Who should teach your kids manners?

Of course its up to the parents. This should be a no brain er but some times parents haven't any manners themselves. My kids were raised with the magic words, Thank you, please, your welcome among others To this day they will tell me that they are so glad they were taught them. Especially when some one says to them what nice manners you have. I always thought that kids should be treated the same way I would like to be treated and should always be polite to others. I don't agree that the church or school should rinforce my teachings unless I was absolutely sure that their teaching and mine were the same. Which is not always the same.

I agree with you that parents should be the ones that teach the kids manners. My kids learn a lot from my wife and I by watching and they tend to mimic us parents and other children that they encounter for any period of time. Parents should be the primary teachers. When our children went to school, they would bring home so many bad mannerisms that we decided to home school them. They have thrived so much better since we made that decision. The best part is we get to teach the older two the mannerisms that they in turn hold one another accountable as well as keep the youngest one in line. The church plays the part of teaching them the spirituality they need to live a balanced life!

I think it is up to the parents. I agree with you. The parents should teach it and the schools and any other adult should reinforce it. I think kids learn it largely by watching what their parents do. I always said please and thank you to my girls and they learned from me. My 18 month old says thank you even though you can't really understand it. He also covers his mouth when he coughs lol.

I agree...I think parents have a responsibility to teach their kids proper manners. Not only that but parents should set a good example by having good ones as well. Children often imitate their parents so when you see unruly, rude children they are most likely picking it up from home. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG AND TRUST IN GOD**[/b]

Yeah, problem is, none of this is being taught at home anymore. I know each month my kids elementary school focuses on a different character thing, such as responsibility, honesty, integrity, etc etc, and teach the kids all about what that means. We never did such things in school because we were taught about these things at home. And that should be the way it's still done today, unfortunatly it just doesn't happen!

I think it is up to the parents to teach their kids manners. I mean church and school teach children other things they need for healthy development, but parents need to teach them something too. I think too often people are letting schools and churches teach kids things the parents need to teach.

I think the parents should teach their kids manners, and like you said, others should re-inforce them. Kids learn from what they see, though, and a parent should set a good example for their kids by using good manners themselves. I'm a grandma, and I insist on my grandchildren using good manners, and am hopefully a good example to them too. My girls both were taught to 'mind their manners' and they pass this along to their children. I see a lot of other parents excusing bad manners, and behaviours, by saying 'kids will be kids'...but if nobody ever tells them their actions are inappropriate, then how will they ever learn to get along with others and be acceptable in society?!

Parents are the ones that should be teaching their kids manners. If parents fail in their job, then a substitute will do. Like from school or church.

Well it should be up the parents to teach the kids manners. Kids learn so much by observation and will tend to mirror their parents or who ever they are around the most. So if the parents are practicing manners the kids too will pick up on them. Of course you have to verbally tell them and teach them as well. Then the kids will learn to use them at school and church and wherever else. Parents are the greatest teachers aftereall.

It is the parents who should teach and lead - it's no point telling the kids about manners and courtesy, and the parents behaving otherwise, like being rude and obnoxious. Children mimic parents and adults often, especially the younger ones.

Parents should teach there children manners. Older siblings should teach younger siblings manners. If they cant manage themselves then they have to be yellled at or beat it in them. Church can do it but I think they are too nice to get children to have manners. My little cousin is really young, and he cant seem to control himself. Whenever I eat with he just starts talking and thats not good to do and after everyone is done eating hes the last there. He takes like over an hour to finish. I am trying to make faster but he just cant get motivated. I guess it was the parents fault for not teaching him or making him.

The parents, first and foremost it should be them, after that they should follow there manners where ever they go from there, and school should be next, it should just be expected that they would behave in a good manner when at school, if it starts out in kindergarten then it would be a habit by time they are in high school. --at least that is how we would expect it to be....LOL

Teaching manners is definitely a parental resposibility. If taught by school, church or elsewhere, how can it be inforced if parents are negligent?

Parents should definately be the ones teaching their child manners, or at least for the most part. Of course they will learn manners in everyday life through contact with other kids, teachers, etc... But the most important thing to remember is that children do what they see. If the parents have manners, then the children usually do too. When the children see their parents act in a rude manner they are much more likely to act that way themselves. The same thing goes for cartoons and other tv shows.