A tale of two lovers

If she loves him, she should marry him The happiest people on Earth are generally those who have little, not the rich. The rich spend all their time worrying about their money or how they look to others. The poor enjoy the little things in Life, like family and their spouses. Only she can decide which she loves more, her man or her money.

If she loves him then what is the problem, he seems as if he is hard working and truly loves her and doesn't need her money. They have been dating all of these years and she still seem to have her own money and happy with him not having any so I don't see why that should turn into an issue when it has not been all of this time. Money can't buy happiness and if that is the love of her life and he treats her as she likes don't let his lack of having any stop her from being with her love.

Well I guess right now that they are not yet married she should help him to go out of his level and should not remain in there. I think the girl could do something to help him out at least to where he is right now. I mean she could help him find a better job and everything he needs. It doesn't mean she should give him money but allow him to show that he deserves to love him and could provide for her needs when the time arises that they would settle down. Money is an important element in a loving relationship especially when the girl lives in a life that is far more different from his BF. I totally agree if they love each other they should be together, but, each should be prepared to live according to what each other is expecting from the relationship.

One thing I'm wondering is ... does your friend have any money? Or, is she just expected to marry a man who has money? If your friend finds financial and social status to be very important than she should marry someone who can help her achieve that. And, if she's contemplating marrying him this much, she shouldn't do it until she's sure. I, for one, look more at a person's character than what's in their bank account - if they even have one. I find a man who is poor but refuses to take money from a lady and values taking care of family above his own financial wealth, to be more of a stand up man than a man who has money but low morals and values. For me, it's not always about what the man has ... but what kind of man that he is. I would judge his intentions before I judged his pockets. The fact that he loves and her and would do what he can to take care of her shows that his intentions are good even if his money isn't. On the other hand, I also know that it takes money to raise a family. So, no matter how much a person tries, if the two aren't going to be able to provide for a family they shouldn't start one. Although, when two people love each other and have a common goal in mind, they can make anything work.

If she is worried about it now she shouldn't marry him. Each time they have an argument it could be a way of getting back at him. It could cause alot of problems. Even loving someone can't break down such walls. Sad, but true.

I say if it makes you happy then go for it. Money isn't everything although it's nice to have around for necessities. How much money is considered poor? This man has never taken money from her right? Do you know how difficult it is to find an honest person in this world?

Hi scarletwitch .. Sorry for saying this, but I don't think your friend really love his guy if she really love him, she should love him in any condition I agree with previous mylotter comment, Does she marry him for status? I know this is not easy, But love should be the top among all If the status or wealth was put on top, then the marriage itself is not caused by love Hmm, maybe your friend just didn't realize this She might be afraid with the uncertainty after they got married, but like what my parents always said "together we can make it .. " Life won't be beautiful if we walk it alone Best wishes to your friend and his boyfriend, God bless ! Thanks scarletwitch .. :D

Most people don't realize that true security lies not in money but in genuine love, not in stocks and bonds and inflated bank accounts, but in the deepest depths of human hearts. All the wealthy man you see around were not born golden spoons but the years of hard work gave them comfort in life. He might not be rich but he has many more good years ahead of him to accumulate wealth and surely he will be rich if not better than her family. It only takes a person some brain and effort to reach the success in life. The sky is the limit. I would rather settle for someone who can bring me happiness than blind me with wealth.

Yes that´s difficult when it comes to think about the family that will be formed. If she lived with the best for sure she will want to give the best to her own family. But I think with love they can together build up a beautiful and happy family. Is her family against this relationship or not? Because if they are not this helps a lot. And if they are against this bothers a lot.

Love always rises above these other petty stuff like the love for money and status in society. It's good this lady realises that the man really loves here and he doesn't need her money. This is not a choice between rich or poor, it's a deep fear of leaving the comfort zone...the lady has had all she has wanted throughout her life and in her mind all these had been made possible by the fact that their family has money. Now she is facing the prospect of being married to somebody who doesn't have money and she's not sure whether she can handle that life. It's wrong to assume that the man has not led a happy and fulfilling life - he might have found a way to make do with what he has alway had at his disposal, which means he is also in a comfort zone in spite of his poverty. The man has no choice to make, he has already made his decision known and that is to marry the lady - if the lady turns him down, well and fine, he can walk away knowing that the problem is not him. On the other hand, the lady has 3 options: 1. Give in to pressure from her family (real or perceived) about her status if she marries a poor man and refuse to marry the man. 2. Persuade the man to take some money from her/her family (if it's offered, not beg) and marry him 3. Marry him and take the money herself...in which case they will not be lacking for money since it shall be in possesion of the lady but the principles and pride of the man shall be intact These may look like easy enough options but taken in the context of real love existing (even if only from the man) makes them extremely difficult. She could for instance refuse to marry this poor man and go for a richer man only to find herself in the most unhappy marriage she could ever imagine! Or she could be lucky, she could go for a rich man and find both status and happiness for the rest of her life.Either way she shall never know what the right choice is until she makes that decision, and the decision is her's alone to make!

I know this would be a tough decision for your friend since she grew up in a wealthy family. But to be honest, this is not enough to deny the guy's request for marriage. Since she grew up in a wealthy family, I am assuming that she already got a good supporting business/job. Put the guy's pride down and let them both work together. As for her, she can always help her boyfriend find a better source of income. Anyway, their way of living is not only dependent upon the boy's capabilities to sustain their financial needs, it depends upon on how they will work on it together. I know that their current status of living is very different from one another, but if they really love each other then they can push through. In addition, they will find much happiness if they are more abundant in love rather than abundant in material things.

What a nice story of two people being in love. Maybe they can make an arrangement if they are really want to get married.

If the guy is ambitious, then it is worth to marry him... I think it is very important... what kind of poor you are talking about? is the guy has no education or whatsoever to make their life better in the future? or is he have the brain and/ or education and it is possible that this guy can earn a good living in the future? I do not mind guy that is poor, but he needs to be have ambition, for instant, my ex-boyfriend was totally a loser. He has no ambition at all, he doesn't think about his future... So you friend has to think about it....

Hi, If she really...really....really loves him, your friend might not ask you advise. That means she is ready to leave him if you advise. Financial status will matters between them after their marriage, now everything would be cool... First thing is your friend should not feel after their marriage as she sacrificed great life for him. Then only they can live happily... That girl has to decide how much comfortable she can live without money.. I don't understand why your friend decided that guy would not grow rich in future.