I saw a child hitting his mother

Wiccania, your situation is much different then the AVERAGE mother's, because of your son being autistic. My sister is raising her 6 yr. old grandson, who is also autistic and she really has her hands full. He too hits her and there doesn't seem to be a way to stop it, the more you tell him to stop it, the more he does it! His own mother calls him a monster and gave him to my sister to raise. She found it is easier to just let him do what he wants and when he acts up, just find some other thing to get his attention. His doctors even said he can't learn right from wrong but I don't believe that because every time I went to visit my sister, he would lay on the floor and look up my dress. The more you tell him to stop that, the more he will do it, so one day I had enough! He was on the floor doing that again and I deliberately stepped on his fingers, HARD until he yelled and guess what, he has NEVER done that since, so they CAN learn! Your situation is much different from average mothers who DON'T try to teach their average kids not to hit.

Ok ignoring them doesn't always work,believe me I have tried it..But my kids are not Autistic,so I do not know how that works exactly.I used to babysit a boy that had down syndrome and had 2 younger brothers.The father told me not to treat him any different then the others.This boy at the restaurant was not autistic have down syndrome.

How do you know he didn't have Autism? No one knows my son has Autism until I tell them. He looks like a perfectly normal boy, a little taller than some kids, a little shorter than others. He doesn't have any of the "tics" that a lot of people with Autism have, etc. I'm not saying that the boy in question DID have Autism, but I know a lot of people treat me like I'm a bad parent, and even voice their opinions to my face when incidents occur in public. Often leaving them red faced and apologizing when I inform them that my son has Autism.

Yes,but she did not say anything or even look upset with his actions!I was shocked! I agree that you should not punish them in front of other kids,but I have found that after taking them aside and punishing them privately does not always work after 5 or 6 times.Then if I do repromand him or her in front of other people and they see their looks and understand that it is not just me thinking they should not do that.That I am not wrong.

I agree. I never find it appropriate to reprimand your children in front of other. I'm not sure why I feel this way, but I do. There are alot of parents out there who have no problem punishing their children in public. I've even seen quite a few spankings out there. I just disagree with this.

Cheryl,I am 47 also and I totally agree,after our generation the world fell apart.I was a single parent with my 2 boys and when we were getting ready to move one time and it was evening time and I had to finish packing to leave in the morning.My friend was helping me in the living room.One of my son's had already gone to the building next door to spend the night with my friends son,her husband was there.Then my other son was back in their bedroom and yelled to me,"Can I go?"And I yelled back,"Have you finished your homework?". He got pajama's,clothes for the next day,toothbrush and paste,comb and a few toys and went up the sidewalk to next door.The lady downstairs called the police and when the cop got there he was laughing because that lady is always calling the police for nothing.He said that she said that I was yelling at my son,kicked him out and that he was walking up the street with everything he owned. How does she know that was EVERYTHING he owned? But,because she called the police the report had to be turned in to Child Protective Services.And because CPS was called my name was to go on a list in the database in our capital that I was a suspected mental child abuser for a year even thou it was unfounded.At the time my job was at a day care center at a baptist church,which I lost because my name was on that list.I had to stop all my volunteer work involving children for the next year! There has been other times when I had child services called on me because I was calling my child and because he did not listen I told him that he could not go back out.Lol There was a lady about 20 miles from here,that took her 6 year old boy into McDonald's and he was yelling so loud that the clerk could not hear the order.She told him 4 times to be quiet and he didn't so she reached down and swatted him on the butt and a cop came over and arrested her.In another incident,I am not sure what state this was in a woman took her 2 kids into the grocery store.The younger daughter was sitting in the front of the cart and the older son was walking and when they got to the check out the boy kept hitting the girl.The mother told him to stop.He kept doing it and then he hit the girls fingers on the bar of the cart.The mother smacked him on the hand.The cashier said wait a minute and went up to the managers tower and told the manager to call the police.The cashier stalled till they got there and arrested the woman.The police called her husband he came and got the children.The mother spent the night in jail for 2 nights.Then the judge let her go home,but gave the husband complete custody of the kids and said that the mother can live in the same house with them,but she could not be left alone with the kids.He had to hire an after school babysitter over the age of 18 to be there until he got home.After 6 months if she passed the review then they could go back to normal.And they wonder why the jails are so full!

What you are saying is so true a friend of mine says if she doesn't discipline her children now the system would discipline them later, and I totally agree with her.

Oh no,I mean would you let your kid do that to you?

No, I won't allow that.

I taught my kids that they are not to hit,especially a parent or another adult figure.

maybe this woman taught that it was just okay cause her child is just a kid and don't understand yet what he was actually doing. but i think that the mother should have reacted and should have taught her child that it is wrong to hit a woman or mother or adult person cause when that child grows up he will carry that attitude if he is not reprimanded for his actions.

It's not like he was a baby.All my kids and my grand daughter has been taught that it is not nice to hit.My grand daughter is only 2! This boy was 4 or 5!That is not too young not to know you don't hit.

I am sure that you enjoy eating to and by leaving you are letting him control you and the situation.Everytime that you want to go somewhere or do anything,like talk to someone on the phone and he doesn't want you to then he will know that all he has to do is misbehave and you will leave or stop your phone call.

Oh,you missunderstood,I am not saying that your kids are not behaved.I am just saying that this child child was not being have.

My children know that they can't just misbehave and get what they want. By leaving the situation, they know that when we get home, there's other consequences. I have very well behaved children and I tend to think it's because how I choose to discipline them. I understand this with some kids as the parents just leave and that's that. I feel that there has to be some other consequences involved also.

I have watched "The Nanny" and those parents are so stupid and sometimes I think Jo,the nanny is too. No it does not take a village to raise a child when it comes to teaching them morals and how to act.

That's true he will probably hurt her when he gets older.

Good for you.

Here it is not against the law to spank your child.But,even if it was I would not call the police unless it went to something more then a spanking.Beating a child is not right and is against the law.

I would have to agree with you.

I wouldnt take it that far, but for sure i cant stand that kind of stuff. If your child is hitting you when he is 5 or 4... i would definately take him aside and get his attention to me, hold his face towards me if i have to, and make him listen to me. but thats just my opinion and it comes from a controlling personality soo =p

At first I discipline in private,but I have found that if the problem persist and I embarrase them in front of people then they stop it.I have found with my kids that they think that all their friends and friends parents and so on,think that they are little angels.

No a child does not have the right to hit their mother,but they do sometimes depending on how they are being raised.There are a lot of people here that do not believe in spanking their child or even talking harsh to them.Doesn't make any sense to me.

It really doesn't make sense. I do believe that children need to have a little fear to their parents.

I was a spectator nd so were many other people.I was wondering also,how many other people were thinking,"Why doesn't that lady spank him!" But in the United States you cannot and should not touch someone elses child.You cannot and should not break a child or adults hands/legs.That is not just a spanking,like I and others have said that is child abuse!That is outragios! Even if you do that to an adult in this country you will be put in jail for assault,righfully so. If that's how it is in India I do not think I would want to visit there.

Yes,that is very much in vougue in INDIA. Do visit and inform me, if possible ! =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.

No he wouldn't deserve a treat,but wouldn't you have deserved to eat?

I have never believed in permissive parenting and my son is raising his daughter as well.

You think that teaching him good behavior will spoil him?

Yes,it is bad and sad that the child showed no love and obviously had no respect for his mother.

Yes,they should teach them manners.

My son's are 28,25 and my daughter is 12.I taught them not to hit.My 25 year old has a 2 year old and he has been teaching her not to hit and she doesn't when she comes her either.I babysit her and see her 3 to 5 days a week.