the computer, has a cell phone. She is home alone at times, she has a land line, and can not properly work a cell phone it is very difficult for her to do so because she has extremely limited use of left hand, and the visuals since the cell phone is so small, she can't really see it very well What we have done was programed the phone with speed dial so she literally only has to flip the phone open and press the first button number to get help. This way if for some reason the land line phone goes down, and she is home alone, she is not stranded as you were. So I get and understand where your anger, frustration and very real panic came from, there are going to be times when things happen to phone lines that are beyond your control and yes beyond the control of the phone company, such as losing the line because of loss of power or someone hitting a pole, weather, or other unforseen problems. I do feel that it is a matter of courtesy expecially since as you said it was work that affected residents of a particular building, So put something in the mail saying, that work will be done on such and such a date at such and such a time, and you may be temporarily with out service for hour or 4 hours or what ever time frame they had. So they were wrong. Depending on who was responsible for the repair problem it could be the service was done due to UNPLANNED repairs that you were not aware of, if this is the case there is very little you can do about it. It would however be a good idea to get something in writing explaining your situation and the need for phone service and that they need to let you know about any PLANNED repairs or work that may interupt your service so you can take appropriate steps to ensure your safety and well being. I would also suggest getting the cheapest cell phone possible so you don't have this problem in the future of being completely cut off. The other thing is something you need to think about you said you paniced, but you are in an apartment building, you use a power chair, and you do have a service dog. You had ways out you were not isolated, you could have left the building, with the dog, there is little doubt at the loyalty of most dogs but service dogs from what I have seen are exceptionally devoted and protective of their companions. This offers you a measure of safety and protection no matter where you go. But since you are in an apartment building, and the service went down, get the dog, go to the nearest apartment and yell if need be. Oh and in an emergency, yell fire it gets people's attention faster than anything you can imagine. So perhaps having a plan should some kind of unplanned service interuption happen again may help you not panic so much when it does happen, and notifying the phone company of your requirements in writing means you have measure of protection. My uncle's health was such that the phone company had to ensure he had service regardless so he could call out for medical assistance if needed. I know most utility companies will work with people with disabilities for the very simple reason they do not want to end up on the local news as being the one who is mistreating a person with disabilities. Good luck in finding a solution that works for you. Oh depending on what type of internet access you have if it is dsl, or broadband, find out about if not a cell phone as back up, then magic jack as back up it cost 20 dollars a year for service and there is no limit to usa calling. I have not had land lines for a long time I use cell only, but my niece comes to stay with me for this reason I got the magic jack and if she is over and I need to run out I know she has a phone she can use.
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• United States
30 Jan 09
If it were me? I would take it as a test from God, to remember that I must always trust on him, even though thats REALLY REALLY hard when you get down to the little things, like needing help, but Yeah, I would be upset too, that they did that, and I would probably end up filing a complaint. But I would also spend some time with God, and ask him about it, and share with him about it.... Lorl, I don't know if you are christain or not, but for me, its near impossible to seperate my walk with God from worldly life lol. sorry if this is the wrong answer :(
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• Australia
30 Jan 09
I wouldnt realy do that coz im an atheist. but nice comment!
@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
31 Jan 09
Hi there Lil, Thank you for your very kind words in this situation, I certainly have faith in something larger than myself although I do not necessarily consider myself to be religious, so I did in essence say a prayer of sorts if you will, that went something along lines of "Oh, Dear God, I am in a bit of a sticky situation here that I'm not sure how I am about to get out of it, so if you got any suggestions I'm certainly open!" But, talking to God or a higher power is only going to help me so far. It's not going to bring help into my apartment if and when I need it, and it is not going to pick my sorry butt off the floor if I fall, I'm gonna need a little bit of human help or intervention in that case, which is why I was trying to figure out what I am going to do about the problem, into alert someone that I was indeed, sort of marooned on my island apartment. Was God gonna tell my neighbors that I didn't have a phone, well if he was going to he didn't, and so I had to go find somebody to alert them that I had a situation. But thank you for your kind words and thoughts. And, Thanks Insincerely, for your kind words as well. However, I would like to point out that I am not wheelchair "bound" as you say, I I do not see my wheelchair as confining in any way, in fact my wheelchair is freedom, it is liberation, and it allows me mobility.... Just a difference I would like to point to... As one is extremely negative, and the other a much more positive outook Thank you all for your kind words. And happy Mylotting!
@oldboy46 (2129)
• Australia
31 Jan 09
If I was in you situation, I would be absolutely furious. There is no excuse at akll for this to happen and in fact the telephone company should have advised all their customers who live in the same building as you wheel that they were going to be working on the lines. Personally I would not telephone the company but instead send them a strongly worded letter so there can be no misunderstanding. Also sending it in writing gives you a record of advising them and what you said as well. I personally cannot imagine how it is for you but accept and understand that it could not have been easy. As the telephone is your lifeline, it is only natural that you were seriously concerned when it was not working. Without prior notice that work was going to be done ont he phone lines, you also did not have the opportunity to organise for someone to be with you in case of an emergency. For several months now my mother-in-law has been living with my partner and I while she waits for hip replacement surgery. She is not in a wheelchair but she has to use a walking frame and a motorised gopher type bike to get around. She has her own home but had a fall one day when she was alone and luckily my partner called around there just as it happened. I know my partner was terrified it could happen again which is why we insisted she move into our place. Some months ago all the phones in the area went off when someone cut through the cables. It was going to take a couple of days to repair and although my partner has the mobile/cell phone, sevice can be erratic. My brother and sister-in-law were visiting at the time and because my s-i-l has a heart condition and also had a stroke last year, the telephone compoany lent us a satellite phone in case there was an emergency. It was provided free of charge. My s-i-l didn't think it was necessary but everyone else was more comfortable knowing it was available if needed.
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
31 Jan 09
I can understand. As a wheelchair user myself I depend on the phone too especially if no ones here and its just me and the cat. My phone company knows that I am disabled. I told them so that they would know that it was a emergency if they ever had to do work on my building and they would let me know. If Canada has such a registration system you should register. Also I have a cellphone for backup in just these sort of situations. If you don't have a cellphone I would recommend you getting one. In America, there are special programs that allow low income people to get cellphones cheap and in some cases free. I don't know if Canada has those programs although I would imagine they would because they are so far ahead of us in other matters like health care.
@TessWhite (3146)
• United States
31 Jan 09
I can understand how scary that would be. I would contact the phone company and talk to a superviser and explain the situation. I'd also suggest that maybe you get a cheap cell phone. I don't know where you live but some areas actually give you a cell phone for emergency use only when you are disabled. I'm not positive but I'm thinking it was Verizon who does this? But mainly I would make sure the phone company has you listed as "priority" service. I know being disabled myself I've made sure my electric company knows this. Because I cannot survive for long without AC in the summer.
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@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
31 Jan 09
Thank you very much for the information and the link. I am sure someone may find it useful, but it is an American program for those in the United States, I live in Canada, and so do not quailty and am unaware of any programs here who do the same. And in any case, I have a cell the problem with them is that they afren't reliable as sometimes you have a signal but sometimes you don't! Anyway, thanks to you both for your assistance and concern.
@MissAmie (717)
• United States
31 Jan 09
You're exactly right about the free cell phones. They have 60 mins a month I think. It's a government sponsored program called Safelink. Here's a link: www.safelinkwireless.com
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• Australia
30 Jan 09
Well. I recomend Anger Managment classes, But 1st if i were u i would try to control it for a while
@capirani (2840)
• United States
31 Jan 09
In your case I would recommend a little compassion and a bit of walking in another person's shoes for awhile before you pass such a harsh judgement. Are you disabled, in a wheelchair and living alone like the writer of this discussion? I don't think anger management is the issue here. She has a valid complaint and the phone company should have given some kind of warning to the residents in that building that phone service might be interrupted and for how long. People who are disabled and who live alone have to make sure they have all their bases covered. And if one of those preparations fails due to something beyond their control, it is a very good reason to panic and be afraid. You do not live in her body or her life. So cut her a break.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
31 Jan 09
i bet you want last long around mylot w/your attitude & stinky answers. sure shows u don'thave compassion for anyone if you could not sympathize. w/this lady in a wheelchair. u could be in the same shape one of these days & i bet you'd change your tune. how tacky u are.
@Lindalinda (4111)
• Canada
31 Jan 09
I can understand that you were upset, but remember you are not the only person with a telephone or special needs. It would have been nice if the company posted a notice in the building that there would be some work done. But would you have seen it? Also I don't know if Bell Canada or other phone providers have a program to notify special needs people. In any case you do have a power chair and a service dog. You don't live in isolation since you said you lived in an apartment building. Maybe you could have taken the elevator or wheeled yourself to the office or super's apartment. As there is a possibility that phone lines will go down, especially in the winter in Canada it would be a good idea to get a cell phone. If you are eligible for a free program maybe your social worker can make appropriate enquiries for you. There are also cheap phones and you can buy the minimum amount of minutes for $ 10 a month. Somebody could program all the emergency numbers for you. Often times people will ask what tthey can get for a present. You could suggest a cheap phone or money to buy the monthly $ 10 chip. You could put this money away and only use it for that purpose. Good luck, and don't melt down, there are always solutions.
@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
31 Jan 09
Hi there, Thank you for your response and for your kind words. You are absolutely right I do know that there's always a solution. I would however like to clear up one misconception that came from somewhere out of this discussion. I do not live in an apartment building, I live in a complex, so I do indeed have to go outside, or use a phone to get help. with that being said, I am kind of marooned and in isolation. And at that particular moment there was also enough snow outside that I was afraid I was going to get stuck while trying to ring our neighbors doorbell/ I would just like to clear that up for you as well as others may respond and offer the same consolation "you are not isolated you were fine". As for my power wheelchair the reason I have a Protect Alert Phone Service, is because I frequently spasm myself out of my wheelchair, and I do have a cell phone, but oftentimes, especially in emergency situation that, it is out of reach, or there's no cell phones signal. But thank you very much for your well thought out response, and you're absolutely right a melt down does not help, but there are few situations in this happens to be one of them that scare me because my personal safety is threatened. Happy Mylotting!
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
31 Jan 09
Always easy for everyone to give advice but this is a very frightening experience to someone who can't walk and no way to get help. I'm afraid we live in a world where people are loosing compassion and common sense for fellow man. Take care.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
31 Jan 09
u have every right to be mad & upset. sounds like your phone co. is about like the one we have here. i have had more trouble w/the phone co. here than all the other utilities put together. they should inform u anytime u are going to be out of service. i certainly would address the problem w/the company all the way to the top if i had to.i would call & ask for the top dog & let him have it w/both barrels. good luck.
@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
You have a right to get angry but you should channel it into something positive. Write them a formal letter of complaint and have them receive it, that way you can have something you can refer to in the future. If they don't do anything about your letter, wrtie to someone higher up, the chairman of the company of the Mayor. You can also use the media to further your cause, make them aware of what should be done in cases like that. Good luck and all the best.
@forslahiri (1042)
• India
31 Jan 09
Hi, I understand Ur point of view and respect Ur emotional outbreak.anyone will apparentlygo mad and feel absolutely insecure, in ur condition. But if I were U, Iwould have gone for a second-lifeline.A second contengency- plan, for such emergency situation only.May be a Mobile-phone connection(cheapest option).so taht if there is an emergency,I am contactable & I can contact others.Think it over... =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.