Have you ever said to your kids that you are a perfect parent?
By France7
@France7 (385)
Philippines
February 1, 2009 1:16am CST
What is the effect of telling or suggesting to our kids that we are perfect parents? I guess, if we do, we are putting our kids into a great shock when we keep telling them that we are always right and then eventually they discover that we make mistakes, too. I guess what our kids need are parents who are not perfect, but parents who unconditionally love them and understand them. It is not below our dignity to admit that we were wrong or to apologize to them when we make a mistake. Thus, it makes them feel surprisingly warm and loving towards us when we apologize with love.
3 responses
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
2 Feb 09
I would never tell my kids that I am a perfect parent. I do tell them that mother knows all, so they better watch their actions. They have seen this too. Things always get talked about and eventually mom finds out what the kids are doing.
Back to the perfect parent. I think it is important for our kids to realize no one is perfect.
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
hi there sunshine. yes i do agree with you that it is a must for our kids to recognise that parents are not so perfect. on the other hand , that won't of course excuse us from aiming for perfection. and i guess perfect parents are those who know how to accept their mistakes and are able to say sorry towards their children. what do you think? thanks again and have a wonderful time here:)
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
3 Feb 09
I agree. If you are a good parent you are doing by example. This means when you make a mistake you take responsibility for it. Apologizing to a child is hard for some parents, but it truely shows them that everyone makes mistakes at a times and it is ok.
@kezabelle (2974)
•
1 Feb 09
No i cant imagine any time occuring for me to feel the need to tell them im perfect!
I can only imagine if a person says that to their child that they are telling their child in the same breath that they themselves are not perfect and that is rather damaging to any child.
I make mistakes if I do i dont hide it from anyone including my children I want them to grow up learning that its ok to make mistakes as long as we learn from them and do our best to fix any problems that came from that mistake.
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
hi there kezabelle:). i go with you as well that letting our children understand that making mistakes is inevitable and that we learn from them, too. of course, that won't mean that we are not to aim for perfection. as long as we learn to accept that we are wrong, that would help our children understand us and love us even more. thanks for the warm response and happy mylotting:)
@arlerambabu (1079)
• India
1 Feb 09
I do not believe in saying. I make them believe that i'm a perfect parent by example. i make them emulate me
