Can Guys be just a friend?
By Calsuli
@Calsuli (14)
United States
February 2, 2009 9:36pm CST
I have many guy friends. All of them are great and have always been there for me. I recently started dating one of my good friends. He said to me point blank that guys cannot be just friends. Apparently guys are not made to be that kind of support. They just cant do it. Is it true? Do all my really close guy friends really have feelings for me? It would change my prospective to know that all guys cant be just a friend!!!
2 responses
@beautifulxangel (4)
• Australia
3 Feb 09
I believe guys can be just friends. I was a part of a big group of friends, and I was friends with a lot of guys. I started dating one of them and it got serious at one stage and when it all went pair shaped and it all got a bit tense between myself, my ex and our friends. Some accepted it and some didnt but I think that is a guy thing. They look out for their mates.
If things turn ugly between you and the guy you are with, be prepared that there could be a backfire. Guys will be guys and almost all of them follow the saying bros before hoes. now i am not saying you are a hoe, its just a saying.
but yes it is more than possible for guys just to be friends with girls without having feelings. Who knows most of them might even think of you as a sister. its not all about crush's, lust and love.
maybe it would be good to sit down with them and just talk to them about it and see what happens and what can be done about it.
@Jlyn22 (204)
• United States
3 Feb 09
Some guys can some guys cant. Its really hard to tell if a guy will be a good friend until you get in a relationship, if they actually want to be friends they will stick around even if you have a boyfriend but if they are only friends with you to try and get something out of it then they probably wont stick around after your with someone else. Thats what happend to me, I dont have very many friends that are girls and all of my guy friends stoped talking to me once I got in a relationship and once I got engaged they were seriously gone for good.