I'm Shallow Hal (sort of)..

This is complicated in a way. Your friend cares very much about you definitely and don't want your feelings to end up getting hurt and all that. As for your new friend, he seems to be genuinely hurt. But then, he has to realize that it's not easy meeting a new friend, especially when one isn't clear about him or herself and being too good to be true. I see how you consider yourself to be like in the movie Shallow Hal. Go with your heart. If you think your new friend deserves a friendly meet up someday, you guys can arrange it again. However, seemingly that he said goodbye in an agitated mood, looks like the ball is in his court right now. If he treasures both of your new-found friendship, he would look for you back. This is what I think..

I am really sad BJ. I did not expect this in the least. And I know exactly what's going on inside you right now. Words are poor comforter and you will come out of it with time. Having said that, I just can't understand, why on earth did your friend have to goof up like this! Ok, I can understand he concern but too much of a concern sometimes spoils the peace. And also, I cannot understand your New Friend, who severed all ties on basis of that! He would ave been justified if he would try to know you better and just go by your friend's foolishness! I always feel its better to talk it out and know it all before taking any decision. Moderators haven't helped whatsoever, in my case. Right now, I am extremely jittery about the whole thing. This was not supposed to be the way it should have ended, if it had to! You take care.

Like Shallow Hal, I had something/one that made me happy enough that I didnt care what anybody else thinks. Thats the case with my bf and I..We make each other happy and I could care less what anyone else thinks of him (he's a parolee) or of the situation (I'm married) and so on...the ppl involved (myself, my husband and my bf as well as my kids) are all happy and cool with it so everyone else can jump off a cliff... In your situation I would have honestly b!tched out the naysaying friend....IF they had PROOF of some kind then I would look at the facts and decide from there how I wanted to handle it BUT without that proof as far as Im concerned your friend should have just shut the hell up or at least been subtle about it rather than ruining my new friends visit wiht me....to be perfectly honest it sounds like your friend was/is jealous that you were having such a wonderful time with this new person and I dont tolerate that at all.

I have seen Shallow Hal twice. Oh well regarding the issue here, I was in that situation too, but I guess I was the one who screwed up. The story was that, we started and met online then became my constant caller. I am very much comfortable and happy talking to him and I think he felt the same. We felt as if we knew each other for a long long time that we could even discuss everything from good or bad, our routines and even my mood swings. We planned to meet in person on his supposed vacation here in the Philippines last January 20th after my Birthday. He likewise planned to go to Ocean park and even asked me if I could travel with him either in Hong Kong or Singapore on March. However, last December, he made a confession that he is in love with me and he doesn't want to feel that way because am committed with someone else. So, he decided to avoid me. One time, I caught him online and there we talked. I said something which is not supposed to be said and how stupid I am saying those stuff which made him pissed off..I guess... My Birthday had passed and I know he is already here, but I have not heard anything from him. Honestly, I missed him - the days that he made me laugh, the days that he remind me of the things I would do for the day, his advices, etc. I wish I could return back time and should not have said those words on him.

Hi bjcyrix! Though I know how you have wanted it to last longer, but I'm happy that it ends before you have totally fallen for this guy. By the way you have described the guy, seems like he was inventing himself and making a good character just as you have said, "too good to be true". Anyway, I believe that if the guy really wanted your friendship, he will exert more effort and would not be annoyed by anyone. Have a nice day!

I would be furious with my friend if they did that. This is your life and your business and if it made you happy for at least a short time, then your friend had no right to take that away from you!!! Don't let him go away angry if you don't want him to leave. Tell your friend to back off and stay away from the two of you and enjoy the time you have. Maybe he isn't real, maybe he is a fake but who cares if your happy. You will find out on your own and unless you ask for your friends help then they should leave him alone as well as stay out of your business. What kind of friend is this who would deny you this short time of happiness? I wish you luck and I hope he has not left yet because you don't deserve friends who take happiness away just to prove they know better.