Cheating on your partner - yes or no?

I never cheated, because I think you shouldn't do to others what you don't want done to yourself. But my answer is if I ever had a slip and ended up cheating, I would not tell, because if he would never find out about it from someone else, then why would I hurt him and tell him. Just let it stay in the past and never bring it up.

ya know i thought about a few times but it just isn't worth alllll the grief and b.s. spending all that time yelling and screaming for months to come, nope just not worth it. i learn from watching other people and a few idiot friends now paying alimony to 2 wife's.

hi lindery! well, i try not to think about it--i mean cheating. my hubby and i have been together for 7.5 years before finally getting married and i know for a fact that we have both been faithful to each other while we were together. and now that we are married and together, we are very happy. but of course, we pray and work at keeping our marriage that way. it is what we call fireproofing our marriage. take care and God bless you! happy mylotting! :D

Hi Lindery, I would tell for sure. But I have never done this before. I usually end a relationsip before going out with another person. Otherwise I would tell first before I do something to see what is the reaction. But if that had happen my answer is I would tell her. I like to be in clear circumstances. Honest. No cheating. Either to make up or to end it. That is simple before anything go worst..

I could never imagine cheating on my boyfriend. I am much like you that I couldn't live with the fact that I cheated on him. I would probably be the one to end things if I had cheated. I don't see the point in it because if you cheat in my mind you don't completely love your spouse.

i do agree with you.i had told all the things to my partner when we started.i would tell him the truth by myself rather than he got the truth from others.he will feel more pain when he got from the others.he will think i cheat him.Hiding the truth is a big burden.your life will be more happy when you tell your partner all the things.

That is one thing that I never have to worry about. I would never cheat on my husband. I love and respect him too much to hurt him in that way. I think that we can control our actions so that if we do cheat we know we ae going to do it before we do it.

It all depends. If my boyfriend is everything I need but he is distant and one night I can get what I need , I wouldn't tell him. But if I am with a boyfriend who Once was good to me and now isn't, and I found another who treats me the way I want to be treated, then not onlt would I cheat but I would tell my current boyfriend that I am leaving.But if I were married, i would cheat, I would have to and I wouldn't tell my husband.If I am married, I would have to cheat. After a while I wouldn'r sleep with my husband. And I Know he has a mistress so why not?

I have never cheated so I really don't know. I can't even imagine it at this stage. When I was in an abusive marriage, I did imagine what it would be like to be with someone really kind and respectful. A few times it was very tempting but I did not give in to it. I got out of the marriage first and I'm glad I did as I left with a clear concious. I really don't understand the whole cheating thing anyway. If I'm in a relationship, it is because I want to be with that person. If I find myself thinking of being with someone else, it would signal to me that something is lacking in my relationship and I need to figure out just what it is and why I'm feeling that way. I don't break up with a guy to be with another man. I break up with a guy for things that are not working out in our relationship. The thought of being with someone else is just an indicator for me. I could not cheat on someone that I'm deeply in love with. If I ever did cheat...I'd just break up with the person...clearly I'm not in love. When I'm in love...really in love...those sort of thoughts don't even cross my mind and I could never ever be tempted.

I would not cheat on a partner. I would end the relationship before cheating. If you do cheat and you feel it was a huge mistake, I think you should come clean to your partner. If you can't stop cheating on your partner, you should end your relationship. It's not fair to the partner and there are probably serious problems in the relationship anyway.

It is hard to answer this because unless you have experienced cheating it is difficult to know how you would handle it. I have never cheated on my partner and I know that if I did, and he found ou, he would be devastated and it would hurt him immensely; I would feel the same if the situation was reversed. As much as I advocate honesty in relationships if it was a one off mistake I don't know if I could bare the pain I could cause him by telling him so I think if it was a one off I would not mention it to him; living with having done something like that would be punishment enough. Having said all that I don't know how I would cope with such a secret. I abhor cheating and this discussion has strengthened my resolve never to do it in the first place!

Hello my dear Lindery Ji, We are bonded since 40 years now and never thought of cheating ecah other. we just do not want to give any such idea in ourselves. Apart from that, i keep asking my hubby, when he would take me to taht Lady, with whiom he keeps telling my many remenicenses. may god bless you and have great time.

Usually when you are in a relationship or are married cheating does not occur. But the possibility can not be denied. Sometime you are in a fix and despite your wish not to involve in you do it. And this could happen to either of you. If at all this happens in my view it is better you keep it secret. Now if you hide it it could pich your conscience but remember this has not harmed any one. Since this has not harmed why on earth you communicate about the event to your partner and spoil the relation? Take this as an accident and try to bury it for once and all. Surely there should be openness but there are hardly few people who would stand this biting truth once you reveal it. What you gain telling him? you rather lose a sweet relation. Besides there should be something for yourself. I respect your sense of commitment and loyalty. But remember the purity is more in the mind than in the body.

Of Course NOT!!! I will never tell my partner if I cheated on him.... that's the whole point of 'cheating' .... not that I agree with this behaviour... but sh*t happens sometimes, we are all human being after all, we make stupid mistake... but sometimes something is better to keep it to yourself, it will make both party happier.

I have never cheated on my husband. However he has given me permission to sleep with whomever I want. I have not done so. As I don't believe in marrying someone, than sleeping with another. Thats just gross in my opinion.

i think some things are better kept to yourself. by telling then it's going to cause nothing but trouble, they will never trust you again & i wouldn't blame them. u are just wanting to ease your conscience by doing that. it's bad enough that u did it why hurt your partner bt telling it. if they find out that's a different story. sure wouldn't lie to them. if u never had done it then u wouldn't have this worry. shame on you.

I have not and will not cheat my partner.We have been married for almost 35 years and I can swear I have not even thought of having any relationship with any other man.During those years that he was out of the country for work there was some temptations too but prayers helped me.

Well no i dont think i would ever cheat.. but you never know what could happen in the future lol but nah dont think i would lol And i dont see why a person would cheat and then tell them.. you might as well dump the person and then go off with the other person.. otherwise you would probably get dumped anyway. Though yeah if you were feeling guilty i guess i see why you would tell the person... but the its was just stupid to do it in the first place and then feeling guilty about it.

HOnestly i done, cheating with my girlfriend.I tell all about what i have done and she slapped me over for the prize.I dont lie to her and admitted my mistake.We cool off, i think two months after she found out that truth that it is a set up with me with the girl that is aslo an ex girlfriend of mine for the purpose of her revenge.

i haven't cheated but should it happen, I will keep it to my self as much as i can..........because in truth i don't want to hurt him and as long as he knows nothing he will not be hurt. But when it comes to the point when our relationship will be jeopardized, i will eventually tell the truth if it means saving our relationship.