I need some advice

United States
January 31, 2009 5:46am CST
I am currently 7 months pregnant. I just got married about a year ago. My husband is 30 years old and tends to drink a good bit. Well I knew this when we got married but he always did it around the house after work...which a lot of men do to relax. Since I've been pregnant he keeps leaving me at home and goes out with friends once or twice a week. He doesn't help me around the house, (which I have a full time job) he just leaves me there with our other 4 year old son by ourselves all the time. About 3 days ago we were sitting at home ( on a wednesday mind you) he just calls his friend up and informs me he's going to go out drinking for a little bit said he'll be back at 10. Well that did it for me I packed my clothes up and moved in with my mom. I told him he needs to grow up and start being more responsible because I don't think it's fair that he was doing this. Do you think I was wrong for what I did. It's been 3 days and he still hasn't called me should I call him or stick to my guns till he realizes that he was behaving wrong.
1 response
sudalunts
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
31 Jan 09
I think you were a little premature in packing your stuff and leaving. Did you express to him before he left that you were going to leave if he went out? If not, I think you should have waited until he got home, told him exactly how you felt, and then let him know that if he continued the way he was, then you were going to leave. I understand that you are upset and your hormones are racing at seven months pregnant, but you also must be reasonale and rational. Now, he is wrong for not trying to get in contact with you. Does he know where you are? One bad behavior does not warrant another form of bad behavior. He is probably trying to get back at you for leaving him, so he is not going to try to get in touch with him. You should call him, the two of you need to sit down and talk to each other NOT AT EACH OTHER, and resolve this. If going drinking is his downfall, and he is not abusive to your or your child, that can be resolve, remember you have a baby coming.
ducksbride
@ducksbride (19)
• United States
31 Jan 09
That's a good question..I let him know that I don't like him going out all the time it just seems like he doesn't care. I just want it to stop before the baby comes and I want him to limit his time with his friends. I feel rejected when he chooses not to be at home with his family. I Don't care if he spends time with friends but twice a week is too much in my opinion. Also I think that if he really did care about what he was doing he should of called. If I call him he'll think that he's right for doing what he's doing and continue.