A 39yr old women ruining life of an 18yr boy...just to get married to him

I agree that love just happens who are we to judge if it is not actually our own personal feelings. I have friends that are in a situation like this, they met when he was 17 and she about 60! I know that you are all thinking er/OMG but seriously at first I thought all those things and now 5 years later it is just the norm we all got used to and accepted it and they really are good together I never think about the age gap when I am in their company as it really isn't an issue. I am in my late 30's oh that sounds so old! So really if they were not a couple I would not be friends with them as neither of them are the age that I seek out as friends if u know what I mean but as a couple they kinda balance out the age differences for all of us. I would say he is very mature in his ways, so much more than my 20 year old and she is fit as a fiddle and maybe has more energy than me! I say all power to them, they are doing what makes them happy. Of course they won't have kids and she will probably leave us before him but then when she does he will have the very happy memories of their time together and who knows he may move on and build his own family so no ones life is ruined, it's never to late to do anything I say:) Are we not here to be Happy?

The boy's dad is being rather harsh so if the 18 year old marries the 39 year old it will affect his future. If they want children then she hasn't got much time left at her age. He is young to become a father. The 18 year old will have to try to build a career for himself without parental help. Love can happen at any age. It sounds unusual to me but love doesn't follow any rules. I have hears of soul mates so maybe that is the case. The lady sounds a bit selfish but perhaps love can seem foolish at times. Good luck to the couple.

It used to be the other way around, a girl ruined her life by marrying someone or sleeping with someone before she was old enough or mature enough and the statement was "if you make your bed you have to lie in it." I think this young man feels that because his father is paying for his education and no doubt everything else, he can go and marry this older woman because then daddy will support them. You cannot just blame the woman, the young man is selfish to wanting to live off daddy. So now father tells him he has to make his own way, because I am sure this woman does not want a boy toy. Then again she might only be after his money or she may be one of those women who is emotionally younger then her age, so she might act 21 rather then 39. In that case, she needs help. I would say that the father should have gotten them both together and find out what is going on. There's more to this then wanting an easy life.

I have heard stories like this even in our country. When love or I don't know in the boys case if it is really love hit to someone that person is willing to do anything and is ready to sacrifice anything. Well, I think what I can say to that woman, she and that boy can still have the relationship but they should not marry that early. They should take some time to think it over and the man should grow up a little more, maybe more than 21 years of age. If after that time they can still withstand with their love then I think it is time to marry. For the father, I understand him, any parents want the best for their children. And him marrying at an early age is not good for him even if it is not that older woman he is going to marry. He should be ready and mature. I think his father is only thinking for the best for his son. But if the father is against and doing something to destroy his son and his lovers relationship I think it's not good.

18 and 39 is a long ways off. i mean yes my fiance is 28 and im 21 so he is older but im more mature than a lot of 21 year olds.but if it came to love and college.. thats hard i chose love. but if i could go back i would have went to college and said that if i really meant that much to him he would stay at myu side and deal with it..( my ex that is..) my fiance wants me to go to college now but i really dont have the time. i think the 18 year old should go to college and make his future. love will fall in place. he has a higher chance of the girl leaving him because he cant support his family if he dont go to college

The 18 year old boy should think about. I mean some that is 21 more yeards older then you...thats twice your age...thats a little too much. When hes 30 years old she will be like 51 and probably looking like a grandmother. When your that old you cant have kids..some people do in rare cases but I dont think its happens alot. If you love her that much then he probably should do it. I think the women is selfish taking over someone so young. His life could be ruined depending what his future is going to be like.

I don’t think the lady really loves this young man, rather she loves herself more than anything else. She in only thinking of her own future and happiness. I agree that the boy at 18 doesn’t offer her much hope of a comfortable future, but his brilliance is egging her on to give it a try. Maybe she is hoping that in the near future, he would become a somebody in society and she will have a chance to live her dreams. I really don’t know what this lady thinks, but to me, this relation is doomed. Either one will have to support the other and sacrifice a lot and this may take its toll on the relation.

If they love each other then who cares what they do? She can move to wherever he is and he can still have his big career. The father in this situation is the one being selfish and should let his son do as he pleases!

I think the woman has lost her senses and that is why trying to ruin the life of a boy who is of her son's age.There is no match between them and it is just senseless and useless on the part of woman who is adamant to ruin the brilliant career of the boy. She needs to be taken to a psychiatrist and get her medical examination done because she is not mentally fit as it is proved from her thinking of marrying an 18 year old boy who cannot satisfy her mentally ,emotionally or physically.

I don't think the woman is selfish at all, its the father that is the selfish one here, locking him in the house is completely wrong, at 18 he is a young adult and can make his own decisions and his own mistakes. His dad should leave him alone and let him live his life the way he wants to and just be supportive of his son. It sounds like the two are in love and thats all that matters, if they want to get married no one has the right to stop them. The age difference shouldn't be a problem, they are both adults capable of making their own decisions. I feel like this because a similar thing has happened to me. I was 18 when I met my partner who was 40, my parents accepted it and to this day me and my partner are still together and I have a brilliant career.

Age is just a number and love has no criterion. I don't think the woman is selfish at all. She has the right to fall in love. If the boy is ready to risk his career for this woman, he must truly love her.I think the boy is old enough to make his decisions and it is rather harsh on the part of the father to lock him up and it would make no difference. The father should try to reason out with his son and treat him like an adult rather than apply brute force.

I dont think that the lady is selfish. Its just that that theres a good chemistry between her & the 18 year old. The lady however should look at it that the boy doesnt loose out as far as career is concerned because she is more matured of the two. You also cant blame an 18 year old. Its just that he is only 18 with hormones raging.... down the line the boy will grow up and will understand that theres not much future in this relationship..

I think that it is awful that something like that would happen. The woman should have more sense than to have a relationship with someone so young. I don't know what she is thinking. I in no circumstance, would pursue a younger man. I have a hard time with maturity in my husband and he is six and a half years older than myself. Here, in the United States, a few years ago, there was a huge story in the media, that this teacher had a relationship with a thirteen year old boy and she got pregnant and had his child. She was arrested and spent some time in jail and after she got out, she went after him again, by this time he was eighteen, and she got pregnant again and now they are married. I think that both parties concerned are sick! That woman should leave that boy alone and let him grow up and complete his education and start a career and then he can choose for himself what would be the right thing for his life. Also, if he would eventually want to have children, she wouldn't be able to provide them, given her age, that would be so unfair for him. That woman is very selfish to even for a second think that he should be deprived of things that most human beings would have being with a younger person, someone of their own age.

With all due respect, this 18 years boy cannot be that brilliant if he is wanting to get married to a 39 yo woman. And this 39 yo woman is less than selfish, she is definitely NOT mature at all in anyway. 18 yo should pursuit his study and thinking of his career, not getting married no matter how old the woman is. This is not love, you can love each other without getting married, without getting into his way. Being in love doesn't mean you need the piece of paper to prove it, not you need to live together one roof. They need to prioritize what is important in their life. Love cost money, it won't last if they are having financial problem constantly. My advise - don't be stupid, get a real life... a career before thinking about getting married.