What goes around, comes around right?
By mmiceli
@mmiceli (382)
February 1, 2009 12:05pm CST
So unfortunately at college I have a group of 7 girls I hang out with all the time. So of course that equals ridiculous stupid drama every single freaking day. Anyways this one girl in the group has been such a b* tch to me the past week, like never responding to my texts, calls, talking to me like a five year old whenever people are around, talking over me whenever I have an opinion, just being super disrespectful, etc. The list goes on. This has been going on for like a week and a half, so a couple days ago I called her out on it. She then continued to talk to me like a 5 year old, said it makes her angry that I say that, she's having a stressful week and basically its okay for her to treat me like that. I'm thinking, really, seriously who does this b* tch think she is? So when we had a party at my boyfriend's house last night, I completely and blatantly ignored her and only spoke to her to be a b* tch. Well she got all insecure and uptight, texted my best friend saying "I can't handle M, let's leave!" Well my dumb best friend left her phone there for my boyfriend and one of his roomates to find the text. So I texted the b* tch saying, "Saw the text you sent Joy. Cool, Emily. By the way, Gabe and Mark found it (to make her feel dumb because she kisses their butts) guess I was right about you all along." This all does seem pretty stupid I know and I'm not used to having a crap ton of girl friends, but did I do the right thing? I feel I did, if she can dish it for 2 weeks to me, why can't she take literally a half hour of me being a beech to her? And tonight one of the girls is throwing a super bowl party, I don't know if I should go or not. She's pretty close to Emily the b* tch. Agh, I'm a loser for caring I know. But I'm only nineteen and life's been pretty easy luckily, so dumb stuff like this is a big deal. Please help me out!=] Thanks guys!
1 response
@Emmapep (98)
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1 Feb 09
Just try to rise above it, she wants a reaction out of you so don't give it to her. If she makes you angry or upset don't show it. And don't miss out on seeing your friends because of her! She sounds really immature so maybe it's best to go tonight but steer clear of her, I'm sure the other people in your social circle can see that she is the one being nasty and they will soon enough get tired of it.
@Raven7317 (691)
• United States
1 Feb 09
I agree with this. You should go, see your friends, enjoy yourself. You're so young! Decide right now to be the bigger person, handle conflict with maturity. You will face more and more of these types of people as you grow and it will never get easier. So you can decide to handle it with dignity and let it roll off you and enjoy your life, or you can decide to avoid people who make you uncomfortable and find yourself missing out on life's adventures!
I suspect this girl may be threatened by you, perhaps jealous of your obvious vitality. Or, perhaps she's the type who thrives knowing she has made someone feel badly.
Remember, people will only treat you as well as you allow them too.
@mmiceli (382)
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1 Feb 09
Well, as far as the super bowl party there's nothing to worry about. Or so I think. Erika sent out a mass text saying Super Bowl Party cancelled. I asked her why and she said because 'too much drama and I don't even want to see anyone right now.' But that b*tch Emily finally texted me back saying some things that made sense, she felt awkward and unwelcomed so she left and that I should have tried talking to her sober. WHICH I DID, and she told me that she liked being mean to me because it was fun or some passive/aggressive BS. So now I'm trying to figure out a way to tell her it should have been addressed differently without surrendering and making myself look like I'm groveling. Because she's still in the wrong for being so rude to me and kissing my bf's butt. Honestly, I don't know what to do and when to do it.
@Raven7317 (691)
• United States
3 Feb 09
I wouldn't look at a possible resolution as groveling and/or surrendering. Look at it like you are a mature young lady, who acknowledges that you and Emily do not get along... but because you both have mutual friends that you enjoy spending time with you will most likely be spending some time together... and you don't want to make the rest of your friends feel akward or feel that they have to choose... so you are being the bigger person and trying to resolve the issues. BEFORE they escalate and/or become more serious.
Simply be honest, be sober, be respectful. Let her know that while you are sorry she was feeling unwelcome, her reaction of being nasty on purpose/for the fun of it, IS NOT the way to BE welcomed. Inform her that you would appreciate her coming to you if she has any issues with you and you will be more than happy to discuss it with her.
At the same time, you need to remember that she will treat YOU the way she feels you are treating her. You have to change the way you THINK about a person before you can change the way you TREAT a person. Perhaps, because you think of her as a bi*ch, you are unwittingly treating her as such. Suggestion: stop referring to her as a bi*ch and you will eventually stop thinking of her as a bi*ch.
Good Luck.
