When for you is enough? (a relationship/love discussion)

That is exactly what my wife said to me, mothers are to love their children more than anyone else. I said duhhh! not my mom... Then as an observation my daughter who looks just like my sister would be taken on outings for Christmas things and my mom would spend hours with her. Then my mom would take out my son the younger of the two children, the children are 5 years apart, and my mom would only take him to the nearest five and dime for about 15 minutes to a half an hour at the most. This would repeat often enough that the children noticed the favoritism being show to our daughter. My wife then realized what my mother was really like, but too late for me as I had already been harmed then my wife started swinging. She swung from I was a good guy that she loved to I was the guy that could not do anything right. In the end she stopped reaching out to me and I felt like the complete driving force in our relationship, I felt so all alone, totally unloved and then she started to hide things from me... Now as I look around for things that she took from me I also realize that she was encouraged by the church to remove lots of items, my old bibles, I had a set of books for the game Dungeons and Dragons, there was a computer program that I created... All of these things disappeared with out my approval. Right along with my old check registers... That was a good way to track all of my activities, especially my financial endeavors. I wanted to show my daughter how much I earned in my first year of working I accounted for almost every penny that I earned. Today I keep all of my reciepts...

That's actually a good one. Though, I'm quite shocked of knowing that your other encouraged her to lie, I mean, aren't our moms supposed to love us more that others do?

Wow, it took you a long time to realize ey? Anyhow, I guess love could leave us blind or too tolerant at times, but yeah, there will always be a time when we truly realize that it's time to say goodbye but truly there's no easy way to say goodbye to love. Thanks for dropping by.

It's tough but I'm glad you had someone to wake you up and help you start over again. Hope things are better.

No, they weren't my friends and they got dumped right along with him. I'm very careful of making friends anymore and actually only have very few...at least I can trust them though. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG AND TRUST IN GOD**[/b]

Oh my gosh! That's really explaining how you wasted all those time for him. Are you sure your 'friends' are your 'friends'? How could a friend sleep with someone's husband anyway? Oh, I'm glad you finally opened your eyes and moved out. That's the best thing you've ever done for yourself!

At least you guys got to talk about it and saw things the same way, it would have been complicated if he still felt the same but you wanted something different, right? That's a good break-up, honest and quick.

I'm touched with your story. Love, life and marriage don't actually end with the "I do's", instead that's the beginning. Life wouldn't always be a bed of roses and you can't compute, nor formulate the perfect formula or system for life and marriage, it's actually truly is a vocation. It's good that you and your husband never see yourselves getting a divorce nor was it ever an option. I wish you and your husband a good life together and I truly wish I'd find someone who's think that way too and who'd help me think that way as well. Thank you for your thoughts.

Yeah, too many secrets would simply mean that there is no longer trust. Trust is important in any relationship.

Oh it's true. Regardless how 'busy' they say they are, relationships need caring too and it's not enough to say they love us, they also need to show it, just by calling we'd truly feel that they do. Did he ever call you? Did you talk to him about leaving?

Well, as they say there's no perfect formula for a successful relationship/marriage so we won't be able to say until we are in that situation. I do wish you well and hopefully you can 'talk' yourself through making that marriage a success.

Wow, the nerve of that guy dating others while he's living with someone else! Whew!!!

I guess he was burnout with your friend. Perhaps she made him blind with the whole world when they were together, that's why he found the new-found freedom when he started working. You know, it's not totally his fault. Yes, he may have loved her but it'd different when you try to control a person's life, and forces him/her to be isolated from the world because once they get out in the open, they realize that they've been missing out because of you and that causes anger. So, perhaps the fault is with your friend too.

Yeah, I guess, but as you know, we are bound to want 'forever' and would do everything we can with just a glimpse of hope left. I guess time could only mend our broken hearts, and only time could make us realize that we need to move out and move on.

You're so right.