does going out with friends still needs a permission?

sometimes i had to. But now I'm trying to make it as something normal. But i failed that,lol I think all wifes are the same

Well If I was your wife, I will pick a bunch of friends and go out too without saying anything. Well what will be your reaction? there is nothing wrong in telling your wife that you are going out with friends, suppose something happens and your wife dosen't know where are you, it wouldn't be fair on her.

I was very glad to see that the people here in mylot changed your mind about all of this. ESPECIALLY with a child in the house you have to think of your wife too. Just because you are out of the house working doesn't mean she is not working. being a mother is one of the hardest jobs on earth and we need a break too but we rarely get them. If I was married I would let my partner know and make sure there wasn't anything he wanted to do or had planned.

who are you married to your friends are your wife when you was dating her you was wanting to know where she was.now that you have her as your wife you say you can just go out and not check with her and see do she have anything she wanted to do before you make plan.you are not single anymore where you can just suddenly do things without checking with your wife.you are in a bond relationship with your wife.if she did that you would be anger.treat her the way you want to be treated.

You sound very selfish that you are refusing to see it from her point of view. If you do not tell her ahead of time that you are going to be late home then she will be waiting for hours watching her dinner ruin and become inedible. I have done this and there is nothing worse than waiting when you do not know why the person is late or what time they will come home. If you know they are going to be late you can make other plans and do other things but when they just do not turn up it is hard to stop thinking about whey they have not come home and you find it too hard to do anything else but watch the clock and worry about the dinner being ruined. I think it is just common courtesy to tell your wife ahead of time that you have plans to go out with your mates and then she can decide what she will do with her evening instead of waiting by the clock and worrying.

should there be any doubts being with your friends, i mean do i really need the permission of somebody else just to be with my friends. i am already old enough to decide and most of the time i really don't ask for permission or even telling to my parents who'm i am going to for the day. if one is committed, i mean is into a relationship, then having permission is necessary, cause you don't want to ruin the trust of your partner. and don't her to think the other way around.

wat selfish attitudes you men have.you wanting to go out with your mates isnt her problem its yours.one night a week should be enough, pre organized.You are a married man and you should have more respect for your wife than what you do.when you get married you enter into a partnership. As partners you discuss things first and work out plans to suit.Pull your head in mate and work out a compremise otherwise she might decide its her time to be selfish and not involve you.

I think even if you have an agreement that you'd be out with the guys on certain days of the week, you still have to let her know where you're hanging out and with whom. It's not nice to have to ask permission, but it's not really permission that you're asking. It's more like letting her know where you'll be and what your plans are. If anything were to happen to you she's want to know, right? As a married couple you both share something and that means that whatever you do, you should always 'consult' with your wife just so she isn't left in the dark.

I guess not a permission all the time but at least you inform your partner that you’re going out. You have to talk about it I guess because you need your own life without her/him being part of it though you’re already married. Maybe you should set a night out with friends being not together and agreed to keep it that way so you don’t have to ask ahead that you will be going out with friends.

Aking for permission? Yes.. The problem is sometimes she forbid me to go out with a friend, especially a girl. Sigh...

How about reversing the situation? You are at home, prepared for dinner and expecting your wife to join you in 30 minutes or so. But hours passed by - and she's not home yet and you got no words from her. How would you feel then? Now I hope you understand why your wife reacts the way she does. As we say it here in the Philippines, "we even look for our missing dog". You point out that it's a sudden plan. Ooops... mobile phones are not that expensive here in our country.

I am not married but yes i feel she is right in exercising her right to ask you y u went out without information. It is not asking for permission but informing that you would be late.. suppose ur late in office say 3 hours wont u inform ur wife that ur in office and would be late.. suppose she does same with you going out till late in night with friends and then who would look after the house & kids

I don't have that problem or circumstance, rather, my girlfriend doesn't question my night. I wouldn't be upset if she did though now that I think about it.

Well, thinking about how she must feel, she's your wife and wants to be as involved with you as she can. I definitely understand needing time with other people, I would never count that out. Just remember that when you go and spend time with your friends, does she have something to do? I know my fiancé wouldn't like it if I went off with some of my friends without telling her, mainly because it would just be bailing on her and leaving her at home to twiddle her thumbs. I would talk to your wife about it, that's the best thing to do.

Well let me just answer this as a wife who has this happen to her from time to time. I get upset if my hubby does not tell me he is stopping with the guys after work because I am expecting him home at a certain time. It is not a matter of permission granted but just plain old fashioned common courtesy. I start thinking the worse etc. And then it ticks me off to no avail that when I try to call him on his cell he does not answer because I will be upset at him. Well that makes it worse. If tables were turned, would you like it?

When I have plans I let my hubby know before I go. I don't ask permission, I just let him know. It's a courtesy. Maybe that is what she means. Other than that, I think it is ok for you to hang out with the guys.

Hi mark_mahlon, Yes if i go out with my friends i take permission from my parents.Because i am not come on the time they afraid,so i take permission.not only me every one take permission with their parents or husband/wife.its common.

From a woman's point of view, I can understand why your wife is concerned about when you go out. First off, it shows she definatly loves you. Us girls we have ways of showing love even if it is in ways of maybe "yelling" haha. But, yes, it's just you being polite to her and letting her know what is going on so she doesn't make plans for the two of you. And it's also nice for her to know when you are gone when you figure on being back just so she knows nothing went wrong and she doesn't have to worry about something happening to you. Just turn the tables and think about how you would feel if she would just go out with her friends and not tell you anything about it. What if you made special plans just out of no where because you just wanted to show you loved her, and then you had to cancel them because she was going out. It's not asking permission, it's just being good to her. Hope this helps!

I definately want my husband to tell me of his plans beforehand! I think it's just disrespectiful to not. I do have the same respect for him and let him know also. If he didn't tell me and I found out later, there'd be bigger problems than just him wanting to hang out with his buddies.

I don't think you need permission.. But it is important to let your significant other know where you're going. Now if it's a matter of whether or not you CAN go out shouldn't be an issue. You should be able to go out a night every once and a while.