Hw you treat ur kid either as individual or as small children?
By swatig
@swatig (1183)
India
February 1, 2009 3:13am CST
This discussion is mainly for parents coz they understand better about this discussion. The question is simple as whether you consider your kid as individual and given proper freedom to his/her wishes or you always treat your kid as small children and try him/her to change according to our wishes.
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8 responses
@laglen (19759)
• United States
2 Feb 09
I think they should be treated as individuals because they are. We as parents are here to guide them to be the best adults they can.
@arlerambabu (1079)
• India
1 Feb 09
Till they reach adolescence , they will be treated as kids. once they reach adolescence they will be treated as grown ups and due respect is given to their views and plans. Of course that invisible guidance of mine will be there.
@rhadoo2006 (562)
• Romania
1 Feb 09
i think that will depend on the age of the kid and also of the parents.
@swatig (1183)
• India
1 Feb 09
very well said, its depends on the parents more then the age of kids.some replies imphasis on the age of kids more then the parents but who will decide the right age of kids to be consider as individual. might be kids have their own belief and your consideration as individual is no help for him/her.
@kishusia (1066)
• India
1 Feb 09
Kids can be treated as individuals after a certain age, let us say till the time they become 18 years. After that they should be treated as friends and be given proper freedom to exercise with full responsibility. Before this age, parent should take care of their kids. They need not be treated as small children always. With their advancement in age, the process of consulting them about their affairs can start.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
1 Feb 09
Dear friend,
In my consideration I would treat each kid as an individual as each kids varies from other one may be childish the other may or may not, one may be bit mature the other may or may not. So each kid differs from other and each of them would be better if they get the treat as their character they have. I hope it would be comfortable for a kid and me to maintain a good relationship. Freedom to kid is concerned how well that kid could handle things, if that kid is well and good I would give freedom others who are not capable to hand things individually I hope they need a better help to make them capable to handle things better.
@uicbear (1900)
• United States
1 Feb 09
I think you have to treat children as individuals. They all have their own particular likes and dislikes from birth and you can nurture the good things. However on the other hand, children do need structure. They like rules and knowing how certain things work and why. They have to learn that there are certain ways to behave and that sometimes things don't always go the way you want them to. yTotal freedom, and total constraint can't work. You ahve to find a balance between the 2.
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
1 Feb 09
as parent i gave my kids a freedom to choose..but not all the time..
@kezabelle (2974)
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1 Feb 09
My children are always allowed to be who they are their own individual personality and person because no way do I want to change that I love them for who they are to change that would to be say im not happy with who they are ok so they might be naughty now and again but they are who they are and thats who I want them to be!
