Can someone truly be happy having no kids or their own...only a step-son?

United States
January 31, 2009 11:44am CST
Explain your reasoning. I'm in a relationship and my bf has a son. I have no kids of my own, and he doesn't want anymore. I already look at his son as if he were my own child, but I'd like to have children in the future. My bf doesn't. Is there anyway that I can give up my dreams of being a mother in all senses of the word, and be happy just being a step-mother?
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laglen
@laglen (19759)
• United States
31 Jan 09
I think that in your situation, you will resent him. You should look for somebody who wants the same things as you.
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sunshine4
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
2 Feb 09
You are the only one who can answer that question. As far as I am concerned, if you have a desire to have children and you don't because of your bf now, then you will resent him in the long run. Yes, you can make a relationship with his son, but there is a special bond between a mother and her children. I'd rethink this relationship and make it known to him the importance of having a child of your own.