How can you train your children?

I dont train my children to do anything they are dogs! But i am a great believer in that children will copy anything they see so if they see a good example of how to behave chances are that is what they will copy and will be how they behave, lead by example and you cant go far wrong however if the parent cant set a good example well then its the parents who need lessons not the child!

it all starts from us parents. what do you think that would make us a better person? when we were younger , what were the things that made us to who we are today? we should always question the things we do to hva that reality check. will scolding help our child to grow up confident or would it make that kid less confident in dealing with life's journey thinking that everything he does is wrong and people would surely criticize his ways? so what is left of his dreams? shattered? things like these should be running in our minds.

Train children to face challenges. Teach him about God,His words. Teach your children the meaning of word No. Educate your children in the art of communication.

A child is like an earthen pot which needs to be given a proper shape and stability. New new generation is completely different from the past. Sometimes it gets suffocating how the parents completely control their kids. According to me a child should be left on his own views and idea...All the parents can do is talk to them frankly, explain them and think from their point of view also rather than being arrogant and stuck on their own view.This will make the kid smart.

Sometimes, training is not necessary, they get their behavior based on their environment, based on how they grew up. Friends and family are the best influence. If you have shown love and proper care and if the friends he hang out with has proper behavior then there is nothing to really worry about. I, too listen to other's advice but even if we train him and he still decided to follow the wrong path, we cant blame ourselves but himself.

I am the mother of a almost 4 yr old and a 13 yr old step daughter. My eldest was never taught right from wrong, she pretty much raised herself when at her mother's. Lucky we did have her 50% of the time in her formative years 4-10 and some of it stuck, she is now living with us and we are seeing the harm limited guidance causes. From the start we have always taught the girls respect, empathy towards others. I notice it with both girls of how they treat others. They have nice manners and act appropriately in public, meaning no major temper tantrums at stores and no acting out when they don't get their way. I am not saying my children are perfect angels in any way. They do have their moments. I believe that showing them by our actions not just telling them what to do has helped them alot. We try to always practice what we preach. We try to spend time with them together and one on one. One thing that I do firmly believe in, is that parents are the authority not the children. We have never hit our children but they do not walk all over us. My husband and I put it as we are raising them as we were. We stick to our ways and do not faulter very much, if it is wrong this time it will always be wrong, kids get confused and learn to play their parents if its not jumping on the couch today but tomorrow i am to tired to deal with it so its okay. With our youngest we see an large difference in her behaviour compared to those her age, she seems to deal with conflict alot better and will sit and listen to instructions while others have to be 'rangled' up. I don't know if she would be like this no matter what we did, but i take pride in the way she has developed because they was no other parties involved like our step daughter. She too has transformed in the 4 months since moving in. She is a more self-confident person and feels like a valued member of our family and society. I do believe people should educate themselves as much as they can, i am always looking at different articles, i don't take all to heart I do what feels right. It is wonderful to have older generations who have been there and done it to talk to. We go to a play group and have "grandma's" there they are so helpful and reassure us and help us when we feel we are not doing the best we could.

My cousin has his twins trained. Those kids pick up their toys, they stay next to their parents when they go anywhere, and they always ask before doing anything. They do not whine, and they do what they are told. Seriously could not believe it when I saw how well behaved these kids are. Honestly, I have taken care of a lot of kids who were not nearly as great as these kids are when it comes to being polite.

I use a lot of parenting websites, forums, books, magazines, and newsletters to guide me through this process. We're rasing seven, eight, nine, fifteen, and sixteen year old children in our household and it's a blended family - so, we have to stay on our toes when it comes to teaching, training, and counseling these kids. We attended a six week child development course together, plus we do a lot of volunteering in the schools so we can get advice from the teachers and our peers. It's been helping a LOT.

Hi celestial, I realize that today's children seem to be different from the last generation, but I think it was the same for the one before that. Every generation is different from the one before. Of course this group of young people have more available to them than ever, so pose a bigger problem for parents. My family is grown with children of their own but I still believe that love and honesty will do the trick. When children know that they are loved and that their parents will be truthful with them, they are more inclined to listen. If there are parenting seminars available by all means take advantage of them, there is always lots to learn but love and honesty are the basics. Blessings.

Child training needs a lot of patience. You should be firm with your rules but you must also be loving in applying the disciplinary measure. Parents must be consistent in implementing their rules and mom and dad should be uniform in dealing with discipline. No one will take sides when one is implementing the discipline. Parents should agree with what to do. Once they are uniform in their disciplinary actions, the result is better.

This is a hard on as no one ever gets it right all the time ,I have brought up three children over thirty years.What I have found is just show them the right way to do things,stand in a queue,say please and thankyou,share with other children sweets toys ect,somethings may work first time but not many ,sometimes kids take ages to do something nicely,don't lose your temper just keep trying,some kids take longer to proccess imformation and truly do not understand.If you give them plenty of love ,attention and do things with them I found they are more willing to cooperate with what you want them to do.Take them to mix with other children as often as possible.When mine used to hurt or thump others ,I used to day gently gently,or you will hurt someone and that is horrible.Give them plenty of praise if they do something nice or what they are told,they will think that was nice,if I do what I am told I will get praise and I like that.The odd bribe works as well,but only on special occasions or they will expect something all the time.Try not to wack them although the odd tap never did mine anyharm ,Tap not thump,violence is something that never works properly,and you don't want them frightened of you,if that happens you have lost and will bring children up with fear.Another good trick is distraction therapy if they are out and ahowing you up say"look at that see the dog,aeroplane ect to take their minds off the naughty thing they are doing,or the naughty step or chair works well sit them down for oneminute but not very long,just to give them the idea it is not nice to sit there at all,so maybe they will change their minds about doing that again,Parenting classes are a good idea we did not have those when my were small,although it would have been very helpful,Another good trick I used to use was a star chart if they were good all day they could choose a toffee or something for a treat ,if they had black marks then nothing,then do it for two days,three days,ect till they last a week to get that sweety .It is difficult but if a child knows you are upset they have got you,they aare clever and crafty and will play you,it is not that they are evil it is what kids do.I hope this helps a bit ,it is the hardest job in the world raising kids but the most rewarding in the end.

It is truely a problem. In order to fulfill our obligation we should make friends with our children. To know what they really want and to discover their special talent. Children only want to do what they are interested in, and can do their best. While if we can communicate with our children by our heart and by good methods. I think we can fulfill our obligation better and gain better result.

Hi, Remove the idea of Generation Gap existing.Think the way they think.Put Urself in their shoe, FIRST.Then take 'the learnings' from different site/trainers/Gurus.Ur job will be easy."The optimum" will be the asking-rate, for anyside. =Lahiri,Kolkata,india.

I have four children. One lives with her father now. However With the other yjree, and her when I get to see her, I just do my best. I know I make mistakes. All parents do. I read alot, especially on the internet. However for me mostly I talk to older people I respect. Those that I feel know how to raise a child because they have already done so. People who share my beliefs and who know me. That way I know that they can take who I am and what I believe and how I was raised into consideration. I prefer that to internet and I really don't often know where to turn except to other people for advice. Books are nice, but cannot cover everything. What works great in a book or for one child might not work at all for another.

hi celestial! i think the best way of training our children is modelling what we preach. children are very observant and i am noticing it with our nephew. he follows what we say--our expressions, how we say them etc. so if we shout always and cuss around the house, more often that not, the child would follow these. if there is a smoker in the house, most likely, there is a good chance that the child will follow someday. how early or how late really depends. additionally, we need to pray for our children that God will protect them and guide them in the right path. we need to have wisdom on how to deal with each child, especially if there are several children in the family. each child is special and unique and trying to treat them the same way would be disaster. we cannot have the same expectations on our children. i am not a parent yet but soon to be. i am not sure what works and what is not. but one thing i am sure of, i will not model what i don't want my child to follow. take care and God bless you! happy mylotting! :D