getting married and fiance's family asking me to sign a pre-nup. should i?
@trendyclothes (294)
Philippines
January 31, 2009 11:48pm CST
a pre- nup isnt necessarily a bad thing, right? when i read the magazines of today couples are considering having one to simplify money matter. but, this should be agreed upon couples and not dictated by other people right?
6 responses
@Autumnrose2008 (1478)
• United States
1 Feb 09
I would sign only if he signs one as as well. Other wise do not sign. It should be agreed by the people involved, you and him and it should only be your choice. They may also be doing it to see if you really love him or are only after him for his money. People are strange sometimes and do stupid things lol. Good luck with what ever choice you make and happy my lotting.
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@breepeace (3014)
• Canada
12 Feb 09
I agree with this, as well.
Even if you aren't as well off as he is, that might not always be the case.
And make sure it outlines some sort of deadline. A prenup covering the first 5-10 years of a marriage should be expected, but after that, if it doesn't pan out, it should be pretty apparent that you weren't just in it for the money.
@trendyclothes (294)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
pre nuptial agreement.. is a contract entered prior to marriage or civil union by the people intending to marry. The content of a prenuptial agreement can vary widely, but commonly includes provisions for divisions of property and spousal support in the event that couples may break up or divorce.
@breepeace (3014)
• Canada
12 Feb 09
I guess it would really depend on if your fiance's family has some sort of investment in him, or if part of his assets are provided by the family.
For example, if they financed him to set up a business, or put him through a lot of schooling to get where he is today, then they have money invested in him. Asking you to sign a prenup is a way of protecting their investment.
If it's just his money, and he's self made, then the family should butt out. Seriously, I hate nothing more than to have my significant other's family constantly butting in where they don't belong. That is totally a decision between the couple in this case.
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
4 Apr 12
well i think its just right if there is a divorce in our country but with no divirce i dont see any reason why there should be a prenuotial agreement unless of course if you are marry a rich man and his relatives doesnt like you...i dont think it should be settled with your partner only...
@relundad (2310)
• United States
1 Feb 09
Well I think that it depends on who's assets are really at stake. I am probally assuming more than I should but I will take a stab at it anyway. Based on your age, assuming that your fiance' is around your age, whatever he has as far as assets are probally those of his parents giving and not that he has earned other than by being an heir of his parents.
If this is the case then I think that by all means that his parents should have some say so or at least the right to suggest it.
@chantalgiardina (2523)
• United States
9 Feb 09
i feel like it should be yours and his decision.. not his parents.
